[Closed] Thats it then

Ouch. Sorry dude.

Sorry to hear that mate. Unless you kicked her out 😉

As for what to do next, hit the gym, buy some new clothes and take your pick.

I assume you did not want this to happen. 🙁

Sorry to hear.....Your bike is your friend fella, use it....

Wee in her shoes as she packs them.....

Do: (the easy bit)
All the things that she moaned about that you actually enjoy doing.

Don't: (the hard part)
Sit around moping for too long, thinking about the 'what ifs' and 'what could've beens'.

Sorry to hear it though bud.

Hit the ale.?

No really sorry to hear that. It scares the shite out of men thinking that something like that could happen.

Rebound sex is always a good'n.

Reconciliation out of the question?

I didn't mean shag your bike by the way.... I meant ride it....err you know what I mean 😀

no reconciliation think its done. Going to be me and the dog for a few days just need to sort out what i want.

Thanks for putting a smile on my face.

Make a list of all the things you wanted to do during the relationship but didn't (because of money/she didn't want to/time etc...)

Commit to doing one thing a month no matter what you feel like.

Chin up.

Seriously, stay away from women and alcohol. Just ride your bike.

Move on fella, life is far too short.

You may think you can't cope, but you will and be happy again. It's happened to me twice, once with a kid involved. I am now happy again 😀

Find a slapper and knock the back out of her. HTH.

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... oh and if you're like me you'll need to steal some of her underwear. Really annoyed my ex, but it was just so silky next to my skin 😳

Change the locks be a good start

FCOL TSY - you wanted it for your pole dancing lesson didn't you?

Haha, yeahp. I was planning ahead. I've got pictures for your next Friday thread...

OK, if you do I'll post mine. How's that sound? 😉
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Does he think I'm a bimbo? 🙄

Rebound sex is always a good'n.

Mercy ****s are good too if you get a chance

Seriously, stay away from women and alcohol. Just ride your bike.

Yup. Best advice so far I reckon.

Don't sit at home on your own for long periods of time.

And eat.

Actually just generally concentrate on looking after yourself......new clothes, gym, expensive aftershave, etc

Your still young, in yours twenties people grow and change alot. Maybe you just now want different things, spend some time on yourself but don't mope. Get upset when you have too, don't bottle it up, but have fun. See how many girls you can pull between now and the end of the year.

Seriously change the locks, you dont want her sneaking back in.

Cancel all direct debits in joint names,

split all bils that are due that you both pay,

expect to get upset,and angry,

enjoy the freedom,

Happened to me 2 yrs ago next week.

I'm still alive. At the time i thought my life had ended, we'd been engaged & planning a wedding. I tried to top myself but didn't have the courage to follow through fortunately.
My point is that your life HASN'T ended even though it currently feels like it has. It WILL get better.
Rely on your friends, but don't overdo it. Weekends are easy, you can fill your time quite easily then, it's the long nights at home during the week that i found to be the worst. Buy some good books, some good films etc & climb out of your head for a while.

Don't hit the booze, at least not on your own. Ride your bikes even when you don't feel like it.

You're gonna hate the next couple of months but it really does get much, much better - it did for me*.

*Typing this with MsDwarf next to me on the sofa - she's an ex partner from 21yrs ago who stalked me on facebook!!!! 😯

It's just the start of another chapter in your life mate. After 10 years in a relationship you should certainly embrace being single, if only for novelty value 😉

If you've had 10 years and there's no chance of reconciliation, eventually you'll be able to accept it as a positive change, and appreciate all the good times you had. Also, if you follow TSY's advice, at that point you'll be comfortable wearing womens underwear. vive le difference, my friend.

Get away for a week in the Sierra Nevada with [url= http://www.switch-backs.com/guided-rides.html ]Switchbacks[/url] or another operator.

Sign up to as many no strings attached websites, get a trade pack of durex and go have as much fun as you can get for a few months.

Whatever you do, don't get involved with any women you may meet for a good few months.

Sign up to as many no strings attached websites, get a trade pack of durex and go have as much fun as you can get for a few months.

you've got be careful with that, I had a disaster with a girl from the net due to a typo...

all was going great until we got back to hers and I was just going to do a massive poo on her when she started screaming....

turns out she was a [s]s[/s]cat lover 😳

Freedom!!!!!!

+2 for CG's advice.

It's shit, it'll be shit for a bit, and then it will be less shit.

tazzy - I love you! 😆

proper laughing out loud!

TSY-I'll try not to get banned this time! you egged me on and made me naughty you Bad,Bad man 😆

yup, been there (after 18 years together) it was 4 years ago, wasn't easy but i survived, rely on your friends and take things day by day, think of number 1 for a change and things will work out, good luck

😆 😆 😆 Carefull taz 😉

yup.. be thankful and enjoy all the things that you no longer have to compromise on..

and I just lol'd @ tazzy til a bit of wee came out.. (not in a sexual way)

's ok Taz, I'm gonna leave STW alone for a bit. Heading over to match.com to find a feline friendly lady. She don't have to know I'm not really dyslexic...

Tazzy, you is nasty dude, nasty

Find a slapper and knock the back out of her.

Midori, I was there in January.. she upped and went with a half arsed excuse that marriage and mortgages weren't her bag anymore so after 10years I was left to start over. I'm a similar age as you too but unfortunately over the years I'd shut a lot of friends out and lost contact so not only have I had to find my direction I've also had to do rebuild my social life which tbh I'm finding tough but that's another story..
Eleven months on I have the house in my name, I've redecorated and sold most of 'our' furniture and things are going okay, I've been on a few dates but not met anyone I'm interested in yet.. I've settled on having a while off from relationships, at least until the divorce.
I guess in reflective mode I now realise I've had a close escape as she was a little unstable and prone to becoming some ranting, psychopathic unbearable idiot.. did I really want this person to be the mother of my kids.. nope.

Find something to do, I built a bike, worked a lot of overtime and dipped my toe into PlentyOfFish for a laugh. Give me a shout if you want to ramble... things will get easier mate.

Gawd.. sorry for the ramble.

I would suggest using your time constructively, ie when you feel ready, take a long look at yourself. Do you like what you see? Write down your good characteristics, bad ones too. What would you like to change?

The important thing is to like yourself and thus be comfortable. Optimism - you must make way in your new life for this.

Support - interesting this. You may receive support from unexpected quarters or you may receive no support from those whom you thought would.

I'm nearly 3 years down the line, I was the cow that left. It's been a voyage of self-discovery ... and continues to be so.

Good luck.

go away for christmas!

catflees46 - Member
Your still young, in yours twenties....

Maths not your strong point then catflees?

cinnamon_girl - Member

Seriously, stay away from women and alcohol

Now where's that bloke that makes the t-shirts ?

sorry to hear of your break-up OP - you just need time (to realise this isn't the end of your world)

Thanks everyone, there is a lot of good advice there, i don't think its going to properly sink in for a few days. Just feeling numb at the moment.

I can foresee a lot of miles this winter on the bike, who knows i might enter a 24hr solo event.

richteabiscuit totally know what you mean in regards to friends, especially because a lot of the friends i have now are ones we've made together.