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Get the buggers to travel up to you for a change . I couldn’t be arsed travelling that far each Christmas
Not an option because of mil condition. My relationship with my bill is a wee bit strained, "you don't want your sleeping mattress, you want my ex army camping bed!" This conversation happens every year, he likes to tell people what to do. I don't really drink but I'm tempted to take some whisky and see what happens.
Steven - this is clearly a you problem. Either accept that the only reason you are there is because your wife wants to be there and you are doing it for her, on her terms, because she is the one who’s mother is 400 miles away and unwell, of book into a hotel/air BnB and cough up more for a little less intense family time.
Keep in mind that often the only reason a wife is 400 miles away from a sick mother is because the other 360 days a year she has chosen to be with her husband.
Not an option because of mil condition. My relationship with my bill is a wee bit strained, "you don't want your sleeping mattress, you want my ex army camping bed!" This conversation happens every year, he likes to tell people what to do. I don't really drink but I'm tempted to take some whisky and see what happens.
Steven take some of your excellent bramble whisky I sampled a long long time ago.
If it's stressful I'd be tempted to travel inn or some such establishment at least you'd have peace and meet for a meal or two.
My FiL looks as though he'll not make it through the weekend but we're still having folks for Xmas. One year my BiL made it extremely stressful, opening the good wine at 11am, using all the hot water in his 10am bath, scoring the table by turning the bubble bottle on the wood, taking a facetime call during the main course. To add insult to injury his present for staying was 4 bottles of desperado for me, even the knows I no longer drink. I'm not inviting people I don't want. Hence he's not on the welcome list and neither is my egocentric money grabbing sister.
Haven't made bramble whisky for a long time! It's not that stressful, he has three lovely kids an adorable border terrier and I get on fine with his wife. When he's being a pain he's swiftly told so.
the only reason a wife is 400 miles away from a sick mother is because the other 360 days a year she has chosen to be with her husband.
Except it's really not that simple or black white, there are many reasons my partner is in Scotland, she lived here for a long time before meeting me and did go back to Dorset for a year but then came back to Edinburgh.
I've also discovered my other half pays them £15 a night when she stays when down to see her mum, I think that's pretty tight
I had to read that more than once to make sure I fully understood it.
There is a massive difference between offering to help out with shopping/chores/money versus a family member charging a fixed rate.
That is not normal, at all.
I agree with Drac. Soz. All very very odd.
Personally I'd be keeping a safe distance in a premier inn!
When we're invited to stay, whether for a night or a week, I just make sure when we leave they think we're the best guests.
So, depending on the season and venue (i.e. a Spanish Villa in summer is going to be different from a suburban house in November during a working week) I might take stuff to make fancy breakfasts, interesting lunches, sundowner cocktails, a few nice steaks for dinner, and more wine and beer than we're going to drink ourselves.
Yes we do get invited back. The seafront house at Kite Beach in Dominican Republic was a welcome treat. And an added bonus is when the hosts keep telling you what a bunch of cheapskates your other mutual acquaintances were.
Never considered it but I can see it making sense for some people.
It obviously depends hugely on the families and dynamics involved, I wouldn't presume to say someone else's arrangements were odd or wrong just because they are different to ours.
Takes some drink, good cheese, cold meats and maybe a joint or two...
A joint or two? Lamb, beef? Or couples of grams of purple haze?