[Closed] 8-year-old's inappropriate internet usage (boob content)

Where the seeds of thought started.

He's a dude. Do I need to look any deeper than that?

To be honest I'd be asking more questions of yourselves as parents an why you hadn't thought of putting some security on your Internet before now*

Don't bother, if he can't get porn on his own he'll just get his mates to email it to him. Educate him, quiet talk about what's on the net, the possible dangers, etc. And if you're worried about it move the computer to a more public area of the house.

More importantly I'd want to find out where/how he arrived at this search activity. Where the seeds of thought started.

Perhaps, just perhaps.....

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I'd want to find out where/how he arrived at this search activity.

Cos he's got eyes and ears and lives in the world?

You can't fight it. Why bother? It's part of life.

When I was that age, I was curious about all things, but there was nothing pervy about sexy stuff, cos it was meaningless to me. I was not equipped to get turned on. Sex was something that grownups did, along with other strange things.

I'm honestly surprised that parents are allowing their children uncensored and unsupervised access to the internet. 😯

Perhaps 2 girls 1 cup would put him off for life?

I'm honestly surprised that parents are allowing their children uncensored and unsupervised access to the internet.

In our defence, we don't usually. We're there with him almost every time he uses the computer and when we're out of the room for a few minutes we check on him regularly.

I guess he asked us when we were both half-asleep and we trusted him enough not to think that his morning would lead to nipple tassles.

Can I blame Google for this?

I'm sure there's a shonky legal firm who would be willing to find out for you.

I'd be more worried that he owned up & was crying about it. It seems to me that he's got an overdelveloped sense of shame already - are you Catholic? Perhaps you need to be a little more open in talking / displaying bodily functions.

If you're constantly checking in him (see the post 2 above), then you may be too controlling. Do you let him play out of doors much?

I'd tell him that there's nothing wrong about being interested in women, but it's best to wait until he's older, then quietly put the controls on the computer.

I'd be more worried about his spelling of naked...

We've just had another look through the search history and it's encouraging to notice that he spells 'bounce' correctly. And 'boobies'.

* Suspects that an initial version of 'the talk' is required *

I'm honestly surprised that parents are allowing their children uncensored and unsupervised access to the internet

Why? My eldest (13yrs) has a computer in her room: I've taught her about the dangers of the net, that you don't know who's on the other end, you don't know where any photo or mail you send could end up, etc. She also knows that if there's a problem we will look at her mail, Tuenti account, her telephone and so on. I know my daughter, and I trust her enough that I can't see any need for greater measures.

I'd be more worried that he owned up & was crying about it.

That seems to display a good sense of responsibility and honesty. And no I'm not catholic.

If you want to make it difficult for him to 'accidentally' find inappropriate sites you could change your dns servers to those supplied by [url= http://www.opendns.com/opendns-ip-addresses ]open dns[/url]

Not foolproof but it will help. Google also has safe search settings that include their others sites such as youtube.

I've taught her about the dangers of the net

Ditto.

Having said that, we've never upped security on Google. 😐

I'm with mogrim.

I haven't gone as far as to put the Microsoft parental controls on so I can see my sons complete internet history but he knows I can.

My daughter doesn't really do much on the internet bar moshi monsters but she's aware that she mustn't talk to strangers.

Internet history.... Not heard of private browsing or incognito or porn mode?

Handle it carefully though- its not a 'bad' thing that hes doing. Just waay too early. I'm not going to allow own TV signal or own internet access for hora junior. He can already open everything/navigate around at 2 so I imagine at 8 he'll be five steps ahead of me on Tech though 😯

Yep, don't fight it, roll with it. I put parental controls on when the twins were that age. I'm not sure 8 years old and wondering about boobies is much to worry about. My two came home from a Year 6 field trip with stories of one girl doing a lap dance. It's all just normal healthy curiosity, but the danger is that the internet contains all the machinations of the sewer that is humanity, so you need to restrict his access and talk to him in a trusting adult fashion. Let's face it, he googles boobies and comes up with tassles, yet only needs to hear a different search term from his mates to dredge up a bit of bestiality or scat... the internet isn't very discerning, so for his own sake and your peace of mind you need to address it.

At the other end of the scale I had a fantastic moment when I borrowed my 15 year old lad's laptop and discovered he hasn't disabled autocomplete in his address bar. That was half an hour's piss- taking and watching him squirm that I wouldn't have missed for the world. 😈

8 years old.... go for the full on sex chat, better the truth than believing babies are made when a lady blows on a mans **** surely?

The other thing is that my daughter also has a mobile phone, then we've got a tablet, there's the main home computer, etc. Life's too short to be searching out Blackberry, Android, Windows and Linux internet security packages - given how ubiquitous internet access is today, the [b]only[/b] real solution is education.

Still not sure about the bikini thing though. And I need to get the machiato off the keyboard.

8 years old.... go for the full on sex chat, better the truth than believing babies are made when a lady blows on a mans **** surely?

Definitely!

We can filter his searches on Google, but we can't filter his conversations in the primary school!

BTW, the way camo8 heard it, it was kissing, not blowing. 😯

Still not sure about the bikini thing though.

See, that's one thing that my boy is sure about.

Two years ago, we used to go to the beach to, you know, build sandcastles, shrimp, play in the waves. Last summer I swear he only agreed to come along so he could check out the honeyz. 8)

BTW, the way camo8 heard it, it was kissing, not blowing.

See, that's one thing that my boy is sure about.

Two years ago, we used to go to the beach to, you know, build sandcastles, shrimp, play in the waves. Last summer I swear he only agreed to come along so he could check out the honeyz.

Ah, I thought you meant he was thinking of ordering some.....

Presumably first you have to check out what's hot and what's not, before ordering.

I'd be more worried that he owned up & was crying about it.

That seems to display a good sense of responsibility and honesty. And no I'm not catholic.

I agree. I like that he came to fess up. I like it less that he Googled at least 10 variants of boobs, nacked ladies, sexy, sex, bounce boobies etc.

But then, as a guy, I'll admit that such interests are natural. Think I started later than 8 though.

nacked ladies

Given the colloquial usage of 'nacked' - broken, ruined, not fit for purpose - I wonder if this was the search that brought about the tears...

At least you know which side of the fence he's on!

I reckon that you should take him out for a slap up dinner, or at the very least not make a big deal of it - its entirely natural, maybe just a little early - but that may be down to friends or something he's heard somewhere.

He knows he's done wrong, leave it at that.

maybe he needs a hobby, something to keep him off the internet a bit - Magic maybe?

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UPDATE: well, we've managed to have a long chat with the little fella, after hours of the 'you-don't-love-me-so-I'm-storming-off-to-slam-a-door' antics.

He is truly sorry.

Turns out they (he and his buds) were all chatting during a kids' party yesterday... which obviously centred his attention on the boob.

Now, all kinds are coming out - one kid told him that boys have babies in their testicles (he calls them 'ollies' though), which is why you have to look after your nuts. Said kid was not sure how the baby is 'tranferred' though. 😯

So, in the short term he's learned his lesson and we've chatted to him straight about some of the things that are going on in his head.

Is it too early for the full-on sex education chat, or am I missing the moment?

I thought schools did the whole 'mechanics of reproduction' thing before they were this old now?

I thought schools did the whole 'mechanics of reproduction' thing before they were this old now?

Some schools do. A friend's kid got the basics aged 5. 😯 Our boy's school seems to be taking its time.

@ rattrap - 😆

I'll suggest that. He loves magic with a nice surprise at the end!

Is it too early for the full-on sex education chat, or am I missing the moment?

By the sounds of it right now would be good time to start.

And thank god I've got daughters, and can delegate the whole thing to my wife 🙂

I'll suggest that. He loves magic with a nice surprise at the end!

Everyone loves a happy ending.

Everyone loves a happy ending.

Totally. I'm always up for a big finish myself.

My mum answered the the questions when they arose, and that was probably about 8 through to 10, its just information. Best not to have 1 converstaion but an ongoing conversation, let him go away and reflect a bit, come back if something bothers.confuses him. Better to do it early as much less awkward IMO. What you are describing is the playground, we had some whacky ideas and I was tryin to get into girls knickers from about 6, I didn't know why, but that didn't stop me trying, quite the 6yr old sex pest now I think about it... 😳

quite the 6yr old sex pest now I think about it...

Well, I remember a 'you show me yours and I'll show you mine' exchange with a certain girl in a static caravan in Borth. 😳 I was probably 9 or 10 though, if that makes a difference.

Even then I almost took her eye out.

When I was 7 my first girlfriend flashed. I told her Mum.

I think I was about 11/12 before I became 'aware' of girls as the opposite sex. I was too much into playing in the woods, abandoned buildings, riding my bike etc etc.

I guess nowadays theres less of ^ hence the earlier(?) awareness to boys?

Turns out they (he and his buds) were all chatting during a kids' party yesterday... which obviously centred his attention on the boob.

Was there pampas grass growing outside?

I think I was about 11/12 before I became 'aware' of girls as the opposite sex. I was too much into playing in the woods, abandoned buildings, riding my bike etc etc.

I guess nowadays theres less of ^ hence the earlier(?) awareness to boys?

dunno about that, i spent my childhood playing in the woods yet i had the whole sex chat including condoms, AIDs, homosexuality, difficult births etc sometime before my 7th birthday.

i think you can learn about it young but when it comes down to it, until the girls you spend time with start developing sexually there's little you can do as a young boy apart from bask in your extensive knowledge when it comes to the playground and other kids coming out with absolute rubbish cos their parents haven't sat them down and told them the truth yet.

sometime before my 7th birthday.

Wow, okay I might be behind the times. I didn't get the chat until I was maybe 11 or 12. 😯

But then there were only 20 kids in our entire school and our TV was always on the blink - so maybe that explains why I didn't get into girls until much later. Sounds unlikely, but it could be true.

ahhh our school was much bigger, in fleet (listed currently in the UK's top ten list of big spenders on sex toys) and my parent's did their best to ensure i knew about the good and the bad in the world from a young age.

at 8 i was told they had no problem with my trying drugs when i grew up as long as i 'make and informed decision' 😆 this conversation happened whilst pingu was on tv pissing on the floor cos he was too desperate to get to the toilet in time.

By the way - if there's one thing the lad doesn't need right now - its a good spanking 😆

I reckon that I was 10 when I received 'the talk'. I remember it not making any sense and picking the rest up at school! Didn't start being interested in girls until at least 13 possibly later....

I reckon that I was 10 when I received 'the talk'. I remember it not making any sense and picking the rest up at school! Didn't start being interested in girls until at least 13 possibly later....

See, I don't think he's interested in girls, he's just obsessed with boobs.

That's what's holding me back from dishing out 'the talk'. My worry is it would just cause more problems than it's worth right now.