I wouldn't put a TV in my kids room. Personal choice. Eldest is 6. But then I don't let him have his tablet in his room either as he wouldn't play with anything. Just watch bloody Ryan's world.
I had a TV from aged 6 in of our room as my sister and I were banned from the lounge by the step monster. But that's a different story.
Got to ask: how many of you who won't or didn't allow your kids a TV in the room let them have laptops or smartphones in there? Same thing imo. Screen is a screen.
Think I had an old B&W one in my room from around 6, when I inherited a ZX81 and wanted to spend hours typing in lines of basic only to have to do it all again next time I wanted to use it as I didn't have a tape drive.
I was about 13 when I got a TV in my room. It was black and white though 🤣
Our kids are 17 and 14 now, they've never had TVs. If they want to watch telly there's three around the house they can use. They've had phones and laptops since they started secondary school, but phones stay downstairs at night.
If you think it's TVs in bedrooms turns kids into a social recluse, wait till you have a 14 year old daughter with a bigger collection of "young adult" dystopian fiction that rivals a branch of Waterstones.
Why is a difference of opinion considered trolling? Do you genuinely consider it so outlandish that someone might have a different opinion to you?
Personally I do feel it is outlandish to consider a tv in the bedroom of a 4 year old child. Yes. Yes I do. Absolutely.
I put a telly in our six year old's room so he could play minecraft with his sister on it, she's four. They've built massive world's in there, I don't really understand any of it.
A mate was skipping a 42" HD telly a few weeks ago as no-one wanted it for free so the kids got that to play on.
It's not connected to anything other than the old xbox and that's not online. I don't think any harm will come from it, in fact come to think of it they're not really using it much anymore.
It's you tube that will turn them inside out mentally. Without supervision they'd happily watch american teenagers playing games for 12hours every day on you tube.
no way in hell am i connecting their bedrooms to youtube.
Kids need their own space, for sure.
But that should not be somewhere that they can be influenced without your consent or knowledge. TV now is not the 3 channels we grew up with in the 70's and 80's. Nevermind the potential hell that is Social Media.
I would have thought that a childs time in their own space should require imagination, problem solving, searching for stuff to do. Not being spoonfed corporate entertainment or social media poison.
So I would not allow any kid a TV or Screen in their room. In a shared space thats fine.
If there were gifs integrated here, a triggered gif would be useful right now!
There are no circumstances where is is acceptable to smack a child.
There are no circumstances where is is acceptable to give smack to a child.
Oh yes there are... when they need to get some rest.
After seeing my nephew go from being a happy little kid (pre xbox and TV in his room) to a 23 year old loner with massive social problems simply because he just stayed in his room,
I'm not an antisocial loner because I stayed in my room, I stayed in my room because I was an antisocial loner.
Why don’t you ask your wife as it sounds like she wears the trousers in your house.
I don't think they had 40 inch TVs in 1973.
Depends how close you sat to them 🙂
If you're a chav then yeah go for it. If you're a normal functioning individual, then don't be ridiculous! 😀
We use a 65" TV as the lid on our 18 month old's cot so I think it's fine.
OK...... escrs.......
Your justification for letting a 4 year-old have a TV in their room is that "well I had one when I was five."
So YOUR PARENTS gave you a TV at age 5 so it must have been OK, then? REALLY?
Just how far does this way of thinking go?
Do yourself a favour and have a read of Phillipa Perry's book: "The book you wish your Parents had read (and your children will be glad you did.)"
Jesus!.... Our job is to be BETTER than our parents. Not to reinforce or repeat the same old mistakes.
Our job is to be BETTER than our parents.
I'm much better than my parents.
They only let me have a 12" black and white portable with a manual tuner and I had to share it with my two brothers.
My kids all have their own HD 32 inchers with Netflix and everything.
I am totally winning at this parenting mallarkey.
Just make sure they can access porn. Otherwise, what's the point of having a TV in your bedroom?
A genuine question for all the "OMFG A kid with a telly?" haters.
What is it that you think they're gonna watch that's so horrifying?
Once they outgrow CBeebies, kids just don't watch broadcast TV any more.
My kids watch Netflix ( which I can see in the Account settings exactly who has watched what and when), Amazon Prime ( same), the youngest watches YouTube now and again ( again, I can see what he's been watching on the youtube account) They play Xbox (over which I have complete control via Microsoft parental settings ) and DVD's (which I bought)
The parental broadband controls stop them using the TV browsers to watch anything of a more adult nature.
None of their TV's actually have an aerial connection anymore and none of them have even noticed.
4G phones? Now there's the real issue.....
Jesus!…. Our job is to be BETTER than our parents. Not to reinforce or repeat the same old mistakes.
Sweet! I’m full of win then. Both my parents were barely functioning alcoholics and my Dad was also extremely physically and mentally abusive. So if I let my 3 and 6 year olds have 90” TV’s in their rooms and only feed them Haribo m still way in front.
Thanks Simon! The TV’s are getting ordered tonight
#betterthanmyparents
Edit - I don’t know what is scarier, the seemingly rabid opinions of some in this thread or the fact that Perchy seems to be the sensible one.
I do know, it’s the second one.
For the record we have one TV in our house, but I wouldn’t judge anyone for letting their kids have one.
None of their TV’s actually have an aerial connection anymore and none of them have even noticed.
True
No difference between a TV and an ipad if its all youtube, netflix etc.
Our job is to be BETTER than our parents. Not to reinforce or repeat the same old mistakes.
My parents were and still are fantastic, I had a TV in my room. I’m not sure a book on parenting is necessary. In fact I’d ask why you thought you needed a book to be a good parent.
What is it that you think they’re gonna watch that’s so horrifying?
For me it has absolutely nothing to do with shielding them from anything horrifying, it's simply that I really do not see why a four year old needs a television (or any other electronic device) that is only accessible in their bedroom.
I had a TV in my room.
At four years old?
At four years old?
About 6. I was replying to the book on parenting.
If you put a t.v in room don’t forget to plug a PlayStation into it as well
Already have for both mine.
I think it all depends on how far away the child is sat from the TV. As long as they can be far enough away from it a 40" TV is fine. Don't let them sit too close though otherwise their eyes will go all wonky and that would be poor parenting.
I've got a 4 year old. The idea of putting a screen in his room seems ludicrous to me.
We're not technophobes, he's even got a his own Samsung tablet, but this is used in a family space.
40in tv for a four year old?
Seems like a bargain to me Plus you can hang it on the wall, unlike a four year old🙂
So YOUR PARENTS gave you a TV at age 5 so it must have been OK, then? REALLY?
Well my parents didn't let me spend my entire life on it so I dont see the problem. I had plenty of stuff going on beyond the TV, it just wasn't a big deal. Conversely out daughter doesn't have a TV of her own as we know full well she would never be off it, it's bad enough with the stacks of books she has. Shock horror, parenting choices are subjective, whoda thunk it!
The problem is when something is subjectively acceptable from one person's point of view but, in reality, objectively a poor choice.
It's not "triggered" or "shock, horror" judgemental outrage here. Lots of people clearly believe a TV in a 4 year old child's room is an inappropriate choice and I think they're right.
Much like feeding a kid Mars bars for breakfast. You can do it if you want, it's your subjective choice, but that doesn't make it right.
Cant believe this thread is still going!
So for those who didn't read my last reply the boy says he is happy with his 24in TV which he watches an hour a day max and its normally more educational type programs with the odd kids film now and again
As for the 40in TV its now fixed and living in the garage and connected up to the sound system
Thanks for all your concerns about my parenting skills but were doing just fine
Now i just need to sort the lock on the outside of his door, makes sure he cleans the whole house (he's stopped drinking the bleach and now pours it down the toilet!) and makes my dinner every day, i mean what are children for!!
The problem is when something is subjectively acceptable from one person’s point of view but, in reality, objectively a poor choice.
Very true. But I've seen nothing objective thus far to convince me this is one of those choices. Just a lot of opinions.
WON’T SOMEBODY PLEASE THINK OF THE CHILDREN!
The problem is when something is subjectively acceptable from one person’s point of view but, in reality, objectively a poor choice.
Maybe is your reality and a few others but not in everyone’s as it quite easy to control what they watch still.
Thanks for all your concerns about my parenting skills but were doing just fine
You may think that but you are clearly wrong.
Also I wouldn’t take this place too seriously as it’s just full of grumpy old bastards who are basically teh awesomez at everything and all their children have been successful in life purely because they have never been given access to anything with a screen. At least that’s my takeaway from this thread you bloody commoner!
I’m getting my 3 year old a 90” TV just to make this guy go apoplectic
http://www.biblebelievers.com/jmelton/notv.html
Thanks for all your concerns about my parenting skills but were doing just fine
No concerns here. You appear to be bossing it.
No concerns here. You appear to be bossing it.
With a 24” TV and only just getting around to putting a lock on the outside of the bedroom door?
Not like us. We’re owning it
