Been with the latest SO for 9 weeks, we get on a really well and enjoy each other's company.
She lives far away and our relationship involves one of us (depending who's house we are at) getting up at stupid o'clock to go to work.
That's cool.
To make things easier I left a spare iPhone charger, a toothbrush and a can of Lynx shower gel at hers in case I forgot one of these essential items for an overnight stay.
She stayed at mine last night and left me a bag with the said belongings in it muttering that leaving these things in her house "freaked her out a little".
Either she is about to dump me or wtf is going on?
After all she did tell me that she likes me a lot.
Advice appreciated!
She's a woman.. they're all nuts.
Accept she's nuts and move forward.
Hmm sounds like she's worried someone will notice the male toiletries in her house.
I'm a little old fashioned, but still wonder at the wisdom of rushing to the staying over stage in just 9 weeks. Far better to take the time to get all these things straight before the hormones cause you to try and run before you can walk.
Can I point out that once or twice in tbe dim and distant past I ignored my own advice. It was always fun at first and then very unpleasant and nasty shortly afterwards.
What tomd said.
You need to think about these things like lesbians do, on a second date. Never mind taking a toothbrush and your stud throb spray, take your cat. If you don't have one, buy a kitten.
Then you'll know where you stand
Women are all nuts, no doubt about it. Just laughing at the comments.
Do you think she has another bloke in the house?
Lynx is all I can afford btw
you moved in. she moved you back out.
forget about it.
enjoy the monkey-sex while it lasts.
I have a revolutionary approach to these things that i can recommend
[b]SPEAK TO HER[/b]
no offence but you want strangers to guess the motives of a stranger based on very limited information
all of these are plausible
1. she genuinely thought you left them there
2. you are moving to quick
3. its just casual fun and that is a step too far
4. you are moving too fast
5. she sleeps around and does not want to be caught out
There is only one person who can answer this and it is not the hive mind
IF it helps when i was young i used to over think things it rarely helped.
Do you think she has another bloke in the house?
Not when you're there no.
But maybe as you live millions of miles away and she's out on the alcopops with the girls.
@Joe, from your post I think you declined to ask her if that was OK ? IMO that was your mistake. Just keep at it. You could do the American type thing and ask her how she feels about how things are going, and the "are we exclusive" question having said first you'd like to be.
Yes @weeksy wins the internet with his nail-on-the-head explanation.
those are small items - keep them in your car/commuter bag and as Del said... enjoy what is currently on offer and be on the look out for other blokes stuff in her place 😛
Del and Junkyard are spot on.
and be on the look out for other blokes stuff in her place
you mean like stirring another mans porridge?
you mean like stirring another mans porridge?
She has a Spurtle for that 😉
Use her toothbrush/charger/shower gel - she'll soon change her tune.
Either that or, as above shes seeing someone else/doesn't want you there any more.
HTH
yip, will be awkward for her when her other boyfriends spot these! 😆tomd - Member
Hmm sounds like she's worried someone will notice the male toiletries in her house.
May I ask how you met this mysterious temptress?
Did you leave a beaker there as well?
Oh god, I'd forgotten the beaker story.
Acid fanjo 🙂
Did you leave a beaker there as well?
Oh comedy gold resurrection....
http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet_classics/a1875847-Do-you-dunk-your-penis
stw is slacking....
We need PICS to assess wether it's worth staying with her.
Enjoy it while you can. Your toiletries may freak her out right now, but keep the multiple O's coming and before you know it you'll have half a ton of her shite at your gaff and she'll have a key...that's how it works.
Next time you're round her gaff, tip your concrete in her shreddies draw, and carefully observe her reaction. Report back and we can score your chances for you
Worry is the interest paid on trouble before it is due!
She's made you feel like crap...
dump her.
She's made you [s]feel like crap[/s] ask for advice about girls on STW...dump [s]her[/s] yourself.
Freak her out by redirecting some of your stuff to her house, or ask her if she should be paying full council tax now that you're 'living together'.
Brilliant @ Chip !
Some people who live alone like their place tp be filled with only their crap. Its a territory thing.
why not keep your carrier bag of bloke maintenance stuff in the back of your car?
Also, as has been said, keep your eye out for 'not yours' pubes around her place.
and
.. wheres the picture, man??
Are there any bushes, trees or shrubberies around her place? All the best relationships involve sitting hiding in them overnight with a flask of coffee and a pair of binoculars. I've actually graduated on to night vision goggles nowadays
Thing is Binners, the OP is really having a relationship with the girl. Not just in his imagination.... 🙄
She is still in the stage of assessing you. i.e. decision stage.
I say get your money worth while you can in the event that you are not the one. Do it crazy ... I mean bang her crazy.
😈
Just talk to her. She might have had some weirdo freak ex boyfriend? Started out with lynx ( stinks BTW ) then moved himself in?
Or she's running 2 of you just for sport
Took my ex litterly ages to let me have a bit of space at hers. TBF she did live in a teeny room though
Wheres Hora when you need him? I think this thread needs his thoughtful, sensitive, insightful and considered opinion on human relationships.
As said above women are nuts.
As much as I abhor reverse psychology, it tends to win out in these nutty situations.
So, start suggesting that you are unsure where the relationship is going, say that things are too fast, etc.
If you just suck up her early whinging you will be dumped within the week.






