I’ve been watching this with interest, I had the same thing, you have my sympathy and empathy. In the end I capitulated and I do not regret it. I regretted it at the time, and had to swallow my pride big time. My kids are now awesome and my wonderful wife has proven herself right. If I hadn’t capitulated, I fear that we would not still be together.
Women go through incredibly powerful emotions that they cannot control. My advice, trite as it sounds, is to man up and love her through thick and thin. In the end it will be the right thing. I’m not saying you are wrong, morally or whatever, but sometimes for the sake of the situation, there are things you have to accept. (that is my own experience, I won’t judge whatever you do, it worked for me)