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[b]RUN!!! [/b]
Bin that one!
[i]Mrs Zip reckons she has issues.
Pretty soon after we met she wanted one of my t shirts for under her pillow as she liked my smell.[/i]
Mrs Zip asked for that though. This is like you leaving one of your sweaty t shirts under her pillow without her asking, and then wondering why she's being weird when she complains about it.
Lol
Went out with a female friend for a curry last night, she is aware of this female friend who is only a frend.
Why would you want a female friend ? I'm in the 'no such thing as friends of the opposite sex' camp.
I just don't see why anyone would want to talk to a girl apart from being polite or wanting to nail her.
ok you moving stuff in and buying the toothbrush is a bit weird and premature. At 39 her not expecting you to have female friends and go out with them socially is very immature ,caveat think through your actual words when you told her you went for a curry with a mate , you did not try to make her jealous or insecure did you?
Have we discussed the merits of using a tried and tested STW rohypoccino to calm her down yet? Surely that is the obvious answer?
"Melt down"- ok I see you now OP.
The womans come out of a marriage/divorce and its not unreasonable for her to feel alittle down/alittle weary of moving too quick and possibly worry about trust. Why is this melt-down?
She might also be thinking 'is he really just friends with her'? Theres you thinking 'is there another bloke'?
Plus- nothing wrong with taking a member of the other sex out for dinner for a purely platonic-friend. However in the early stages of a relationship- it can be viewed as odd.
Maybe she deserves someone else tbh.
As a side-note: You can 'only afford Lynx' yet you have a iPhone 😆
She doesn't see the relationship as serious enough for you to leave a toothbrush at her place, yet it is serious enough to get all jealous and send you "WHO WAS THAT WOMAN" texts?
The only place I'd be leaving my toothbrush next time would be up her arse. Follow her ex-husband, and run away before it's too late.
I'm in the 'no such thing as friends of the opposite sex' camp.
Don't judge everyone by your own standards. I've got plenty of platonic female friends and I'm sure many other blokes do too.
Don't judge everyone by your own standards. I've got plenty of platonic female friends and I'm sure many other blokes do too.
Of course you do treacle.
I do! And I've managed not to sleep with, erm, most of them.
I've got loads of female friends who are "just good friends" as well.
Not for want of trying mind, which may not support Cougars argument, admittedly.
MoreCashThanDash - MemberI've got loads of female friends who are "just good friends" as well.
Not for want of trying mind, which may not support Cougars argument, admittedly.
Do you ring them just to chat about your day ? Or work life ?
Or just because you want a pint and fancy trying to get in their knickers ?
It is easy most men have a few platonic female friends often very good and close friends , most boys do not.
[quote=JoeBones said]UPDATE:-
She is 39, told me she was divorced, turns out she is only separated 17 months. She is good looking and viable however the melting down is doing my loaf.
Went out with a female friend for a curry last night, she is aware of this female friend who is only a frend.
She texted me last night and asked what I was up to so I told her the truth, woohoo, meltdown, texts saying shit like "why did you take her to a nicer restaurant than you took me etc"
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Great bun-fight. Can I pitch in? I (obviously) have no female friends at all, and if I did I'd be constantly trying to ingratiate myself into their shreddies or they'd be trying to get in mine (in my little made up world). All male - female "platonic" close friendships are the same, it's just that folks are honest about it to widely varying degrees
Now that's established, would you rather pork madam Boiler, or madam Cuzza?
Topics of conversation with female friends:-
Work
Politics
mountainbiking
relationships advise /bragging
childcare / will I please stop talking about my son all the time
activities :-
drinking
eating out
mountainbiking rarer now due to child and wife to go biking with
reading those lists above does make me realise how odd it is it is almost as if females are human too..
Do you ring them just to chat about your day ? Or work life ?Or just because you want a pint [s]and fancy trying to get in their knickers[/s] ?
Yes.
It is easy most men have a few platonic female friends often very good and close friends , most boys do not.
Zing!
I also have many platonic-female friends. However I wouldn't eat out alone with them. They have [i]non-threatening[/i] 'males' for that task.
You threaten people while they're eating? You're an animal.
Seems reasonable. Why would they need a threatening one?
(curse you, Binners)
We all know what I mean, they don't see you as a real-male, a sort of female friend who they know they can't see any sort of maleness in you. A sort on Eunuch male.
The OP appears to be a male but not a man. If he was a man- the said-friend would find him dreamy and yearn for him Lynx-like musk.
Saying that- give me that chicken leg you greedy cow!
Some of my best friendships are pleutonic ones with men
Which is great as im rubbish at relationships with them - and feel slightly reassured by this thread that im not the only one!!
"why did you take her to a nicer restaurant than you took me etc"
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We all know what I mean, they don't see you as a real-male, a sort of female friend who they know they can't see any sort of maleness in you. A sort on Eunuch male.
eh? No totally disagree!
they don't see you as a real-male, a sort of female friend who they know they can't see any sort of maleness in you. A sort on Eunuch male.
Jealousy doesn't become you, Hora.
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No totally disagree!
So a part of you fancies your male friends? 😉
and the rest want to shag her 🙂
I just read all 5 pages of this, some responses are brilliant. 😆
I dont have to fancy someone to view them as masculine?!
I dint think they do weeksy!
I know I'm not alone but there are a few tiers to male/female innocent friendships in adults:
1. Man and woman have had a thing together and it just didn't work out- managed to get over it and are now friends.
2. Man and woman are friends - one is gay
3. Man and woman are friends - Man would if only she would/ask
4. Man and woman are friends - Its just a matter of time. Just get it done.
I'm firmly a '3'. 8)
*stares longingly at Hora*
if only he'd ask......
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Christ, yesterday it was Miketually and Junkyard, today it's Binners and Hora. This is going to take a catering pack of mindbleach and some industrial grade wire wool.
AH excellent it has finally been Horaed
Sage words as always on relationship issues
Most adult men have adult friendships with women without wanting to bump bits
That means half of STW wont 😉
Binners - hora's waiting for you up on the mountain 🙂
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So far the run for your life advice seems the most sensible
As a wise man once said, there are many fine women in this world, but not all of them bring you lasagne to work.
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General fact of life:
Single, fit, mentally stable - pick any 2 from 3
That's blokes too BTW 🙂
OP - only you can decide if she's worth it or not; personally I think it sounds like hard work and life's too short to have to deal with that sh*t.
Late to the party, but all I can think is - if she is this nuts at 39, what the hell will she be like at 49??
Get rid. Distance relationships are crap anyway.
However you list "friendships" Hora, it all boils down to one person in the scenario wants to ride the other. If only they would let me / were not gay / enough alcohol / opportunity.
Billy Crystal nailed that one to the mast in that seminal 80s chick flick. When Harry Smashed Sally.
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