It does display a lack of empathy but it would also work
Just like will power will make you stop smoking or eating too much
I am not sure saying everyone who overeats [ or smokes] is somehow psychologically flawed due to issues. I am not sure that this is the epitome of understanding or empathy
I suspect they are as rare and atypical
They aren't.
And a lot of people don't exercise because they don't like it. What do you suggest?
I lick fatties..
I'm fat, hence the username.
If you're so small minded that you judge someone by their size then the problems yours not mine. I've come to terms with it and perhaps other people should. The question is, does it make you feel good to point out something to people? does it make you feel superior that you are clearly a better person because you're not as fat as them?
It doesn't stop me from doing anything so I don't really see a problem. In fact I dare any keyboard warrior to have a go at me to my face, i get the feeling the wouldn't be so quick to be so outspoken when the don't have a keyboard to hide behind.
It does make me laugh that people get taken to task on here for numerous infractions but "fatism" seems to be fairly acceptable
It does display a lack of empathy but it would also work
Just like will power will make you stop smoking or eating too much
It's really just the equivalent of saying 'cheer up' to a clinically depressed person though. Would you do that?
A clinically depressed person is ill. Fat people and smokers are not.
Of course it is not as simple as that, life rarely is. However those approaches , though difficult to implement and do, would work.
It would not be the best cessation or dieting advice ever delivered but it would work if the person did it. Just like me saying exercise more would make someone fitter it doe snot mean they would do it.
They aren't.
Have you got some actual data to back up that assertion or is it just anecdote?
And a lot of people don't exercise because they don't like it. What do you suggest?
Dont consume more calories than you use?
An eating disorder is most typically a symptom of a deeper psychological issue, a derived bit of compulsive behavior in an attempt to either assert some sort of control or as a personal copping strategy...
I suspect this is the primary cause of the vast majority of obesity....
[i]"fatism" seems to be fairly acceptable [/i]
there's a minority who seem to go out of their way to do this but as on this thread, most people understand that there isn't a simple cause to anyone's size (whatever it is) and behave accordingly.
The anti-fat zealots do seem to enjoy wading in with all guns blazing, though. A little too much. It makes you wonder what their real motivation is.
Have you got some actual data to back up that assertion or is it just anecdote?
Hard data like this you mean?
90% + of the overweight eat to much and dont exercise.
A clinically depressed person is ill. Fat people and smokers are not.
Of course it is not as simple as that, life rarely is.
And yet people (including you) keep making out that it is that simple. As we've already discussed, significant numbers of overweight people have mental and physical health conditions that contribute to their weight. Also socio-economic factors play a big part.
Bit disappointing to see you getting all Daily Mail over this JY. Next up are you going to explain why it's the poor's fault that they are poor?
Next up are you going to explain why it's the poor's fault that they are poor?
We don't need JY to do that, we have IDS doing it 24/7.......
good post cookeaa
Can we move this thread past the stage of "eat less, move more", the physics of body size vs diet/exercise are quite well established, it won't make for an enlightening discussion.
On the whole I think there are a very large amount of slightly overweight folk who are perfectly normal - they have junk food and advertising shoved in their face, and easy living on the sofa in a warm house, and don't exercise, and have a desk job. Normal human responses to their particular environment, essentially. Lazy? Maybe, at this stage, but so what.
Beyond that point is where the emotional issues and medical conditions (and health problems) start showing up. And where help not pisstaking is needed.
Of course it's not right to judge people for being overweight, but it happens all the time. I'm pretty nonjudgmental as a whole but I can admit to feeling a bit queasy when an overweight person gets in the jacuzzi at the gym, and miffed if I'm sat next to an overweight person on an airplane for example.
Why do so many people in this country not like exercising. In Scandinavia it seems everyone exercises, whether it be cycling skiing nordic walking etc?
Is it lack of facilities, cost, weather or something else?
Addressing the OP though, I dislike all sorts of people for all sorts of reasons, and reserve the right to do so 🙂
But I don't usually point it out to them, as I don't feel that's how I should behave in a polite society. So in summary, it's wrong 👿
And as pointed out ad nauseam, it won't usually help anyway.
IMO.
As an ex seriously big unit who spent years getting bullied at school for being fat...no...banter and fatism doesn't encourage a healthier lifestyle. It does however fk up your self image so badly that now I still see myself as morbidly obese even when logically I know I'm not too bad. Banter amongst mates is very different, but you need to know someone well to make sure that it stays as banter and doesn't press some deep down buttons that'll cause hurt. Like all banter really. Just treat folks with respect where possible.
Bit disappointing to see you getting all Daily Mail over this JY. Next up are you going to explain why it's the poor's fault that they are poor?
Sorry for disagreeing with you - who should i compare you to for disagreeing with me - Richard littlejohn 🙄
Indeed a shame to see that.
I find it quite strange that the view that they many have mental issues is the sympathetic one here.
I am sure its true for some but its atypical.
We live in a world that over consumes generally be it white goods, bike bits or food.
The solutions are both easy to see and hard to implement.
Sorry for disagreeing with you - who should i compare you to for disagreeing with me - Richard littlejohn
Surely Polly Toynbee would have been the correct comparison - seeing as I am arguing on the side of PC/handwringing and you are on side with the Daily Mail. 😉
But seriously JY - what is the difference between telling the poor to work harder, telling the depressed to pull themselves together, and telling overweight people to eat less and move more? I don't really see much of a difference TBH. All might well be a solution to the issue, but none are particularly helpful to anyone.
I find it quite strange that the view that they many have mental issues is the sympathetic one here.
I am sure its true for some but its atypical.
This sums it up pretty well IMO:
On the whole I think there are a very large amount of slightly overweight folk who are perfectly normal - they have junk food and advertising shoved in their face, and easy living on the sofa in a warm house, and don't exercise, and have a desk job. Normal human responses to their particular environment, essentially. Lazy? Maybe, at this stage, but so what.Beyond that point is where the emotional issues and medical conditions (and health problems) start showing up. And where help not pisstaking is needed.
Big +1 from me.
As an ex seriously big unit who spent years getting bullied at school for being fat...no...banter and fatism doesn't encourage a healthier lifestyle. It does however fk up your self image so badly that now I still see myself as morbidly obese even when logically I know I'm not too bad. Banter amongst mates is very different, but you need to know someone well to make sure that it stays as banter and doesn't press some deep down buttons that'll cause hurt. Like all banter really. [b]Just treat folks with respect where possible.[/b]
Well said. I don't imagine having people repeatedly bleat 'eat less move more' at you would have been very helpful either.
Question to those posters on this thread who seem keen on retaining their right to practice [I]"Fatism"[/I] what are you really trying to justify?
So far as I can tell it's just an excuse to indulge in bullying people based on one aspect of their physical appearance, is this behavior that you actually engage in, in real life?
Or is it just so you can push back against the prevailing [I]PC, lefty, hand wringers[/I] on STW, and you'd never really abuse overweight people face to face?
Some people are fat because they can't be arsed.
Some people are fat because of some other reason.
Some people are bigger than others.
Some fat people are fitter than thin people.
Some people are naturally arseholes.
Some people give a shit.
Some people don't.
Just get on with you're own life and stop moaning about others, help people if you can, if you can't don't worry about it.
BTW, I am 16 stone, 5'9", beer gut wearing, pretty active 37 year old male, who will never claim to be the fittest out there but will always finish and usually not last!
Bear with me, and parking the whole bullying/abuse side of things for a second (for which there is no place).
Human process the appearance and attractiveneess of other humans - that's how we work.
Doesn't have to be a geneder specific thing, or involve carnal desires, it's just analysing certain features and forming an opinion of how to interact with that person. We've done it since we were throwing stones at each other. Most of this processing is done within seconds, it gets refined further as time is spent with others, and nowadays we can engage other tools such as conversation.
You just can't help this!
Sometimes, the image along of a person is quite 'extreme' and bang on cue, you form an view as to their features. If someone is so large you find them immediately unnatractive, you can't help it.
Same could happen if you saw someone anorexic - probably more so as that's a more shocking, less frequent sight.
If you knew someone anorexic, you'd really want to help. You'd have sympathy, your messages and suggestions would be [b]carefully[/b] thought out and delivered sensitively. That just doesn't happen with obesity, and that's probably half the problem.
Flame away.
- what is the difference between telling the poor to work harder,
Others control the means of production so it is not fully within their control to do this.
telling the depressed to pull themselves together,
they are ill it is not within their control
and telling overweight people to eat less and move more?
its hard but it is within their control
You could argue the others are as well but you would be wrong 😛
Big +1 from me.
I dont disagree but they could change - though it may not be easy.
I dont sit around mocking fat people any more than I mock smokers or people who drink too much.
What i do object to is the abdicating of personal responsibility for the state of affairs as it is generally within their power to change , if they choose to do so
No it is not easy.
its hard but it is within their control
You could argue the others are as well but you would be wrong
Well having been clinically depressed (during which time my weight went up a lot, strangely enough) - I can tell you that the answer to being depressed kind of [i]is[/i] to pull yourself together and cheer up. It's just that this is massively easier said than done, and to have people say that to you is incredibly insensitive and unhelpful.
It's also the case that for many poor people they could work harder and become less poor - however they are often hampered by living in deprived areas, parental lack of support/abuse, low self-esteem/ambition, peer group pressure, poor health, learning difficulties, etc etc
What i do object to is the abdicating of personal responsibility for the state of affairs as it is generally within their power to change , if they choose to do so
This could be a direct quote from Michael Gove talking about people accessing food banks (except actually he would probably be more diplomatic).
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-politics-24042446
If someone is too fat/overweight/unfit/weak/skinny to do something - it's not my problem.
If they want to do [insert activity] then it's their responsibility to get into a suitable condition to do so.
Harsh but true.
[quote=junkyard][b]telling the depressed to pull themselves together[/b]
they are ill it is not within their control
Speaking from personal experience (having been diagnosed by several GPs as 'depressed'), it is within their control.
[b]Sue W: [/b]
You are Paul Sherwen and I claim my £5She's got fantastic bike handling skills as she comes from a mtb background, so is an excellent descender.
What i do object to is the abdicating of personal responsibility for the state of affairs as it is generally within their power to change , if they choose to do so
No-one's doing that on this thread. Some people may do it, I don't know.
However, taking responsibility for a problem isn't the same as solving it.
Speaking from personal experience (having been diagnosed by several GPs as 'depressed'), it is within their control.
How many diagnosis of 'Clinically Stupid' did you get.
Whilst the 'abuse' fat people get might do nothing but mess with their heads, I wonder if observing the abuse keeps some thinner folk on the straight and narrow.
At the weekend I was dying a quiet death in the run section of a race when a loud South African voice from behind me said "Make way people - fully grown bison coming through giving it some for the bigger guy- out of the way you scrawny antelope!" He thundered through - a big lad both in stature and girth but clearly pretty fit. Made me proper laugh!
If you knew someone anorexic, you'd really want to help. You'd have sympathy, your messages and suggestions would be carefully thought out and delivered sensitively. That just doesn't happen with obesity, and that's probably half the problem.
I’ve experience of anorexia with close friends and I think you’re wrong. There is just as much criticism (if not more IMO) of underweight people it’s just that there are less of them about. Some of the comments are similar, ‘just eat a few pies’, ‘skinny bitch’ etc. but then there’s the nasty Auschwitz / junky related stuff.
And in a similar way to how overweight people with medical conditions are lumped in with the people who could do something about it if they want, “skinny” people are lumped together with people with eating disorders. My wife is considered “skinny” by most people; and often gets snide remarks about being anorexic / bulimic which she isn’t (or ever has been).
If being fat was purely to do with lack of self control, then people must have had a hell of a big change in their quantity of self control in the last 20 years. Particularly given the evidence that activity levels haven't changed anywhere near enough to explain it.
There are so many factors that make it hard for people to lose weight, and some are very counterintuive, like zero calorie diet drinks making you fat (thought to be because the artificial sweetness stops you tasting sugar so well, so you eat more of sweet things) and all that crazy stuff.
Yes. No-one really knows exactly what's going on inside our bodies currently - apart from STW of course, they're all experts.
Oh and there's loads of evidence that one of the key things stopping overweight people exercise is that they don't like the thought of people seeing them exercise. So people calling other people fat is likely to make them less likely to exercise.
Although I find it hard to understand how complicated it is just not to say nasty things to people just because that is a nasty mean thing to do, not because of any wider societal reasoning.
I've heard it all now!! 😀 Nothing to do with the supersize fries & burger being consumed along with that "diet" drink of course! It's pretty obvious that portion/packet size has increased massively in the last 20/30 years or so. eg when I was growing up, if you wanted some crisps, you had a small bag of crisps. There weren't these massive "sharing" bags you get now (which people seem more than happy to consume on their own!)like zero calorie diet drinks making you fat
I think the most popular fast food going way back was fish and chips. Portion sizes were always pretty big there I reckon. You get way more chips from the local chippy than you do at McDs.
Fish & chips will fill you up though - IMO it is not an unhealthy meal (in moderation of course). I would not be surprised if there were the same (or more) calories in a Maccy D's due to the amount of sugar they put in the burger/bun/drink, plus you will probably want to eat again sooner.
EDIT: if you believe these people [url= http://www.federationoffishfriers.co.uk/pages/nutritional-info-605.htm ]http://www.federationoffishfriers.co.uk/pages/nutritional-info-605.htm[/url] there are indeed less calories in a portion of fish and chips than a (much smaller) large Big Mac meal. Generally the real danger of processed foods is the amount of added sugar/fat/god knows what.
You can't buy supersized MaccyD's anymore, I've tried.
but the poorest in society are the most likely to be obese
Agreed. Decent quality food is expensive.
When I was at my poorest, I was cooking chili and rice with pitta for less than £1 a portion, and I eat huge portions.
Perhaps the reasons why people are obese [i]and[/i] poor are the same?
Either way, telling people they don't have to be responsible for their own weight because they're skint is not going to help anyone.
I think its fair to say a healthy diet and lifestyle is both cheap and available to everyone.
You live in an ethically reared ivory tower. There are many reasons why, but that sweeping statement appears to be made from a very nice place indeed.
Most entertaining part of this thread is trying to pick out the trolls from the genuine pricks.
Either way, telling people they don't have to be responsible for their own weight because they're skint is not going to help anyone.
Lucky no-one is doing that then eh?
[quote=avdave2]How many diagnosis of 'Clinically Stupid' did you get.
None I'm afraid - but did get recommended plenty of pills.
its the pills that tend to make me depressed.
grum - MemberLucky no-one is doing that then eh?
Just alluding to it then. 🙂
For the hard of thinking, looking at the reasons why things might happen isn't the same as taking away personal responsibility.
I'm overweight...
I'm having a large Dominos tonight...
I'd love to care.... but i just don't.
I trained hard today... i'll train hard tomorrow...
Friday... i'll still be overwieght...
The Dominos will still have been lovely 🙂
