Posted this some four years ago now & thought about the responses recently.
The post is now closed but quite a few of you responded.
It’s been a life changing period of my life but am very pleased to say I am still with my wife & my two boys.
The bottom line is they are my world & through some vey bad decisions, I nearly lost them.
If anyone experiences this, never give up. It takes an enormous amount of work love & understanding to put it right.
Seeking advice on line is great for practical stuff but when you are in a dark place, be careful of what you post & the responses. Everybody’s experiences are different……

Chapeau to you. As you say everyone is different and whilst you can get lots of advice it’s you who has to make a decision. Best wishes for 2017 and beyond.

Personally I am delighted to be divorced. Now very happily remarried.

I’m genuinely pleased for you. For you all. It’s great to know what really matters, and while some things matter a little, it’s important to put them below the things that really matter, but often, as you say, takes effort.

Love conquers all – YAY!

Very happy for you

I’m still in much the same situation as on the previous thread 🙁 Though I think I’ve now at least accepted I have to do something about it at some point fairly soon.

Good work sir! 🙂

I’ve just read the old thread.

Goodness, there’s some sad stories around in this place. 🙁

I’m glad the OP has thought things over and is happily where he was.

Personally, this thread has prompted me to look back over some of my old stuff on here, 6 years ago, when I broke up with my wife. We got things back together because of a strange brew of loneliness, guilt and her (mostly) making some changes, but 6 years on we’ve been broken up for good about 6 months. I’m definitely staying out this time. I’ve been taught how happy I can actually feel, and I’m not going back to feeling intermittently just about OK and obsessing over whether things will ever get better.

Keep your chins up folks. XX

I can’t recall if I contributed to the last thread but my position is similar to jambalaya’s my divorce was the second best thing I have ever done , my second marriage/relationship being the first .
There is no way I would have been happy if I had remained in my first marriage .
As you say all relationships are different.

I remember the original post. Some very sad stories, I sometimes return to it when looking for justification for why I’m single! How suddenly love can turn to hate.