[Closed] Tell me about your midlife crisis

I've just realised I've actually met aracer.
🙂

Bought one of these when I was 40, two years ago.

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Did the sports car, did more skiing, took up MTBing. But then looked at where I was, and a few relationships on, amicable divorce in progress, I am with someone I love to bits.

To call it an MLC is a bit pejorative. Sometimes we get an opportunity to look at our lives and change them. Uncertainty is scary, but creative and exhilarating. If you are happy with where you are in life, good for you. If you aren't and you think you can be happy, do think about it. YOLO as those young people say...

52 here and it seems to have missed me so far, having said that, I bought an er6f 2 years ago and traded that for an mt09 tracer earlier this year, never yearned for fast cars though

Reached 61, only crisis is never having been able to afford to have one 🙄
Next year @ 62 I can retire on company pension. I can stay on as long as I want thereafter but atm I want to go ASAP. So my crisis is looming, what to do in my retirement? Still reasonably fit & active but not as flexible as I used to be!

Hmm, 48 here & in a happy relationship with no kids.
Mate has just completed Paris-Brest-Paris in 71hrs & I'm quite jealous!
Ive decided its what I want to do, I'm aiming to ride RAGBRAI in 2017 for my 50th birthday & maybe London-Edinburgh-London the same year.
I'll never be a racer & win medals etc, I'll never earn enough to blow insane amounts of cash on flash motors (cars don't interest me) but I do want to be able to look back and say ive done something few people would even consider.

That you riding back into Rochdale about half seven Si?
Did the two blokes behind catch up? 🙂

Down Witworth Rd? If so it was me (blue jersey, hi vis lid)
No, they didn't catch me - I passed them climbing out of Bacup, had a little chat then the quicker one went back for his mate.
Were you driving? Didn't see you.

You had your head down and were making progress.

Good lid and jumper combo BTW, very noticeable in that crappy murk.

anagallis_arvensis do the TAT on a motorbike its a blast!
just got back from 4 months touring the US 18k miles 11 states,
I've been having MLC's every 3or4 years since 30 (now 48)
work flat out save money take 3/6/12 months off do that dream trip repeat!!ps single never married no kids.life is good
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My mid-life crisis was around lunchtime on my first day at work aged 22. After the initial novelty had worn off and I was given some menial task to do by a **** of a boss I found myself staring down the next 40 years of 9-5 and being horrified.

My MLC is not having enough money to afford a midlife crisis... 😕

Pete - the lid was my idea & the jersey a birthday pressie!
May as well be seen! Sorry I didn't see you fella.

How does 46yrs old with a BMX in the garage go for a MLC. Haven't got the balls to go to the skate park in case the kids laugh at me! 😉

I'm going to see some other people who obviously are having a MLC by reforming the best band in the world.
The Wolfhounds. I just love the lyric "chopped hog Harley with a baby seat"

I've promised myself either Trans Provence or Trans Savoie next year, before I get too decrepit, so that sort of counts I guess

I had a "wobble" at 35, nothing serious but serious enough for me to sell a business that I hated being involved with. My business partner was an overbearing **** and I'd had enough.
Sold up, went into contracting, quadrupled my income in one step. Took 6mths off and followed the Americas Cup around Valencia, met some great folks, sailed, windsurfed my ass off around the beaches of southern Europe and north Africa.. To say I was enjoying my time was an understatement.
Got back, got a job in 4 weeks, headed up some major programmes and once every couple of years I move on or when I've delivered a programme of change. Tend to plan 3-6mths between Jobs. Each time I'm off I plan the time religiously to make the absolute best of that time because I know when I'm done I'll get a job sharpish and then the door revolves once again..
Luckily I've no kids, a loving wife who has her own work/life balance in check..

It's doable.

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Wish it looked like this one! But it might yet...

Im missing the midlife crisis?

Already owned TWO MX5's in my early 30's.

OP buy an Elise. Why not.

I like the song of that name by faith no more but other than that have yet to succumb at near forty to a proper midlife crisis unless you count the usual first world angst but I have had that since my late teens!

DP, sorry

Forgot the change of career* from desk monkey to care worker.

Love the job, wish I'd discovered it years ago.

*There must be a word that accurately describes the meandering, confusing and mostly pleasant quest to find out how to earn a crust without gouging out your own eyeballs.

It's probably German.

I found that losing my business, my marriage, my house, my car and everything but the clothes I wa stood up in, then dissolving into depression, alcoholism and drugs kind of negated any thoughts about Harley Davidsons and stupid cars.

Sounds like I probably got the better deal

Depends.
Describe the clothes.

I don't earn anywhere near enough money to have a mid life crisis

I'd like to buy myself a nice stupid car, and a couple of nice bikes

I'll have to make do with looking at everybody else's

[quote=scaredypants ]@ aracer: Oh, I don't know - probably cheaper than a woman but even guys must have some financial implications

You misunderstand, the MLC was the beard

[quote=Rusty Spanner ]I've just realised I've actually met aracer.

Where was that then?

I'm quite looking forward to when I can get rid of my car. Is that a MLC? Consumerism doesn't really deliver for me but I have spent money on things that give flow: bikes, surfboards, travel, and am lucky enough to have a beautiful wife with a similar outlook. The idea of a MLC is that you go bananas for a bit then become normal again. I have no intention of doing either.

I've got mine planned, more-or-less.

I'm going to sack off my job, divorce my wife and live in a van. I shall ride bikes, play the banjo, learn to climb, learn to fish, and shall wake up in a bivvy bag on top of a hill most mornings during the summer season.

I had an early one, in which I drank a lot, had sex several times and took anti-depressants. It was OK. But I was only 31, so it didn't feel like I had to tick the box.

🙂

Apologies, haven't read the entire thread... At what point is one considered middle aged? Often I feel like I have early onset middle age, at 34. Don't feel in crisis though.

You will do, very soon 😈

I joined the fire service at 40. Bit of an eye opener doing my BA training with lads who were for the most part not much more than half my age, but it beats playing golf!

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decided that was [i]tooooo[/i] skinny so now i just stick at a healthier 13 stone. always experimenting tho...... 😀

Think I've had a MLC around 34, not as fun as everyone else, got depressed, withdrew as much as possible from everything, started taking ridiculous risks to get some adrenaline going which eventually resulted in a fairly monumental accident and 3 months in a chair. Got more depressed, drank beer, ate cheese went from 11stone ish to 14. Think wife nearly left me.

Kind of wise I'd just splurged loads of cash on a boxster.....

Btw it's all better these days.....think it is almost time for a "fun" MLC

I've not had a mid life crisis yet

I'll be 35 next year so I'm planning to have my first one then, and then every 5 years after that!

Haven't really got time for more hobbies to be though, I tend to add hobbies rather than replace them.

I'm thinking it's either going to be a different car, different motorbike or another hobby

I'd quite like a hobby I can do with my kids (they're quite young so as they get older they can do things with me for sure)

I would very much like to buy a fun car one day.. for me that's anything with more than four cylinders.. but I'd never drive it anywhere because of poor fuel consumption so I'd end up selling it after 6 months 🙂

BD, if those are your plans do you want to borrow my van in exchange for a loan of your beautiful wife?

And for the sale of peace, don't play the banjo.

47. Looking at BMX bikes.

Also getting back into mountainbiking, the gym, and fitness generally, after 10 years of domestic [s]distraction[/s] bliss.

Luckily, Mrs Knob is fully into it, describes me as a 'mountainbiker' not by job title, etc, so it's not really a crisis I suppose.

I see it more as a return of self — and that can only be good?

(Mind you, I haven't really hit the peak of riding/kit/training OCD that I know is inside.)

… this sounds good too, though, lol:

sack off my job, divorce my wife and live in a van. I shall ride bikes, play the banjo, learn to climb, learn to fish, and shall wake up in a bivvy bag on top of a hill most mornings during the summer season.

My friends and family will say I had my MLC a few years ago when I bought an Elise. I'd always wanted one (an Elise, not a MLC) but it lasted only 2 months before it got in a fight with a drystone wall...and lost.

Replaced it with a Boxster which lasted 18 months before (sadly) selling it. That was THE best car I've ever owned by a mile and I still miss it 2 years after getting rid of it.

Apparently suggesting that a car was better than an affair didn't soften the blow quite as well as I'd expected.

I still haven't got around to learning to drive, so I'll just have to have an affair.

I think I'm too old for one now.

Fast cars: got that out of my system in my twenties
Give up work: did that years ago
Mistress: if I couldn't find a better one than Madame when I wasn't grey and wrinkly what hope have I got now?
Live in a van: did that, it was a life of cold and condensation as I remember.
Extreme sports: did lots of those but no longer have the strength, reflexes or desire unless ski mountaineering counts
Ironman etc: done
Bivvy bags on hills: I prefer a tent with Madame
Play banjo: I prefer a Telecaster.
Ride bikes: did the Aubisque yesterday
Get a six pack: have always had one
Travel to exotic places: right here is the best place I've ever been which is why I'm here
Walk to Compostelle: done that a couple of times

So in the absence of anything to inspire a crisis I'll continue on my merry way till the reaper gets me.

I don't see a unicycle in that list...

Unicycle forwards, backwards, juggling on the spot, spinning around (edit: started in 1983). Next?

well 52 and i think midlife must have passed me by.. i ve always had toys.. cars bikes push bikes .. enjoyed the day at gisburn hub with my 9 and 12 year old daughters today still competing and winning at motorcycle trials and classic car trials and i ve had a stroke two heart attacks and have had open heart surgery.. is there something i ve missed out on..

I'll be 70 in a few months. I never came close to any kind of MLC.

I got everything anyone could have asked for and I'm still getting it. I was a rock band roadie and a bike bum for long time before I got married, so I partied hearty. After that, I'm happy with the way my family turned out.

Is there something I missed?

I got married and moved to Asia, binned or sold everything I had (bar the house) and turned up in HK with 2 suitcases of cloths, around 2k GBP in the bank and a vague promise of a job.