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Sharki I'm sure they'd have found it creepier if you just showed them the video afterwards...


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 10:56 pm
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No not you Sharki, you sound nice!

Skanky is a great word. Just the right level of abuse, not too bad but at the same time, to the point


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 10:58 pm
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I sound nice? Aww thanks.

Now where do we stand with that word?

NICE

When i was married and i used 'nice' to express my opinion on what her hair, dress, shoes, GF, lover, etc, looked like i'd get slated for it.

It would either have to be it looks lovely or erm it looks fantastic/gorgeous. Well anything but nice.
I couldn't even say it looked horrible.

Nice was deemed as meaning, plain, ordinary, boring..

Is this the usual response from girls when nice is used?


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:05 pm
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(as my speech therapist kept telling me...) women do tend to use a wider range of adjectives in normal speech. Men tend not to. Can't quite remember why.

Your wife of the time was just probably trying to get you to widen your range - but unfortunately doing it in a negative way, picking on what not to do rather then on what to do. Women eh??

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Rachel


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:10 pm
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there's loads of other things, too - men emphasise words using volume, women use pitch etc etc


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:12 pm
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"on paper" the whole lesbian affair thing sounds fun, but I think in reality I'd probably not be so thrilled after the initial excitement wore off and you realise that it's still cheating.


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:14 pm
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It think it may of stemmed from our primal beginnings.

Women would sit and socialise with each other whilst doing domestic duties. Whilst men would go out and hunt forage whilst just grunting to each other.

Women created a further range of words to use, so it's inbuilt in them to use them.

Men use the bare minimum and grunt the rest of the time.


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:15 pm
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'Nice' is only one step away from being okay.
'Really nice' has a bit more impact but clearly is not as good as 'lovely' or 'great' or 'fantastic'.

TBH if I tell a girl I had a nice date... I'm probably not going to call her again.


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:17 pm
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Men use the bare minimum and grunt the rest of the time.

lol - I know a few that still do!!!


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:17 pm
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"nice" can be used but, to me at least, it means something very specific - something like warm, comforting, safe.

edit - oo - just looked it up...

nice |n??s|
adjective
1 pleasant; agreeable; satisfactory : we had a nice time | that wasn't very nice of him | Jeremy had been very nice to her.
• (of a person) pleasant in manner; good-natured; kind : he's a really nice guy.
2 fine or subtle : a nice distinction.
• requiring careful thought or attention : a nice point.
3 archaic fastidious; scrupulous.


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:19 pm
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TSY. I understand that. 🙂

If i tried to use lovely, great, fantastic, she'd tell me i was saying it just to please her.
Therefore i developed a compromise between saying it looked great and her thinking i meant it looked skanky, by using the word nice.

I was never going to win.. Basically i lost 9 years of my life to a bitch who i wasn't meant to be with.

Moi bitter? NO!


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:23 pm
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I so wanna ask a question. But the mods will kill me LOL.


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:25 pm
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No go on, it'll be worth it. 🙂


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:26 pm
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go on....... do it!!


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:26 pm
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****ing hell Sharki I can understand why you just went off and rode bikes in the woods!!

She sounds like a right ball breaker... a bit skanky.


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:26 pm
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emsz - 15 min edit rule!! 😀


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:28 pm
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does that mean i have to keep refreshing my browser now????


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:28 pm
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I've not hit buttons like this since Daley Thompsons Olympics on the C64..


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:29 pm
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Do it.

Blimmey. DTO on the c64..i remember breaking countless keys and then joysticks playing that.


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:29 pm
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I'm trying to pre-guess the question...


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:30 pm
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Ok,
Blokes on here saying the gay girl thing is a fantasy. Why?


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:31 pm
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How long do I have to wait? 😉

Edit: I see emsz has put her question to the font of all knowledge STW'ers. 🙂


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:31 pm
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yeah - i wanna hear the answer to this, too


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:33 pm
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emsz - It's not so much a fantasy (IMO) but men respond better to visual stimulus. Women to verbal. If I'm being completely blunt I would rather see two women, than a man and a women. I blame Ron Jermey. 😯


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:34 pm
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I'm trying to pre-guess the question...

The question is obviously "what tyres for...?"

So, 1x Continental Rubber Queen + 2 x Schwalbe Nobby Nics?

Or 2x Continental Rubber Queens + 1x Schwalbe Nobby Nic?

Edit: I'm too fuggin' slow. 🙄


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:35 pm
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It's not the "gay girl" thing - it's the idea that a "straight" girl might be a bit naughty. Being naughty with another girl is OK (see 5thElefants reasons). Being with two naughty girls is just building upon that same reasoning - here's a chance to impregnate two women and double his genes distribution.


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:35 pm
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Me too. I'm so confused I might have to consult mumsnet, they'd LOVE this thread, right up their street


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:35 pm
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lol @ noteeth.

that's brilliant!!!


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:36 pm
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emma82. I've already put in on mumsnet.


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:37 pm
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Aleigh,I find I am in a heightened state of awareness after Round 1.As far as I recall anyway.

Have been cheated on twice over the years [in my 20s] but never felt the need for retaliatory actions.

Would NEVER forgive.Regardless if OH lickety-lib-labs or otherwise.


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:38 pm
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Me too. I'm so confused

What you confused about?

Men have an extra little brain to think about these things. Its found about 3 feet below the "normal" brain.


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:41 pm
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how little?? 😉


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:43 pm
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Well its not very compilicated


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:44 pm
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We only have the blood to power one at a time though.


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:44 pm
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Hmm good one emsz.

Some men would look at another man and compare himself to him, thus being a distraction to the optimum gain.

So by having two objects that they desire in the same scenario they can watch without those distractions.

Quite often i'd assume.;) Whilst watching a couple displaying affection of a sexual matter, the man would imagine himself as one or other of the girls whilst being able to swap between the two of them.

If they could manage to not compare themselves to the other man, then they could easily enjoy watching man on woman action.

Girl on girl is more for those who're insecure , perhaps with a small willy or just not confident in bed, perhaps even selfish.


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:45 pm
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actually, that sounds really insightful, Sharky.

🙂

Rachel


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:49 pm
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TJ I'm just confused about the cheating thing, not the girl on girl thing, I get that :p

Tsy- what thread?


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:51 pm
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Edit - I was probably saying too much there.

Emma82 - The Love Story thread?


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:53 pm
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Sharki ok, so am I right in thinking that it's actually not an issue that it's gay girls just the idea that one of them ISN'T a bloke?


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:55 pm
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Sharki ok, so am I right in thinking that it's actually not an issue that it's gay girls just the idea that one of them ISN'T a bloke?

That's certainly the way I see it. If the guy doesn't stand a chance of getting involved with either girl, where's the stimulation?


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:58 pm
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Has a conclusion been reached yet?


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:59 pm
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TJ I'm just confused about the cheating thing, not the girl on girl thing

What - why to some men ladies having fun is no threat?

I think it isn't really rational.

If MrsTJ had a drunk fling with a women I think I could forgive, with a man I doubt it. If she fell in love / had a full blown affair with either I probably couldn't forgive.

I guess the woman is not a threat. NO impregnation possible

It appears not to bee rational at all really.


 
Posted : 19/12/2010 11:59 pm
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C_G you gave us a conclusion a couple of pages ago about it not being black & white. Not really sure what we're talking about now...


 
Posted : 20/12/2010 12:01 am
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[i]I guess the woman is not a threat[/i]

Unless she's far better at going down on your G/F than you are... 😀


 
Posted : 20/12/2010 12:03 am
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No we did cheating.

Conclusion: it doesn't matter if it's with another girl or a boy, she's skanky. 🙂


 
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