I had a strange moment today where my wife and a friend of hers both referred to me as an “alpha male”. I was surprised and said that I definitely did think I was “alpha” at all, they said “no, you definitely are… but not in a bad way.” Which was odd, because I genuinely can’t think of a good way to be alpha.
I’m pretty healthy, quite assertive about things I think are important, but alpha? That feels like it belongs to Jordan Peterson, Andrew Tate and that ilk.
I don’t really mind much, sticks and stones etc, but what do you lot think and feel? Does the word alpha need to be reclaimed? Can alpha be good?
The only thing in this house who thinks of me as the Alpha is the dog! Much to my wife’s annoyance 😀. Given the choice she will always snuggle up next to me. (The dog not the wife)
In the context of software, where alpha versions are unstable, missing important features, filled with flaws, and not fit for the public?
I can feel the big dick energy from here 😉
Just take the compliment OP.
assertive
Basically.
What is an alpha male personality?
An alpha male is a man who is highly intelligent, confident, and successful. Alpha males are generally considered great leaders and prefer to be in positions of power. Common traits alpha males possess include: Being in a position of power. Being comfortable with high levels of responsibility.
Does this describe you..?
I thought Alpha males are the strong silent types who you can rely on in a crisis. Not just the stereotypical types you see in movies.
I thought alpha meant "unstable, full of flaws, and not something you'd want the general public interacting with"
The only thing in this house who thinks of me as the Alpha is the dog!
Ha that's what she wants you to think.
Much to my wife’s annoyance 😀. Given the choice she will always snuggle up next to me
Clearly thinks you're the one in need of comforting/protection.
Hmmm, I think I’ve spent my entire life in Beta…
Your name Is Alfred and they are laughing at you?
The funny thing about the whole Alpha Male thing (see Andrew Tate et al) is that is based on wholly discredited research about wolves in captivity and bares **** all similarity to how actual wolves behave. And yet the stupid men's movement still use it. Because they are pricks.
Wolf packs in the wild are essentially a parental pair and their puppies
I'm with Klunk on this one, sorry OP.
Thing is, if this story is true, and the OP didn't seize the opportunity and immediately steer his wife and her friend into a threes-up then what kind of alpha is he really?
😉
If I was ever called that I'd be annoyed.
I wouldn't see Peterson & Tate as Alpha Males - More like Sigmas.
db's description pretty much nails it, and there isn't necessarily any negative to being an alpha male (and I'm not one!!!)
Perhaps OP was passive aggressive for being assertive.
The only Alpha that matters:
The funny thing about the whole Alpha Male thing (see Andrew Tate et al) is that is based on wholly discredited research about wolves in captivity and bares **** all similarity to how actual wolves behave. And yet the stupid men’s movement still use it. Because they are pricks.
Yep
best humble brag in ages.
Defo this.
My wife, and her friends were all saying to me "Oh sanername you're so ..... Well... Alpha"
I can feel the big dick energy from here
Me too. Must be because I've got my hands in my pockets 😉
Just take it that women don't view you as a bit of a wet lettuce and don't overthink it
Me too. Must be because I’ve got my hands in my pockets 😉
We've had this with a good friend of ours, he doesn't think he is.
Was born in prison
Used to compete in horse rodeo
Climbed Matterhorn unguided
Rock climber
Does axe throwing
Comes 2nd in local lumberjack challenge....to his son
Races motorbikes
Lead singer in a band
Deffo more alpha than me
(He is genuinely a super nice guy)
If you are an alpha male then you are secure in yourself and don't need to go around shouting how alpha you are.
Pederson and Tate are not alphas. They are inadequate boys who never grew up.
And yet the stupid men’s movement still use it
Well you learn something new everyday. That was the first time that I had heard the term "men's movement" being used, so I googled it, it turns out that there is such a thing. It's been around since the 1960s and 1970s.
And it is also apparently referred to as "the men's liberation movement".
I have no idea WTF it's about but it sounds rather tragic to me.
How come lots of people on this thread put Jordan Peterson in with Andrew Tate. Is there a connection i don't know about?
I don’t really mind much, sticks and stones etc, but what do you lot think and feel? Does the word alpha need to be reclaimed? Can alpha be good?
The whole concept as seized by popular media has been discredited. In genuine, human, terms you would be better off referring back to Rule 1.
How come lots of people on this thread put Jordan Peterson in with Andrew Tate. Is there a connection i don’t know about?
I'm not down with the whole social media thing, but I don't think this is referring to the cricketer.
Could be wrong though.
Alpha? It's all bullshit made up to help males not comfortable with their actual self to feel OK and less threatened by everything and everyone.
I tend to feel sorry for anyone who self-proclaims as 'alpha'...
If you always feel the need to be dominant in any given situation then you need to take a good look at yourself.
I always thought “alpha male” was like the leading male in a pack / herd in the animal kingdom.
I figure an alpha male (human) would be strong (in body or mind or both) and reliable with leadership qualities. Nothing wrong with the that.
But you might still be a %*$# 😉
Therefore referring to someone as an alpha male can be either a compliment or an insult - depending on who’s saying it and the context and tone.
An alpha male is a man who is highly intelligent, confident, and successful. Alpha males are generally considered great leaders and prefer to be in positions of power. Common traits alpha males possess include: Being in a position of power. Being comfortable with high levels of responsibility.
This describes it well and it is a very fine line between being the above and being a complete ****er with most failing and being complete ****ers.
The fact that it doesn't include caring, collaboration, helping etc,. says it all.
There's only one Alpha
Alfalfa male?
Sanername is Surfmatt and I claim my £5!
I would reply but I'm too busy swooning.
I have noticed the usage of the term has increased recently, with the looseness of meaning you get when that happens. It is fahion i guess. "Passive aggressive" used to be popular but that seems to have fallen off a bit.
I’m a happy Sigma, but have to periodically assume an Alpha role at work, but I always feel like a fraud and come home tired on those days.
Square peg, round hole.
I was called an Alfalfa male once,it didn't bother me at first,but then the seed of doubt began to grow.
i read this thread to the Mrs last night.
she looked up 'male types'.
she told me i am a Gamma.
Did they mean Alfa? Breaks down a lot and is a bit rusty. Welcome to the club
I disagree Ton,I think you are more a Getha male,a "Getha pints in". 😆 🤣