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Jibbed it?


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 3:57 pm
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The people await

No news, could be good or bad


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 3:59 pm
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I'm betting on a no show.


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 4:03 pm
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I'm betting on a feelings not mutual. I can't think of a single time either my friends or I have got into a relationship with any girls who we've been close friends with for years. Slept with / kissed etc when drunk, just never leads to anything more, normally you're "just friends" for a reason. Hope wellwellwell proves me wrong tho!


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 4:19 pm
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waiting for the outcome of this is actually driving me nuts.


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 5:29 pm
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(waits..)


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 5:55 pm
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I'm 99% certain that this is a massive wind up. The hopeless romantic in me wants to be proved wrong but the world weary sceptic is sensing approaching disappointment.


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 5:58 pm
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GET ON WITH IT.
And update please.


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 6:00 pm
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HES TROLLING


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 6:04 pm
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My money is on a long conversation, and tears as he realises she's right and he really needs to address the surpressed issues of his sexuality!

We won't hear from him, I'm afraid. He's thrown off his baggage and is right now enthusiastically singing 'I will survive' at the top of his lungs, on a sweaty dance floor with a Freddie Mercury lookalike


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 6:07 pm
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i think there's [s]three[/s] four potential scenarios at the moment
1. He's trolling
2. He's crying into his pint of gin to mend his broken heart
3. He's balls deep
[Edit] 4. He's balls deep in a lovely gentleman named terry (that ones for binners)

i await to find out which


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 6:09 pm
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nah, I like to think he's in full-on Shock'n'Awe, as trademarked by the mighty hora himself

It's Christmas; let us dream ๐Ÿ˜ฅ


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 6:09 pm
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1. He's trolling
2. He's crying into his pint of gin to mend his broken heart
3. He's balls deep

4. He's in the bath, bathing in a soup of her oh so not into him, values him more as a friend, creeped out by his confession, liquidised bodyparts..


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 6:11 pm
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๐Ÿ˜ฏ


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 6:13 pm
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Ok, so I just dropped her off.

It does indeed seem like I'm the gay best friend. I asked her if she thought we could be any more then just friends. She thought about it and said no.

I'm now contemplating if I should take no for an answer.....


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 6:14 pm
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yunki - do you need to add bananas for texture or will she go without ?

(I use the word "go" advisedly here)


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 6:15 pm
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awwwww, poor wellwellwell - off to the rohypnol shop for you, young man


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 6:16 pm
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๐Ÿ™

Take no as the answer. Or if not its time for a rohypoccino


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 6:16 pm
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๐Ÿ˜† This is where that classic line "lets not turn this rape into a murder" is appropriate.


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 6:17 pm
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I would butcher from frozen with a circular saw ala muddydwarf on that other thread, blend, and add tomato and non-vegetarian Lea and Perrin's (to help her 'go') for a Very Bloody Mary frozen smoothie


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 6:18 pm
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From one man to another - and I speak as a man of the world, drawing on quarter of a century of dating experience - I have to put a virtual arm around your shoulder, congratulate you on your tenacity and hard work and simply say "Go and bulb her best mate. Do it well, do it repeatedly and buy her flowers afterward".

Edit - if best mate is unavailable then her sibling/mother/aunt etc is also a viable option.


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 6:18 pm
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Well it got off to a rocky start, we went to Santa Maria for pizza where one of the first conversations was about how her and her friends were having a discussion if men and women can do things together and not be on a date.

Obviously she was firmly in the 'it doesn't have to be a date' camp. I nearly got up and walked out there and then... but once I negotiated that I decided that it was now or never. So I casually asked her if she thought that we could ever be more then friends. And she said no, and then she asked if I thought that and I said yes..... To which she replied that's really sweet.

Then went to the red lion for dessert before going shopping for presents for my nice. Then we shared a crepe before I dropped her home.

So usually for us we see each other about once every other month, but as I was dropping her off we discussed that we we're seeing each other again in 10days and she replied, 'good, that's not too long to wait.....'

It felt almost the closet we have been even though she said no....


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 6:31 pm
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At least you managed to spell crepe correctly ๐Ÿ˜‰

Please take the No as a final answer and go off during the Christmas period and find yourself a lovely lady.


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 6:38 pm
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Cut your loses, move on.

You can always re visit the situation/young lady in the future at which point you may get a warmer response.

Life is too short for hanging your hat of hope on any hook. 'she's looking forward to seeing you in ten days time"

Lose yourself in some meaningless and totally depraved sex then go and ride your bike and tomorrows another day.

Good luck


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 6:40 pm
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See my earlier posts: you've planted the seed, play it cool and let it do its job, it's working away in her brain as we speak. Sometimes it's a long game.

In the meantime, you're a free man, roll the dice elsewhere and see what comes up.


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 6:49 pm
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hanging your hat of hope on any hook

Did you invent that yourself or is it from a Jackie Collins?


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 6:50 pm
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Been there and go the t shirt.....

Although I have knocked several out thinking of her sister......


 
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Although I have knocked several out thinking of her sister......
Joan Collins ? Dates you a bit ๐Ÿ˜†


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 7:06 pm
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what's that movie where she's naked on that high swing..?

aaaah, sweet youthful memories


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 7:10 pm
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Good on ya mate. Now you know and you can move on (though as others have said it's a long game and who knows what might happen in the future, but best not wait...).

Glad she took it well even if it wasn't the answer you'd hoped for.


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 10:00 pm
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Now you know she's not interested, the best thing to do is go straight out tonight & plough any slut you can score.


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 10:25 pm
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Sorry mate... bad news... But... now you know.... It took courage and balls to risk it...

Well done fella.


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 10:30 pm
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you've planted the speed

He hasn't, she said no


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 11:20 pm
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so, now you can post pictures of her with impunity


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 11:26 pm
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Give the man some hope, the challenge was to keep this thread going to Christmas.

If there's another get together within 10 days.... then there is hope


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 11:29 pm
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i was going to go with something filthy and flippant but i don't think you deserve it.
well done on behaving how you have and altough i don't think you should pin too many hopes on it - all the best in ten days time


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 11:44 pm
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With this Freudian slip

closet

I declare you the gay friend she still has.

Now go and find someone for you. She isn't.


 
Posted : 08/12/2012 11:57 pm
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What you need to do, is get yourself home and have a rigorous session of cranking. I spent a good proportion of my early 20s cranking about unrequited love, and it made me into the man I am today.

See [url= http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=cranking ]cranking[/url] if you're unsure.


 
Posted : 09/12/2012 12:00 am
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what's that movie where she's naked on that high swing..?

Is that The Stud....(think that's the first thing I saw on video as a kid !)


 
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could be could be.. s'ringing bells ๐Ÿ™‚


 
Posted : 09/12/2012 12:09 am
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wear her down.. next meet in ten days.. stand her up an hour before as an old girlfriend is in town.. agree to meet the next day.. she ll be gagging to.. know what went on.. she ll want you to have respected her and gently let her down as you want your next relationship to be enduring.. like what you have with her.. back of the net
have no qualms about fibbing you deserve a xmas sympathy 5hag at least..


 
Posted : 09/12/2012 12:15 am
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Respect to the op for coming clean.

I'd try not to think about it too much, can **** your head up, or has done for me.


 
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what's that movie where she's naked on that high swing..?
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Is that The Stud....(think that's the first thing I saw on video as a kid !)

The Big Lebowski.

Maud's Lebowski is naked on a swing flicking paint onto a canvas on the floor to create art. Nothing sexual in that scene, Julianne Moore tough mmmmmmmmm


 
Posted : 09/12/2012 12:24 am
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I declare you the gay friend she still has.

You called it.

Also calling this thread a troll until pics are produced.


 
Posted : 09/12/2012 12:33 am
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Oh god, that b**dy "sweet" word was used. Soddin kiss of death that one when you hear it from a girl.

And of course in my, admittidly poor, experience, unlike in just about every rom-com you've ever seen, you only actually think of a witty, and oh-so-appopriate one line this-will-make-her-fall-head-over-hels-in-love-with-me thing to say, oh, about 15mins after you need to have said it to win the girl.......... ๐Ÿ˜‰


 
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