Hmmmm
Looking at this from the other side… I’ve just been made redundant (for the 4th time in 2 and a bit years!), spend most of my days loafing, not doing much positive (though have got more job interviews lined up to be fair) mainly sat on STW or watching TV. And the GF comes round, shouts odds at me, asks why I’ve done nothing etc… And why isn’t her tea ready too!
When life has dealt you a shitter in terms of job loss, it is VERY VERY hard to be positive about things, until positive things actually start happening! I know that’s a bit of a catch 22 situation, my GF doesn’t understand it at all either (which is why we’re having a really tough time, she just expects me to snap out of it!), but it’s a situation you’ll have to deal with.
I know I’ll be fine again in a few weeks (got 2 2nd interviews next week, another the week after, so I should land at least one of the jobs), but certainly for a few weeks after being made redundant, all you feel like doing is vegging out, watching TV, and being a bit selfish! Sorry, that’s what happens…
I’d say after about 4-6 weeks though, a natural desire to actually do something creeps back in (even if she’s still not got a new job), and she’ll probably start being more positive naturally. Let her mope for a bit…
Oh, and as the crazy man up there pointed out… Talk to her FFS! 😉