OK, I know there's going to be some piss taking here, but I need advice. Badly. So please, try and keep it sympathetic!
Last year, after 15 years in an unhealthy, f****d up, loveless relationship, I finally managed to pluck up the courage to leave my wife. She was very much the 'suitable' wife: Respectable family, good career, general all round pillar of the community and all; I met her young and my family encouraged the relationship. However, she cancelled our wedding 6 years ago 3 weeks before the big day leaving me rather mixed up, and foolishly, I tried to get the relationship back on track. We married a couple of years ago - it was never right - and when we found out she couldn't have kids, I realised that what we had wasn't strong enough to keep us together.
Very shortly after splitting, I met the most beautiful, fun, vivacious girl I've ever known. She was the best company, and we quickly fell very deeply in love. Friends and family advised me to proceed with caution, but it wasn't the rebound thing they assumed it was, we really were soulmates, and I realised how dead my marriage had been.
We were together for 8 months or so, and I couldn't believe I wasted so much of my life with someone so incompatible when there was a woman like this in the world. I know she also feels the same too. She struggled with the fact that I was going through a messy divorce, but that will be over by the end of next month. She's a few years younger than me, and I know that sort of thing is difficult to deal with.
We had a few rows, mostly caused by her insecurities - for some reason she doesn't feel 'worthy', although I reassure her constantly and haven't even glanced at another woman since I met her. We had a huge row the other night, and without going into too much detail, she did something that makes it practically impossible for us to sort it out. She let herself into my home and damaged stuff, wouldn't leave and I had to physically drag her out. Then she told her family that I'd roughed her up.
Now she's apologised to me cos she realises that I did nothing wrong, and knows that I was just trying to protect my home and that I wouldn't harm a fly. But her family think I'm some sort of monster. She's heart broken, I'm heart broken, but I feel that what she's done means that we can't fix this. And it's killing me.
So please, no smart arse comments, but any advice would be appreciated.
