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aphex_2k · 2017-05-02T15:04:02Z

Tried to explain where Mom's been the past couple of days, and what's happening. For about 2 weeks she's been having migraines. Vomiting. Loss of vision. He's five, and been great. Just goes off to the kitchen, get's a bowl. "Here's a sicky bowl, Mom". Lies in bed with her, cuddling. Last Thursday I sent her to the docs. Doc says he'll do a referral for a head CT which notes a 26mm mass in right ventricle. Still getting headaches, so he thinks a MRI is needed. On Friday night I say she should go to ED, explain the symptoms and get them to organise an MRI, but at the weekends they say it's not possible to get one done, will have to be after the weekend. Check her out, phone consult a neurologist and think she'll be fine for the weekend. Monday, she keeps the boy off school, takes him with her for the MRI. Results go back to GP who phones and wants to see her pronto. GP confirms mass, appears to be tumorous. So Monday afternoon we're trying to find a private neurologist to see her ASAP. After a few calls and in some cases "we'll get back to you in a couple of days" we decide it's a good idea if she goes to another hospital where the neuro consultants and professors are based. She's been in since Monday night. Neuro is 90% sure it's a benign tumour, but will have to be removed, so looks like surgery on Monday. She had another MRI today (a wafer mri) which the surgeons will work from. I'm optimistic, on the whole. I was a little worried when she told me social workers and welfare officers had been to see her as "you have 2 young kids" which I'm not sure is standard protocol for brain surgery, or damage limitation for the worst case scenario. Neurologist says might turn out sinister but at this stage doesn't think so. Impossible to be certain though. Might affect speech, sight, memory, movement, can't drive, may have seizures. 6 weeks plus recovery time. Maybe physio. My boy says "can't they use a special gun and turn her brain inside out and just get it?" Naturally everyone is shocked, stunned, mortified. First couple of days it didn't sink in for me. I work in mental health, I'm well aware of how this all works. One of the docs / friend from work has been messaging me as I went in to see her yesterday in a sort of "WTF, got any decent neuro mates?" way. I"m gonna be off work until the end of the week but I'm planning on going back on Sat. Mental. Keep having flashbacks of things we've said. Notably early last week when I finally booked a vasectomy (it's our ten year anniversary too) and she jokingly said, "are you sure you want to do this? what if I die and your new wife wants kids" Well, I think I've waffled enough. If you got this far, thanks. I always see these type of threads and think it's good to just write it all down. Clears things in your head a little.

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Bless her cotton's she wont rest. Spent days doing grant applications for work even though she's meant to be off sick recovering. Can't stop her

Let her crack on with that sort of thing, one of the aspects of the situation your wife has found herself in is a loss of control and independence, all of a sudden you are just reacting to events. Planning stuff and occupying her time with positive actions is very good, if she gets too knackered she'll stop.

Hope the ct comes back negative, I was having headaches a few weeks after a very minor head trauma so it doesn't seem out of the question that these could just be part of the recovery process.

Posted : 29/05/2017 12:15 pm

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Wow. Hard to believe this was all just over 12 months ago. Still really appreciate all the kindness. You'll all be pleased to know there was a full recovery and she's as good as she was. Life throws some curve balls sometimes. Duck or hit back.

Posted : 25/07/2018 9:40 am

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Glad to hear that mate.

Doesn't seem that long ago really.

Posted : 25/07/2018 9:43 am

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Great news mate!

Posted : 25/07/2018 9:44 am

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Marvellous.

Posted : 25/07/2018 12:46 pm

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I remember this from a year ago. Felt a bit apprehensive clicking onto this thread but that's cracking news OP

Life throws some curve balls sometimes

Doesn't it just! Glad you all smashed that one back out the park 😀

Posted : 25/07/2018 12:51 pm

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Sweeeeeeet

Posted : 25/07/2018 1:09 pm

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👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼

Posted : 25/07/2018 1:27 pm

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Good news, I too opened the page with some anxiety.

Posted : 25/07/2018 10:41 pm

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Image result for today is the best day

Posted : 25/07/2018 11:05 pm

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Thread bump....

So Mrs Aphex has just had a follow up appt with Prof. Gabriel Lee. Given the all clear. Nothing there. No sign of anything coming back. Bullet dodged and finally some closure. Super happy as it's always in the back of my mind (the thought, not her tumour!)

Reading back through this all made me cry a bit. Have to say. But some lovely thoughtful and considerate comments. Thanks everyone, you absolutely rock.

Love from the Aphex family.

Posted : 11/09/2019 4:35 am

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Hey dude, cheers for the update - brightened my night shift up. All the best to you and your family. That was a horrible first post, what a difference a couple of years makes.

Go and give your wife a hug instead of posting on here.

Posted : 11/09/2019 4:56 am

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I missed this thread. To call it a "thread" is doing life and your wife a huge disservice.

I'm hugely happy that your wife has been given the all clear.

Enjoy the Summer to come (you're in the southern hemi I think? Lucky devil.lol) and may life bring you all much joy over the many years to come my friend.

Posted : 11/09/2019 5:28 am

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Cheers lads. She's at work now but there will be hugs later. Possibly a glass of bubbles too.

Posted : 11/09/2019 5:40 am

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That’s brilliant news. So happy for you all. What a great thing to read first thing.

Posted : 11/09/2019 7:27 am

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Really wonderful news !! That’s really brightened up a wet and grey morning here.

Posted : 11/09/2019 7:34 am

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Great news !

Maybe check the state of your guts before any big hugs though 😉

Posted : 11/09/2019 8:23 am

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Fantastic!

Posted : 11/09/2019 8:28 am

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Brilliant news mate! Over the moon for you all!

Posted : 11/09/2019 8:31 am

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Top banana OP all the best !

Posted : 11/09/2019 8:49 am

willard

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Awesome!!! That is some amazing news to start my day. Hugs to all of you!

Posted : 11/09/2019 8:58 am

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ace 🙂

Posted : 11/09/2019 9:00 am

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That's great news for you guys.

How's the 12 year anniversary going...?

Posted : 11/09/2019 9:13 am

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I always open threads that started a long time ago with a recent update carefully. Good to see my caution was unwarranted. Great to see it's going well.

Posted : 11/09/2019 9:20 am

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matt_outandabout
That’s great news for you guys.

How’s the 12 year anniversary going…?

Gooooood....? Did I post about this or you just clairvoyant or something? lol!!

😀

Posted : 11/09/2019 9:28 am

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I missed his thread first time around.

Absolutely made up for you all. Great news!

Posted : 11/09/2019 9:48 am

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I opened this with trepidation, but delighted for you, and given me a brighter perspective on what I'd been thinking was a bad day

Posted : 11/09/2019 9:50 am

eddiebaby

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Yes! Winners all.

Posted : 11/09/2019 9:53 am

martinhutch

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Nice stuff, love a bit of good news.

Posted : 11/09/2019 9:56 am

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Absolutely superb, now get on with enjoying life!

Posted : 11/09/2019 10:13 am

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Just read through the whole thread as I missed it first time round, Truly the stuff of nightmares 🙁
So pleased it all worked out for you all, and fantastic news That Mrs A has made a full recovery

Posted : 11/09/2019 10:22 am

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Wow! I remember the original thread, but then not the follow up.

Great news that things are still looking clear! Congratulations to you all!

Posted : 11/09/2019 10:27 am

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Wonderful news.

Posted : 11/09/2019 10:55 am

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Phew, gteat news, always a bit shaky opening threads like these.

Posted : 11/09/2019 11:24 am

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This news really raises the spirits on a damp September morning.
Always happy to read good news and absolutely made up for you and yours OP

Posted : 11/09/2019 12:15 pm

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That is soo good to hear - tell your boy the doctors took his advice and the "special gun" worked

Posted : 11/09/2019 5:27 pm

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That is excellent!

Posted : 11/09/2019 7:34 pm

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I read the thread for the first time, I’m delighted you has a positive result.

Posted : 12/09/2019 5:52 am

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I love a happy ending.
Very pleased for you all.

Posted : 12/09/2019 10:47 am

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Again, thanks for the support guys. I am going to print the whole thread off and let her read it all. I think she'll appreciate all the messages and good vibes. Virtual beers all round. x

Posted : 12/09/2019 10:59 am

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