I'm not upset by you comments Soda, just wonder why you have such a negative opinion on the impartiality - is it based on any experience or just too much dail mail?
Neither seven, just observations of human nature, a bad mood and too much wine.
Ok. My thoughts. Im not married however I have been with the same girl for 18 continuous years. Listen to what the Counsellor has to say, listen. Dont be sceptical and listen to your partners issues. I've swallowed my pride on a fair few occasions when Ive been in the right- doesnt make me a hen-pecked fella either. On the plus-side, its good that she is initiating. She wants it to work. Imagine it was your idea and she wasnt buying it? I say listen to what she says, dont knee-jerk or be a bitten-chunt. Take stock of what the counsellor says, listen 🙂
In my experience if someone finds a counsellor that they feel is impartial, it's often because they are challenging them on things that they find difficult. It's a very rigourous training to become a fully qualified and accredited counsellor. They should not advise you, they should guide you to solutions that the couple agree for themselves.
I have been to marriage guidance, and it was very helpful in helping us talk without dredging up all the nonsense that sabotages constructive discussion about a relationship.