I have all sorts of friends, straight, bi, gay male, female. There's maybe 2 I'd want to bump bits with, and weirdly they're both very very straight. I've spoken (drunk) to one of them, and were on if it turnsout her (adorable) husband has done the deed on her ( hell freezing over etc)
I can happily go to dinner without thinking rude things about the person sitting opposite
humans aren't yes/no and/or. You'll never know someone totally. You can only think you do and the rest of that percentage is trust.
I'm well aware of this. I also know that she's about as likely to have an affair as she is to spontaneously turn into a penguin.
MrsCougar later after a platonic date with Hora.
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Unsurprisingly, the most likely candidate is an ‘old friend’ – yes, it’s that guy who is ‘just like a brother’ to her.Others might be ex-boyfriends or ex-husbands, colleagues or someone they have met at the gym.
Love that last line- might as well just say 'or a random bloke'
Nah- she thinks hes wet and abit crap with women. I think she sees him as her 'gay'friend (I always thought he was) 😯
Who knows- I'd better start smartening up before she turns into a Penguin
WeeksyI just don't see why anyone would want to talk to a girl apart from being polite or wanting to nail her.
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I have all sorts of friends, straight, bi, gay male, female. There's maybe 2 [u]I'd want to bump bits with[/u], and weirdly they're both very very straight. I've spoken (drunk) to one of them, and were [u]on if it[/u] turnsout her (adorable) husband has done the deed on her ( hell freezing over etc)I can happily go to dinner without thinking rude things about the person sitting opposite
Emsz so on one hand you say a friend, who is not even your sexuality- you'd be allover her etc...
but not even think about it if you were having dinner with her?
Is it the alcohol that turns them into Penguins?
Keep the ladies away from booze 😀 😆
You never know a woman completely. You mean you trust and think you know her. Its the reason why people get blind-sided when they find out their partner was having an affair.
True! Thankfully you always know a man completely. It's the reason women never get blindsided by their male partner having an affair.
Imagine those poor bi/lesbian women? They can never know or trust one another - both being women and all*. Deceit all the way down!
*that was not a setup for more knuckledragging btw
[s]Keep the ladies away from booze[/s]
Keep the ladies away from white wine in particular
Imagine those poor bi/lesbian women? They can never know or trust each other, both being women**that was not a setup for more knuckledragging btw
I was told recently by a lady- she never trusts bi-sexuals. They always run off with blokes again at somepoint
Rash generalisations FTW.
If they "always" run off with someone else, perhaps she should have a think about what they're running from?
I love the way women get all uppity about "equal rights" and "knuckle draggers"....
However when you take them out for dinner... you're getting your wallet out...
Or when you don't hold the door open for them, give them your coat when it's raining... or asking them to pick up heavy items from the shop.
Yeah, womens equality.... would be great if they REALLY wanted it... just not the bits that suit them.
from Woodys link up there^
Apparently nearly half of women in relationships have a back-up bloke – a man waiting in the wings in case things don’t work out with you.
A whopping 43 per cent of women have a Mr Plan B, according to a survey of 2,000.
Unsurprisingly, the most likely candidate is an ‘old friend’ – yes, it’s that guy who is ‘just like a brother’ to her.
Others might be ex-boyfriends or ex-husbands, colleagues or someone they have met at the gym.
Back-up bloke is typically someone she’s known for about seven years and there’s a one in three chance you’ve met him already.
yeah, I think Chris Rock has a routine along these lines, says its like having a D1ck in a glass jar, with a label *Break in case of emergency* 😆
btw, any womens reading this care to admit whether you have a back-up man and the reasons? fear of commitment?
I was told recently by a lady- she never trusts bi-sexuals. They always run off with blokes again at somepoint
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Hora, never trust what a woman tells you, remember?
Yeah, womens equality.... would be great if they REALLY wanted it...
I think the smart women do want equality... in pay, the employment glass ceiling and society in general
when you don't hold the door open for them...
They get annoyed by these sorts of women (unless it's a common courtesy situation).
My mother in law may have coined the phrase "Right to choose"
I remember a thread recently about who pays on a first date and I wondered if women were (in general) equally confused about it all. So consulted the Oracle - [url= http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/a1775484-What-is-the-ettiquete-regarding-who-pays-of-a-first-date ]Consensus is 50/50[/url]
Yeah that's what they say, but you know what they say about what women say...
Wonder if Hora fancies doing some more 'research' over at the Darkest side? We need to know about Lynx, why are women lying liars, and accepted toothbrush protocol on new relationships?
I love the way women get all uppity about "equal rights" and "knuckle draggers"....However when you take them out for dinner... you're getting your wallet out...
Or when you don't hold the door open for them, give them your coat when it's raining... or asking them to pick up heavy items from the shop.
Yeah, womens equality.... would be great if they REALLY wanted it... just not the bits that suit them.
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I'm well aware of this. I also know that she's about as likely to have an affair as she is to spontaneously turn into a penguin.
Sounds like a challenge!
*breaks out the [s]Sex Panther[/s] Lynx, and gold medallion/chest wig combo set.
I dunno, 'back in the day' when I was free and single I never had a problem paying for meals, it wasn't about paying for their meal, I just hate that awquard time in a restaurant between the plates being cleared, drinks finished, then the bill arrives, then there's a wait for the card machine. If it's busy (or sometimes it's worse when it's not and they don't need the table) it's anything upto an hour!). If the date's gone well you just want to pay up and head to a bar. Or maybe I'm just impatient and like dark corners of pubs and drink.
It only gets annoying if they never pay for anything, I'd be irked if they didn't pay for drinks, cinema or whatever else afterwards in return.
Anyone ever had sex with a Penguin? The way the OP is going that'll be his next sexploit.
Apparently nearly half of women in relationships have a back-up bloke – a man waiting in the wings in case things don’t work out with you.
A whopping 43 per cent of women have a Mr Plan B, according to a survey of 2,000.
Unsurprisingly, the most likely candidate is an ‘old friend’ – yes, it’s that guy who is ‘just like a brother’ to her.
Others might be ex-boyfriends or ex-husbands, colleagues or someone they have met at the gym.
Back-up bloke is typically someone she’s known for about seven years and there’s a one in three chance you’ve met him already.
There's some truth in this in my experience. There's always that one guy orbiting around who you just know desperately wants to bang her. Of course you can't say this. You must ignore the elephant in the room and respect her platonic friendship, which is fine, all in the game etc... but whenever you have an argument, she'll always end up round at his (I don't think anything's going on, just that he's the only one that would drop everything/drive 200 miles to pick her up etc, and maybe... just maybe, a little part of her might think it'll wind you up). When you suggest that she might at least give the poor besotted backed-up fool a handjob, you're suddenly the villain again...
Anyone ever had sex with a Penguin?
What kind of penguin?
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I sort of agree with Hora here (Gulp)...
You can't be utterly certain of your loved ones behaviour, however the more you know them the better you get at being able to understand/predict and hopefully trust them...
If My missus had texted me two months into our relationship to tell me she was out at a nice restaurant with another fella, I'd have taken that as an indicator that we were on shaky ground...
There's some truth in this in my experience. There's always that one guy orbiting around who you just know desperately wants to bang her. Of course you can't say this. You must ignore the elephant in the room and respect her platonic friendship, which is fine, all in the game etc... but whenever you have an argument, she'll always end up round at his (I don't think anything's going on, just that he's the only one that would drop everything/drive 200 miles to pick her up etc, and maybe... just maybe, a little part of her might think it'll wind you up). When you suggest that she might at least give the poor besotted backed-up fool a handjob, you're suddenly the villain again...
I did have one Ex, who started spending lots of time with a platonic male friend to try and get me jealous and crash the relationship, after about a year, I didn't bite and she ended up having to be honest and just say she'd had enough, which was fair enough...
It's a tactic either gender can use; you break no spoken or implied promise to be faithful to the other party, but sail as close as you can to that boundary in order to make the other party seem controlling/jealous/unreasonable, cause an argument or two and then end it because they're [i]a bit mental[/i]... The OP knew this when he took his platonic female friend out for a curry and a whine about his current GF...
Just crack on and put the poor girl out of her misery, do it via text if you like:
Ha! Thats reminded me- my ex had a bloke who was always round her as a friend. It annoyed me and so with that (and I met mrshora)- I dumped her flat. She chased me down the street, jumped on my back asking me not to end it (infront of EVERYONE) - then the next week she was cuddling him in the nightclub at the top of the stairs with the intention of being noticed 😀
Apparently nearly half of women in relationships have a back-up bloke – a man waiting in the wings in case things don’t work out with you.
I really don't get this...
I've been in a relationship with MrsPJM for seven years but I've always maintained a number of platonic friendships with women, TBH I've always had female mates, even when I was a single bloke.
In my single days, once I'd socialized with a lass for a finite length of time (usually weeks) and nothing happened then they'd move into the friend zone. At this point, the thought of sleeping with them simply becomes a tad weird. Of course, I have had plenty dalliances with women who ended up long term mates but very, very few dalliances with women who were friends first and then ended up being something more.
I'd hate to think that I had ever been someone's back up bloke...I think I'd be very disappointed if I learned that this was ever the case 🙁
I've been in a relationship with MrsPJM for seven years but I've always maintained a number of platonic friendships with women, even when I was a single bloke.
You're probably several Women's "Plan B" then, they probably all reckon they could supplant MrsPJM...
The best way to put them off will be to get a prominent tattoo of your missus face, preferably looking stern, or just a bit sad at having been betrayed by those close to her...
To answer the question on page 7- I don't have a "back-up bloke". I have quite a few bloke friends because I go mountain biking with them, but I have no plan B!
thanks for your honesty VP- you must be one of the purported '57%'...
the plan-B is definitely a real thing, and I've known female friends to openly discuss who there's is and so on.
as a bloke I'd personally find this attitude offensive and not what (we're told) 'real love' is supposed to be all about and all that sh1t.
any other female forumites care to add their views/experiences?
Most mens Plan B = anyone breathing.
NZCol - MemberMost mens Plan B = anyone breathing.
perhaps but there's not the element of specifics.
And
You're probably several Women's "Plan B" then, they probably all reckon they could supplant MrsPJM...
I dont think it works like that, the plan-B bloke definitely wants to be it (or rather plan-A)!
Vicky I am not sure how best to tell you so i will just blurt it out......I think it might be Hora
the internet has no access to the actual data nor methodology of said survey - lots of variation of number and location though. I am going with Bollocks so far in that figure - if it were true no one would ever be single would they.
Is there a backup to the backup bloke?
A sort of uber-Weasel
I am not sure how best to tell you so i will just blurt it out......I think it might be Hora
DenDennis- I haven't ever heard any of my female friends say they have a back-up bloke, so maybe it's rarer than you think?
Ok. Do we get backup-birds?
Ah. They are called the mistress/bit on the side? Well you have to be practical/keep her well-oiled?
Junkyard- I've never (knowingly) met Hora 😆
You wouldnt notice much tbh. Just another average Anglo-Saxon looking male in generic cycle-kit 8)
Everyone looks the same in cycling kit! Four of us went to the Alps this summer and we all wore black shorts and red jackets, so we're indistinguishable on the holiday photos, ha ha!
Most mens Plan B = anyone breathing.
Fussy bastards.
If anyone breathing is most men's Plan B, I hope they're a bit more discerning for Plan A!
If anyone breathing is most men's Plan B, I hope they're a bit more discerning for Plan A!
They are, Plan A is "women."
Everyone looks the same in cycling kit!
Its why you need to make sure your helmets are distinctive
You know, this thread has made me go from absolutely dreading my impending divorce, to thinking that I should stay with my wife just to avoid having to deal with being single again.
I wonder if the Benedictine monks are recruiting...
Careful you don't slip into any dodgy habits.
Willard - speed dating apparently is fun
