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davidtaylforth:

I dont know for sure. Probably not though cos Im not greedy and dont sit indoors all day stuffing my face with chocolate, I go out and ride my bike because thats what I enjoy doing.

So what is it? You enjoy riding your bike or you don't?

So what is it? You enjoy riding your bike or you don't?

[i]I like riding my road bike but only because it makes me feel knackered/refreshed after a fair hard ride.[/i]

Which bit of that is hard to understand? 😉

January blues...try some new stuff?

Which bit of that is hard to understand?

All of it 😀

....I was referring more to the MTB side of things tho.

**** it, I might even buy 2 x 500g bars of cadburys (1x dairy milk, 1x fruit and nut) and just nail em after I finish work.

Job - get a new one then, or tell you boss and ask for redeployment or training

Mountain biking - Put your mtb in the loft and see if you miss it

BMX - BMX in the loft too

Getting drunk with my mates and acting like an idiot - Try going out and not drinking a couple of times - its an eye opener!

Playing guitar - learn another instrument, perhaps the harp?

Havent seen quite a few of my mates for ages, I dont seem to make the effort - make the effort and try doing new stuff with them - paintablling, trackdays etc

I like riding my road bike - ride it more

Stop wallowing and start living

This has happened to me in the last few months too. Work is slowly killing me and my new Merlin has languished in the garage just waiting for me to take it out. Even walking the dogs is a struggle now.

I'm not sure that you should go the for complete change of life; you could end up changing everything and then being just as stuck. It's far better to find one thing that can be changed and doing that to see if it works.

Shot-term, MTFU might work - we all hit troughs now and again - but you need to find out what is causing you to feel flat, then change it, then be happy again.

Do make sure a chat with the doctor is on your list. Might be the start of something that can easily be controlled but many people have to live with.

What mikey-simmo says.

go to an indoor climbing wall, something totally different and really good fun!

What mikey-simmo said.

I like riding my road bike but only because it makes me feel knackered/refreshed after a fair hard ride.

Which bit of that is hard to understand?

Well, I'm a bit stuck on the "knackered/refreshed" dichotomy.

Is it because it's winter and there is not much sunlight?

While there are potentially many causes post christmas anti climax and winter blues is the most likely candidate. plus a bit of growing up and increased maturity.

I have no real words of wisdom other than you are not the only one to go through this and it will pass.

I have the odd day (once or twice a week) where I feel decent (never thought about it but I cant seem to place why its just the odd day rather than everyday) but the rest of the time I tend to feel a bit shite. MTFU sounds like a good option

I can relate as my work has gradually sapped my will to live over the last year. All the other stuff is connected, given that work takes up most of your waking hours.

You have it in the last sentence 'change' - make some. Doesn't have to be complete change, just something/anything to shift the focus and give you new perspective/ aims etc.

How about a spot of dry stone walling miles from anywhere? Carry all your gear for miles. Snare a rabbit, camp out under a bit of tarpaulin?

Is it because it's winter and there is not much sunlight?

While there are potentially many causes post christmas anti climax and winter blues is the most likely candidate. plus a bit of growing up and increased maturity.

SAD maaan. Could be that, felt like this for quite a few months now.

How about a spot of dry stone walling miles from anywhere? Carry all your gear for miles. Snare a rabbit, camp out under a bit of tarpaulin?

Haha, cracking stuff!

knackered/refreshed" dichotomy

I'll see you there David, gonna snare me self a pheasant using me mouth. I'll just lie there, dead still like, until one pops its neck between my teeth.

What bait for getting a pheasant to put it's head in my mouth?

Everyones allowed to feel down but don't concentrate on it. Don't worry about the mountain bike. I had loads of plans about riding through the winter but one look at all that mud then "no way" so I've started running again. It's partly the weather partly just boredom with the routine.

work on developing some kind of perversion, the more deviant the better, perhaps something to do with amphibians?

Fed up? Miserable? Sad? THEN MOVE TO PEMBROKESHIRE AND FEEL REALLY BLOODY AWFUL! 🙁

Same boat mate - starting to sign-up for things like the Meridas / CRC events to have something to aim my lardy butt at!

work on developing some kind of perversion, the more deviant the better, perhaps something to do with amphibians?

I've hit an all time high in my depravity... I'm chatting up girls from Swindon...

TSY

God help yer hope she is not mid 40's single

She cost me a fortune

MTFU is never a good option.

To the OP

Get off yer lardy butt and do something good for someone preferably a complete stranger, it is strange the buzz you can get at times

To wallow in your own pit will not help

believe me

I've hit an all time high in my depravity... I'm chatting up girls from Swindon...

The most offensive thing I've seen on this forum so far!
We're not all that bad... Although I've spent the 3 years I've lived here trying to escape so I guess that doesn't say much!

lexiekay

I did 20 years 😕

thank god for internet dating

lexiekay

I did 20 years

thank god for internet dating

Hmm i've just decided to give up on that - new year's resolution!

Buy an Xbox

The only time I've been chatted up was in Swindon!

The only time I've been chatted up was in Swindon!

You must have big hands and a limp.

Probably lack of s3x.

[quoteI've hit an all time high in my depravity... I'm chatting up girls from Swindon...

I can piss on that mate, I married one

everyone appears to have a little bit of swindon in them, I've booked a doctors appointment to see if I can get mine removed!

I was hoping to get a bit of me in Swindon, not visa versa!

lexiekay... I do apologise... How [i]you[/i] doing?

emsz - what do you and your gf actually look like? You've never been out in the Oxfordshire town of Witney have you??

Take a look at yourself and make the change

Michael Jackson apparently

It's kind of encouraging seeing more than one of these type of threads appearing because I've been at a spectacularly, crushingly low ebb over the past couple of days. Makes me think it's not just me and that it might be a seasonal/ SAD thing.

Yeti: never been to Witney. Have a mate who works in a school there but lives in Oxford with his gf and we meet there. What do we look like? Seriously?

Why?

Nope, if you've not been to Witney it doesn't matter.
With your gf in Oxford and you going out in Swindon I thought I might have met you in actual real life.

Actually I came to reply to David. DT... if you've lost all the weight your speaking about on the other thread.. could this be effecting your mood??

hahaha you ****ing suck dave, what more encouragement do you need than looking at nick white being a goth? cheer the **** up! you posted a thread like this last year as well.

go and embrace life, shit job certainly doesn't help and maybe im sensitive but i had to get the **** out of mine as soon as i realised i hated it.

bitches dont walk up to your room and sit on your todger so go and find someone to do over

alternatively become rich as **** and travel the world forever

whenever i feel down or gothic i just think its a self inflicted state of mind so feel happy and i am.. simples

you can get enjoyment out of very little or no enjoyment out of a lot.. your call

go to a therapist or confide in a mate if you need to talk to someone dont mope do something productive.

**** sake simple innit? goth face

see you at home

Dunno, although that just seems to be a result of doing something I find enjoyable.

We're in Oxford mostly every other weekend. she lives just off Cowley Rd so drinking/ throwing up just outside in one of the pubs there or centre of town if we've got any money ( rarely)

Swindon was one off in some nightclub May have been Reading thinking about it Some random bloke tried it on!

**** sake simple innit? goth face

This is all the encouragement I need!

See you soon

people who talk about doing shit dont do shit, people that do shit do shit!

MTFU TAYLLFORTH MAN THE **** UP

are you eating well? i find that if i'm feeling unmotivated, bored etc etc it's quite often linked to diet - too much rubbish, not enough vitamins. not enough water. last time i realised that i'd only drunk coffee/ tea or beer for 10 days.

another time i drove to dundee, gorging on toblerone, barefoot!! 😉

mmmmm cowley road, even i (not being from oxford) am aware that its not a pretty place to be, murderingz and all sorts.

does he **** he eats a carrot and a rivita then does 50 miles on the bike and drinks about a tablespoon of water

get some gammon in ya

Accept what you cant change, change what you can accept!

Sounds like you can change all that stuff! Alternatively, do what I do and sign up for a challenge to get the motivational juices flowing.

I've done a Polaris challenge in the past - brilliant fun!
Or, with your road bike, sign up for a London to Paris event (i did that in 2009).

A local sportive event?

Camping trip with the boys?

Like motor sport - go to Le mans 24hr race - bloody awesome (we camped).

A new hobby?

get some gammon in ya

I do in secret. I often sneak to the pie shop for lunch but dont tell anyone cos I like the vegetarian image and Im scared I'll lose friends if they found out I ate meat!

emsz - you do realise you're on the official guest list for the next sexyparty at Swinley now, don't you? No chance that you can be in Oxfordshire most weekends without attending!

Phil Cowley Road is full of them stoodentz, apart from them it's really quite a nice place. 😉

ive been down lately too. been a really lonely christmas for me as my girlfriend left me in the autumn but you got to pull yourself out of it. diet is really important you know. eating loads of chocolate is just going to make you sugar crash which does feel like unexplainable depression.

my new years res has been to make a point of noticing the beauty in the world again. sounds corny i know but just making a point of thinking 'the colour of those redish brown leaves aginst the green of the grass is really stunning' etc at least once a day has really helped me out of my funk

chin up init spring is on its way the nights are already half an hr later. itll be long rides and beer gardens before you know it

TSY you should have been at Standen on Monday the Pheasants were just falling out of the sky... or maybe the shooters had something to do with it. Fortunately MTB'er wasn't on the menu.

emsz - me too, it was when I worked behind the bar in the coach & horses. Mind you chatted up might be overstating it, a forthright drunken proposition might be closer. Sadly my gf (at the time) was waiting at home.

DT perhaps you need to talk to TJ (or was it Simon) about CBT!

chin up init spring is on its way the nights are already half an hr later

Yeh your right, not long till spring now. But......

DT perhaps you need to talk to TJ (or was it Simon) about CBT!

is that the sound of the nights drawing in again?

To me you sound a bit depressed - just a bit but heading for the "black" It could be a touch of SAD or it could be simple depression.

There is no one answer to this. Self help works for some, talking therapies in various flavours for others, medication for others or more usually a combination.

Exercise, diet, all good for you. Eat well and push yourself to get out on a bike. set achievable targets and achieve them. Talk to your partner.

email me if you want any more detail

Cowley Road is like Pontins off season compared to the arse end of Swinedump, they are at it like dogs down the bottom of town, its inhumane, oh the horror, the horror, actually the final scenes of apocalypse now were all filmed on location just outside walkabout and down from yates's.

Where as CoCo's on the Cowely Rd used to do the best breakfast pizza ever!!

i'd only drunk coffee/ tea or beer for 10 days.

This is my normal fluid intake. 😳