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My eldest is 21 and youngest 19. This is the first holiday without them since they were born (we fly out Saturday) I would pay anything for them both to be coming with us.
christ, I pick the bill up for both my kids and my parents!! Neither have 2 pennies to rub together.
I don't feel well. I read a Chewkw post, I know I shouldn't have, and I agree with it. I feel confused and a little dizzy. I know it's not right... .
I am so there. I assume that if I am in the position to pick up their tickets I am not also assigning them the burden of paying something without being clear about it.
I'm torn on this one.
Take for example my parents. They recently inherited some money and have been very insistent that they want to pay to replace the windows on my house. Personally I'm not that fussed and would rather they blew the money on themselves, however this is what they want to do. On the downside it probably is going to cost me lots of money to replace many of the blinds which will get ripped out at the same time. Not a big deal, but their generosity is now going to cost me money I would have chosen to spend on something else.
Back to the OP. She's got a 'free' holiday that she might have not chosen to go on otherwise and may have felt obliged to go on. This might have already cost her money elsewhere (holiday clothes? unpaid time off work?) and paying to eat out may not have been money she was planning on spending.
It would be much more straightforward if the ground rules are laid out upfront so she had the option to come or not.