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My fiancee and i had this exact experience an the begining of our relationship (he said he was going to post on here earlier but i assume he got distracted). Once this happens, it becomes a vicious circle, can't get it up through stress, stressed cos' you can't get it up. Like you, he went to the doctors and was prescribed cialis (less side effects than viagra). He ended up using a herbal alternative called niterider which was very effective! It lasts 3 days and sometimes a little longer. All well and good to use for a dirty weekend but make sure you look at a long term plan. Mr LP ended up taking these pill religiously every 3 days and wouldn't let me near him if it gone over this time through fear of failure (he could always become errected but struggled to maintain it). Fortunatel he started loosing count of how long it had been and would sometimes loose momentum, giving me the opportunity to show him that it didn't matter and instead use the time to cuddle up enjoy ourselves without penetration. Within a few months things started to improve, and we are closer than we probably would have been by going through this together. The main advice i can offer is toTRY not to worry about it and just enjoy getting closer to each other, and it might be an idea to reassure from time to time that it's not a lack of attraction. I would sugest using the above mentioned pills (we order of ebay from america, takes about a week to arrive) and if she makes a move towards intercourse, don't push her away through fear of failure. In my experience it feels worse than if it fails half way through. Sorry if some of this seems a bit jumbled but it's 4:30am and i'm posting from my phone. Hopefully you'll get male perspective and advice tomorrow from mr LP.
I've used hundreds.. I don't need them, but I like to use them now and then.
A half tablet or a bite out of a tablet will be enough for most first time users, but it depends on the person's health etc.
Side effects for the first few tablets include rolling eyes, blurred vision, and a stuffed up nose (it seems there are PDE5 recepters in the penis, nose and elsewhere). Orgasm may also be blunted. These side effects dissipate with use. De-sensitization to the drug builds up very quickly.
I personally think nothing beats the rigidity of Yohimbe, and that can be obtained easily on ebay etc. Side effects with yohimbe though include not being able to sleep for 24 hours or so...