[Closed] Anyone had partner cheat and forgiven them

There i suspect many reasons why people are unfaithful.

If it's not to excepted by the other, or known about it's wrong and just goes to show how doomed the relationship should be.

If it's known about and excepted, then i guess so long as they are being true about their feelings for the situation, then who can complain.

I know i've now got trust issues because of it, whether past partners are doing owt or not. People can be just plain stoopid and nasty without even realising it.

And it's right in what has been said. Some that have been cheated on then go on to do it themselves as some sort of weird revenge thing.

they accuse you becausee they dont trust you because they know what they are like.
Would ring alarm bells for me if someone accused me tbh.

Seems appropriate 😆

To me it doesn't matter which gender the third party is/was, or even the fact of the sex itself, it's the lies. When your partner is talking to you and you're thinking "I have no idea if you're lying to me or not", trust gone.

Funny, over the years it has always been the psycho jealous possessive ones who have been unfaithful. All the shouting and screaming that I was playing away from home (I was not) and there they were, at it themselves! You gotta laugh, eh?

I think you've hit it on the head there Karin. It is the lies that I couldn't deal with. Or the lying for that matter. The physical act, while it is usually repulsive to think about, can be gotten over, but the lying 😐

Strangely enough I've been in one of the aforementioned 'two lady' situation, a long, long time ago. I wouldn't reccomend it to anyone. And haven't ever as such.

On the other hand, I've been cheated on once, she phoned to tell me, and then did me the favour of discharging herself from our relationship saying she felt ashamed, I was a better person than her, and she didn't think she'd done me justice with her silly, albeit drunk actions.

That was during freshers week...in my first year of uni. Quite the favour she did me there 😉

So out of 71 posters no one has had a relationship work after the event. Hmm. The odds are not in her favour.

Cheating is cheating, Enday.

She'd be down the road and quick - smart.

a conclusive insight into the male psyche providing you are reasearching mountain bikers hiding behind a keyboard.

I can feel an affinity to the subject after buying a secound bike, i just cant spend the time i want with the first one any more.
I keep riding the second even though its unforgiving makes me a bit sore, but it is up for some muddy fun with its big clearances.

Having said that they do both spend the nights together, maybe i should split them up to reduce temptation.

What do you believe constitutes cheating then fourbanger?

I'm quite straight about thinking that if someone enters into a relationship be it emotional or sexual outside that of friendship then it is cheating and they are therefore not someone I want to be with. I have, nor would I ever cheat and expect the same in return. I know most of my friends share the same thinking

Honestly? No idea.

I'd like to say I'd forgive however I don't think I'd ever forget.

Emma82 nail on head.

All these blokes posting with lipstick lezbo fantasies are only proving thier sexual and emotional immaturity.

fundamentally people 'play' because they are bored deep down.

Bored?
A total lack of respect more like. The relationship was dead in the water before it got to the playing away from home stage.

But surely hora if you can't 'forget' then the relationship is doomed even if you think you have forgive. Every time she's 10 minutes late home, has an evening out without you and doesn't pick up the phone etc etc, it would always be at the back of your mind that she was with someone else, regardless of their being a man or woman??

There is also then the revenge thing someone else mentioned...someone very close to me is sleeping with someone they aren't really bothered about and is risking their relationship and why? Because his partner slept with someone else (ONS) so to fix it in his mind he's going one further and having a relationship with another woman. very odd and not at all healthy.

Agree that there are a million different reasons why people cheat but if you don't love someone enough to stay faithful then leave them to find someone who does.

I'm going to back off now, cheating makes me cross and this thread is upsetting me 🙂

I worked with a guy who went home from work early and found his wife under their Great Dane.......... he didn't forgive.

So out of 71 posters no one has had a relationship work after the event. Hmm. The odds are not in her favour.

But perhaps the people that have forgiven and moved on haven't posted for one reason or another.

Great Dane = Jan Molby?

"Great Dane = Jan Molby?".... is he marbled with docked ears.

But surely hora if you can't 'forget' then the relationship is doomed even if you think you have forgive. Every time she's 10 minutes late home, has an evening out without you and doesn't pick up the phone etc etc, it would always be at the back of your mind that she was with someone else, regardless of their being a man or woman

Exactly. Sadly it wouldn't work. I've never been in this position however I'd like to think I'd forgive but It'd never ever be the same.

Once a girls head has been turned, only a spade can turn it back again.

I cheated on my Great Dane with a Poodle.

It was the hairdo that did it for me. I can't tell if the Great Dane has forgiven me, because it is a dog and can't speak.

But perhaps the people that have forgiven and moved on haven't posted for one reason or another.

Or they are grown ups who don't work out how to live their lives or advise others how to live theirs via the internet. 🙂

I cheated on my Great Dane with a Poodle.

My Bulldog cheated on me with a Shitsu, they had a kid which turned out to be a Bullshit.

I did think carefully before posting that, unfortunatly its true.

Cheating is cheating but then if one forgives the other then life goes back to "normal", after all you can only cheat so many times. 😆

Perhaps we need Paul Youngs input as shes ran off twice and is back with another bloke`s kid!