[Closed] Etiquette question.... possible lechery content..

We need a lady to answer really, but I can't have my haircut again today.

i'd ask mrsmw as she's a bit of a post feminist academic and i'm sure she could give an appropriately complicated answer

she's not here though so i'll jut continue to delude myself that it's done purely for my enjoyment

Assuming that "miaowing_kat" is a lady not a bloke who likes to where short purple shorts I think she may be our only hope for an answer....

Mmmm. Mrs crikey always chooses to err on the side of a less sexual approach to clothing, but I know* other ladies who dress with an eye on the effect they know it will have on men.
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* ladies I work with as opposed to any other presumed relationship..

I should have added a disclaimer - I was also wearing tights and was well covered on the top (though it was nicely cut 😉 )

I don't think I'm going to be able to speak on behalf of all the ladies out there... but I choose my clothes on what I think makes me look attractive (being an art student, I also like 'quirky' clothes, purely for the fun). I would rather men think 'she's good looking' than 'she's a bit of a munter'. and in an ideal world, the women would be thinking 'that's a nice top, I wish I had it'

Having said that, I've worn jeans and a tabbard and still overheard men 'leching'. As there was a strong piece of glass between us at the time, all it did was flatter, tbh.

don't be confusing crikey's deluded fantasies with the real world here, he'll only get upset

[i]crikey's deluded fantasies[/i]

I think I'm well aware of the discrepancy between mens ideas and the actuality!

...not to say I don't have deluded fantasies....

Oops, getting a bit sfb.

Thanks miaowing_kat

[i]Ok, how would you feel if the lady in question was your wife, girlfriend, lover, daughter, etc.?
Still ok for everyone to lech? [/i]

Wife, yes.
Don't have any of the others.

Years ago I use to have my hair trimmed/cut every Friday (as I use to drop off the Team pools'). And always waited for one girl. It was a small barbers (if anyone knew Leeds about 20 years ago there was a barbers shop south of the river, behind Asda's IT centre) and she was very short - consequently she got very close...

Most women dress to emphasise their good bits. However if their good bits are shown off too much it may become a bit on the tarty side.

I'm guessing she wanted you to look.
Now a quick look in my book is fine.
A drooling chap with a faraway look in his eye and a slightly evil grin, staring intently at the poor girl's breasts, who after all is only doing her job is not good.

I think she wanted a big tip.

I think she wanted a big tip.

Is anyone going to pick that gauntlet up ?

Remind me never to look at miaowing cats purple hot pants

http://secondillustration.blogspot.com/2009/12/oh-yeah.html

'spear him through the anus' 😯

thats a bit strong old girl........

she likes Shellac though so is forgiven

A mate of mine used to get his missus to shave his head for him. He then convinced her that to avoid getting hair on her top and getting itchy, she should do it topless. She went for it too. He was always sporting a fresh number one all over

Remember when you posted this a while back, thought it was worth a try

Complete knock back and just got told no way was she going to get itchy thrupenny bits

They get upset if you look.
They get upset if you don't look.

they just get scared if you look John

If they don't want people to look then they shouldn't stick them out in front like that.

The girl that used to cut my hair wore ridiculously short skirts. We had sort of this very conversation...

Me: Don't you worry about guys staring at your legs...

Her: [shrugs/] I've got great legs...

Me: Yes.., yes you have.

Right, Mrs Crikey has given me her thoughts...

She says that the lady in question will be assuming that she looks attractive, that she has dressed in a in attractive way rather than in a way to provoke sexual attention. She agrees that there is a component of sexy dressing in any given situation, but it will usually not be the main influencing factor in the choice of clothing.
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backhander - Member
If they're showing, they're fair game. If women didn't want you to look, they'd hide them away

+1. Dislike it when the wifes are on display and someone looks though - she's mine, all mine.......

If you really want to go for the gauntlet - ask her to shampoo your hair next time...

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[i]If you really want to go for the gauntlet - ask her to shampoo your hair next time...[/i]
[b]So I went to my local barbers[/b]

Note the abscence of any suggestion that I had somehow ventured into a 'salon'....

It's a barbers, for [b][u]men[/u][/b].

Sorry - my old local unisex salon was a much shorter walk than the barbers, and did a better line in coffee, cutting hair, and "delightful female conversation".

If you ask for your hair shampooed by a girl at a traditional barbers, you really are running the gauntlet. However, fortune favours the brave

[i]However, fortune favours the brave[/i]
Mrs Crikey, however favours the breadknife...

I'd say if there out she won't mind u have a sly look, if I want men to look at mine I put them on display, if I don't they stay covered up. Not rocket science. Just don't dribble if they get too close. 😆

if I want men to look at mine I put them on display, if I don't they stay covered up

TTIWWP.

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It's a barbers, for [b]men[/b].

where they like to hang out together and [b]bond[/b] (or is that [b]bone[/b] ?)

I have no idea what that means captain

Talking about haircuts - a true story. A family friend was once on a surgical ward waiting to be taken to theatre to have his hernia sorted. In the bed next to him sat a little old man quietly reading his paper, when in came a nurse with a bowl of hot water, soap and a gillette mach3 turbo. Curtains were pulled around the old man's bed, followed by a soapy sloshing, then a good ten minutes of scraping noises with the odd "Ouch!" and "Oops, mind how you go with that razor". The curtains were then pulled back and the nurse wheeled her trolley off into the distance back down the corridor. The old man said nothing and got back to reading his paper. Then, a few minutes later, the surgeon's entourage came round the ward and stopped at the old man's bed.
"All set for your operation, Mr Jones?"
"Yes, the nurse has been round and shaved the old meat 'n' two veg in the down belows too, thank you"
"What do you mean?" said the surgeon, "Your operation's on your thyroid gland in your neck?"
The old man looked puzzled and then said indignantly "Well, I don't know what you people do round here in the morning, I just thought it was all part of the service....mind you I did wonder why she singled me out for special treatment". It should have been our friend who was to be shaved prior to his hernia op. Well, it made me laugh at the time.
Apologies for that slight diversion. Please continue.....

does that count as an "extra" ??

Emma82 neither did I but Google is your friend....

TTIWWP This Thread Is Worthless Without Pictures

I think she wanted a big tip.

Is anyone going to pick that gauntlet up ?

seriously, no one......

anyway, I suspect the young lady in question feels confident in herself, and enjoys getting the attention of men. There is nowt wrong with dressing to please yourself, and others
However if you go in there and yell "I'm going in, pull me out when I've gone blue" that might be crossing the line slightly...

crikey - Member
Right, Mrs Crikey has given me her thoughts...

She says that the lady in question will be assuming that she looks attractive, that she has dressed in a in attractive way rather than in a way to provoke sexual attention.

Are women not aware that there is no difference between these two for men?

OP are you gay or have been gelded?

The way I look at it (so to speak) is,

If you intentionally draw attention to something, you automatically waive any rights you may have had not to garner that attention.

The fact of the matter is, a well-presented cleaveage is eye-catching. That's not to say we're all pervs, it's akin to someone driving past in a bright red Ferarri or something. If you don't want attention, you can still drive a nice car (to continue the analogy) without having to put 'look at me!' neon lights all over it.

If a young lady has an attractive figure and wants to put it on show, she really can't then complain if she gets admiring glances. If she's doing it to be 'comfortable' then she can still wear flattering clothing that doesn't advertise quite as obviously. I'm not suggesting that everyone who doesn't want to be leared at should wear a burka, more that there's subtle and blatent ways of wearing, say, a low-cut top.

All that said, sticking your nose between them and going "flubbaflubbaflubba" is probably to be considered bad form. Certainly on your first haircut anyway.

Just wondering how many hair cuts you would need to have to make the "flubbaflubbaflubba" moment acceptable?

TBH I think a quick glance and a smile to her eyes is fair. If you STARED at them she'd find it creepy. She'll clock your quick glance and love it.

Just make sure you haven't had a long beer-soaked afternoon, go in there and ask to redecorate or splash anything over her cleavage.

girl i knew was a hairdresser.a friend of her's who was also a hairdresser said a guy came in one day and whilst she was cutting his hair she noticed he was making a "repeated motion" under the cape they put round you. she gones bonkers and says "what on earth are you doing"! to which he brings his hand out from under the cape and shows her....

the sunglasses he had been cleaning on his shirt!! love it 😆

i dont belive any of this cr@p about "i woundnt look". youre a bunch of nancy's!
if you had a nice shiny ferrari, you wouldnt keep it in the garage incase any one looked at it would you!!??
MTFU!

Back to the original point, surely the young lady in question is in breach of etiquette, a code of social values put in place to protect your innocent morals against the continual onslaught from the beast inside you.

Next time you look at a cleavage be glad you don't live in Victorian times, or indeed certain less secular countries right now...

Just tell you have a hair in your eye and if she can see it...

I once read on the internet (so it [i]must[/i] be true), that pretty waitresses that wear low cut dresses earn more in tips than plain, conservatively dressed waitresses.

Obviously, this hairdresser is very business savvy and knows [i]exactly[/i] how gullible men are and is relishing all the attention (and repeat customers!)

However if you go in there and yell "I'm going in, pull me out when I've gone blue" that might be crossing the line slightly...

Breasts are there for two reasons:
1. To attract a mate
2. To feed the result
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