[Closed] Ever tempted to, umm, "play away from home"?

Yes (In answer to the post not the title)

There's enough bother with just the one, two on the go would be a complete nightmare!

Temptation is fairly normal, declining was definitely right.

Well, I know it was the right choice really.

I think it was the novelty and shock of another woman expressing an interest to be honest.

That makes sense to me....

I think what we all need to know is: was she hot?

Joking aside, you did the right thing, the grass is always greener etc etc.

this thred needz pitchurs

A serial philanderer once told me the secret to an affair was to make sure you had less to lose than the other participant.

I told him he was a sociopath.

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Yeah, photos aren't happening.

Despite a spot of google stalking on the way home.

Anyway, Scottish lasses are loons IME, but stil, what if's and that.

I am a middle aged bloke BTW, not a teenager as you might have thought from these posts. So appreciate the consequences of my actions.

Personally I'd go home, wake Mrs mW shouting "see me. I've still got it and I don't even have to try" whilst doing a little sexy dance. That would be enough excitement for me.

If you are very happy in your current relationship then you have done the right thing.

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Personally I'd go home, wake Mrs mW shouting "see me. I've still got it and I don't even have to try" whilst doing a little sexy dance.

Instead she gets all pissy, about how you shouldn't be attracting the attention...

definately the right choice.. in a previous relationship i could never say no and the deceit is a heavy burden to maintain, so much so that i finished with the mrs and the 'extras' just for peace and quiet. resloved that next time around i wouldnt even smile at anyone.. best move i ve ever made

You could have run into battle skyclad yet instead you went home in your mothers wee slip.

Clearly, the issue with you is that your selfish. What you should have done is surprised your partner of 20yrs with a threesome.

You could have thrown the sqirrel up the tree yet instead you rode the shame ferret to freedom.

You could have thrown the sqirrel up the tree yet instead you rode the shame ferret to freedom.

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OP do you want to die a good man or do you want to die having lived a good life?

Its not sexual relations if she felates you. So you could have gone home and looked your wife in the eye and said 'I did not have sexual relations with that wowan'.

I did not have sexual relations with that wowan

Wowan is a small rural township in the Shire of Banana in Central Queensland

Personally I'd brag about such an achievement.

You answered it yourself in your OP

And very happy

So you could have gone home and looked your wife in the eye and said 'I did not have sexual relations with that wowan'.

It would have been rude not to.
You obviously regretting the opportunity now though..

Shire of Banana

Is that populated by exceptionally randy hobbits?

I've just seen someone go through the same battle - this week I had a visitor from Zimbabwe (happily married with kids) who has been in touch with an old school friend. She is married to the playboy son of a minister who has gone back to whore it up in Harare and dumped her here in Manchester where she is bored and lonely. She has made it clear to my visitor that anything is possible and when she discovered he was in town, tried to persuade him to leave the hotel I had arranged and go and stay at her place. In the end we arranged to meet her at Piccadilly station for a coffee before he took a train; she spotted us driving in to the car park and was all over him the second he stepped out of the car. She was a rather, er, cuddly girl with lovely coffee skin and if I wasn't married I admit that I'd be tempted to offer her some "company"..... Anyway he resisted but rang me later from the train in a state of near shock at how forward she had been, mixed with relief that he had managed to stay out of her grasp.

I've just seen someone go through the same battle - this week I had a visitor from Zimbabwe (happily married with kids) who has been in touch with an old school friend. She is married to the playboy son of a minister who has gone back to whore it up in Harare and dumped her here in Manchester where she is bored and lonely. She has made it clear to my visitor that anything is possible and when she discovered he was in town, tried to persuade him to leave the hotel I had arranged and go and stay at her place. In the end we arranged to meet her at Piccadilly station for a coffee before he took a train; she spotted us driving in to the car park and was all over him the second he stepped out of the car. She was a rather, er, cuddly girl with lovely coffee skin and if I wasn't married I admit that I'd be tempted to offer her some "company"..... Anyway he resisted but rang me later from the train in a state of near shock at how forward she had been, mixed with relief that he had managed to stay out of her grasp.

What about 'the monies'? Do you want my bank details or what?

'Thinking about it' is merely proof that you still have a pulse.

Actually doing the deed however is at best bad idea and if you have kids together then you really do need to take a long hard look at your priorities and yourself as a person.

+ What docstar said, 1's quite enough hassle thank you.

Never tempted.
Haven't the time.
Who'd have me?

I pity my wife sometimes, poor girl.

What mupperwrangler said, but with one slight addition:

do the victory dance naked, explain you still got it and then indicate to your good lady what a sex machine you are, (and how you are ready to get jiggy with it right there).

I regularly try such subtle antics with Mrs G, which 99 times out of 100 does not work, but one occasion out of 100 leads to the no pants dance.

OP do you want to die a good man or do you want to die having lived a good life?

Hora considering there are other people and emotions involved, in this instance this is such narrow minded advice.

OP how would you feel if she did the same to you? If someone else fished in her salmon canyon?

It takes a big man to point a gun, but a bigger man to put the gun down.

Don't do it.

Hora considering there are other people and emotions involved, in this instance this is such narrow minded advice.

Its not advice. Its a comment on a forum on the internet.

If someone else fished in her salmon canyon?

Euphemism of the Week goes to Edward2000

25yrs married, never strayed from the path. love my wife to bits.

also, just think what kind of filthy person you are gonna be cheating with..... 😉

What happens on tour, stays on tour.

Chlamydia?

I've seen the aftermath of infidelity and it ain't pretty

Crewe is an unusual name for a woman.

TBH if I was going to cheat, I think I'd try to look further afield than Barbara from accounts in Swindon. If it all went to shit (and it often does) you don't want them to be someone who knows where you work and who you might have to deal with.

why risk 20 years of a relationships for 20 minutes of a **** ,regard it as one for the **** tank.

I've seen the aftermath of infidelity and it ain't pretty

Ok serious hat on. Ever been in the middle of an affair?

The maelstrom, the anguish, the self-torture, your life being on hold, your short-temper as you are angry at yourself and the situation in general. The countless secret conversations, the mind-bending talk of 'should we take it further', getting into deep and again the mind-****.

ton - I can't believe you've forgotten about that night behind Rooftop Gardens. Now I just feel used!

As long as

- no-one needs to find out
- you don't get any guilt on and tell your partner
- you take appropriate measures against babies and the bad AIDS
- the actual lies (rather than omissions) involved are small and manageable
- you don't make a frequent habit of it
- it doesn't start costing enough money to threaten your family's security
- you treat everyone you go to bed with with courtesy
- you aren't a massive whining hypocrite when you realise your partner takes the same approach

then I reckon fair enough. It's probably good for you, and good for your partner.

You only hear about affairs that ruin marriages. No-one ever hears about secret affairs that keep marriages together.

It's only a shag, lighten up and spread the love

OP

Anyway, Scottish lasses are loons IME, but stil, what if's and that.

I think you will find that Scottish Lasses are Quines,Loons are boys. 🙂

just think what kind of filthy person you are gonna be cheating with.....

Are you trying to dissuade him or encourage him?

- you don't make a frequent habit of it

- you aren't a massive whining hypocrite when you realise your partner takes the same approach

On those two points. Once you start where do you stop?

When your partner finds out- she most certainly will be sleeping with someone else too. Its a question of when, the whole process quick-started by yourself.

When you sleep with a different woman you will smell different. If that woman likes perfume then you'll have it allover you regardless of how you shower. It'll be on at least one part of you.

Vice versa is difficult to detect as we aren't covered in stinking scent in general.

Once you start where do you stop?

I don't know about you, but in my case my resolute willpower isn't exactly like a dam holding back a foaming torrent of female lust.

Taking up all of the barely-solicited offers of casual sexual intimacy (as the OP describes) that have come my way in the last 10 years would have resulted in approximately 5 separate off-piste sexings. I've availed myself of less than half of them.

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regardless of how you shower

I'm not sure you're doing showering quite right. 😉

I refer to the scene in National Lampoon's animal house when the devil and angel are having a battle of wills over what the guy should...you should of F****d her brains out 😉

Anyway, this colleague....is she still "lonely"?

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I don't know about you, but in my case my resolute willpower isn't exactly like a dam holding back a foaming torrent of female lust.

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Mine is. 😀

I also keep a shitty stick to hand with which to beat off (no pun intended) the sex-crazed women (and men - I'll happily turn them down too) who desire my body for their own sexual satisfaction 😉

Hora's love and life lessons make feel the need to put a firm arm around his manly shoulders and ruffle his hair. Great stuff 🙂

TBH if I was going to cheat, I think I'd try to look further afield than Barbara from accounts in Swindon

Me love you long time 😀

Seeing close friends going through this right now (everyone knows but him that she's having an affair with her boss, everyone knows but her that he is putting it around with a string of people he works with).

Yet you see them as a family and they pretend it's all nicey nicey - I just fear for the day their world implodes and their beautiful young daughter gets caught up in a shitstorm of hatred and fighting.

Yet you see them as a family and they pretend it's all nicey nicey

Maybe it is nicey nicey, maybe they understand their own relationship better than an outsider does ?

and ruffle his hair

GET YOUR HAND OFF MY GROIN.

Maybe it is nicey nicey, maybe they understand their own relationship better than an outsider does

Well no – neither of them know the other is playing away so what do you think would happen when it comes out? It is a relationship built on lies and dishonesty.

Of course I don't know the specifics of this situation, but my comment is just that there are a lot of ways to have a relationship, and they don't all have to conform to a happy families image of what's "right". You and I might find something intolerable, but others may see some sort of a payoff elsewhere. It's possible (and I'm not saying it is the case here, but it's not unknown) that they both suspect, but get an erotic thrill from it.

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GET YOUR HAND OFF MY GROIN.

buy him a pint first and he won't complain, don't worry 😉

No, she found out he was sexting with a colleague about 3 years ago, gave him an ultimatum about his behaviour (in fact she almost left him), then she decided to do it herself to get her own back at him instead.

From conversations I have had with him (and my wife with her) they both know that if the other found out that it would be the end of the relationship.

I worked with a girl who was madly involve with her fella. I think she honestly was/thought that. Yet she still sneaked around behind his back.

Why? Answers on a postcard. Weird.

Couldn't you just have gone half way house and left after splashing your magma around the twin peaks?

Hora's love and life lessons makes one feel the need to put a [s]firm arm around[/s] POLICE AWARE notice across his [s]manly[/s] shoulders .

Get your appetite anywhere, but always eat at home...

I think it was on Pistonheads where I first heard the immortal phrase:

"If in doubt, fap it out"

Which pretty much sums up the best course of action (alone)

fasthaggis. No. I'm still a geezer, not a grey empty-man past his prime like some seem to be.

My advice, rubber up that is al

I'm still a geezer, not a grey empty-man past his prime

This is the "mantra" approach to personal development in action.

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There's a lot of soul-searching on this English-speaking forum; I wonder how the French feel about it? Apparently they play away all the time.

I've had so many opportunities in African hotels but never done it - quite apart from the infidelity aspect it just wouldn't be worth the hassle as they are really only after a British passport.

that there are a lot of ways to have a relationship, and they don't all have to conform to a happy families image of what's "right". You and I might find something intolerable, but others may see some sort of a payoff elsewhere.

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I've got a couple of acquaintances who appear have awful marriages, just listening to how they treat each other makes me sad...yet it's quite possible they are both faithful to each other.

Contrast that with a good friend who on occasions is unfaithful, yet seems to hold together the happiest family I know.

Neither is right, but fidelity in itself is neither the key to a happy marriage, nor is it the destroyer in certain circumstances.

My own view is that you have to weigh up the pros/cons, and after a lengthy and generally happy relationship, for some people the years of guilt alone isn't worth a night of fun.

The problem is, rational judgment is difficult when you're a bit drunk and being come on to by someone. Most people I know who've cheated have struggled to say no due to the circumstances rather than simply going to try and find extra marital sex. For that reason it's generally best to avoid getting yourself into the situation in the first place, unless of course you've decided that it's something you want to do.

splashing your magma around the twin peaks?

Sorry Ed2000, that awards got a new home

" if in doubt, knock one out" Usually makes the urge go away! 😉

When away on business or at conventions, you do see married guys chasing women like its sport (probably is to some?) You have to ask yourself, how can I trust these guys in business, if they can't even be honest in there family life?????????? Sometimes it pays to be a massive wa#ker

just to add to that, 9 times out of 10, guys who blow there beans up some tarts muff tend to get found out or get her preggers...........

It's only a shag, lighten up and spread the love

Some of the terminology being used on this thread is pure poetry. What a joyous thing the English language truly is 😀

Look on the bright side OP. Theres always the internet. It makes us men like Hamsters running round a wheel...

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Friend of mine says if he cheated on his wife he would be betraying himself even more than he would be betraying her.

He loves his wife (of over 20 years) to bits, but also values his view of himself and his own integrity and honesty.

He is a modest man, but says he likes to be able to look himself in the mirror without disappointment.

..as he molests the cat.

Agree with midnighthours "friend". Tempted as I may have been, I don't like the kind of person cheating on my wife would make me. I value my wife and son far too much to risk it all for a knee trembler with someone who I barely know and could quite possibly be really shit in bed.
Seems like there are a lot of reasons not to, and only one reason to do it.

Nothing to do with my prev post, but a married male colleague many years back had an affair with a married female co-worker. Everyone knew they were having a fling as they were not bright at hiding it and enthusiasm was clearly felt by both parties until they agreed to leave their partners. He went home and told his wife and was minus a home the next day. His girlfiend however changed her mind at the last minute, did not tell her husband of her affair and backed out of the arrangement, which came as a shock to the boyfriend who had just given up everything for her.

Then she charged her boyfriend at work with sexual harassment, presumably either to get rid of him or to appease her husband if he had heard the rumours.

Next thing we knew the boyfriend was demoted instantly to another department, career and reputation tarnished. No wife, no girlfriend, no home, no career.

Buyer beware!

It always seemed unfair that he got the most punishment and loss as it was all rather one sided in that respect. Still, neither of them was very nice anyway - as people to work with generally.

but says he likes to be able to look himself in the mirror without disappointment.

That his sheafed weapon had only slain one woman rather than a pile of adorning slain women at his feet?