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Just been invited in a stag do in Newcastle. Just shy of £200 including paintball,karting and zorb footy hotels + club entry spread over a full weekend.
Drink and food extra, as is getting there.
Am I just a boring old fart or is that bloody ridiculous? What's wrong with just getting your mates together for a few jars?
You are correct...
I guffawed at the invites to stag dos skiing and 'beefa.
That's a holiday, NOT a stag do...!
DrP
A couple of the groom's oldest mates are not minted but doing ok - families, mortgages etc but this just stops them even being able to entertain it.
I totted it up - you're looking at a £300 weekend easily, and that's not going mad with booze.
Spent a week in Verbier for a mates last year.
Hiking, climbing, Mountain biking and boozing with my best buds.
It was $$$. It was also bloody brilliant.
£300 is cheap for a stag!
A friend of mine recently commented on me not having a stag do - which I did, but clearly some folk don't consider a curry and a few beers worthy of the title of stag do!
I would rather a ride and a few pints in the local.
I do not get the spend more and total P*ss up culture.
£300 is cheap for a stag!
This. That's pretty good indeed.
Curry, beers and whichever Star Wars film had just been released for me, with a couple of proper good mates.
Shame really, 15 years on and still never been paint balling or to a strip club ...... 😛
I would rather a ride and a few pints in the local.
I do not get the spend more and total P*ss up culture.
The idea is that you do something which you won't really have the opportunity to do once you are married.
1st time was a mtb ride and bivi in mid Wales in the mide 90's . Last time was camping and walk in the north Wales hills. I decided what I wanted and those who wanted to play did.
The idea is that you do something which you won't really have the opportunity to do once you are married.
Really? Do some men expect to give up things like trips with male friends when they get married?
I'm fairly dull so mine was a walk across a hill to a pub and back then onto pub in town for the evening. Deliberately cheap.
I decided what I wanted and those who wanted to play did.
14 of us climbed the Old Man of Stoer for mine then pints in the Am Fuaran bar in Altandhu which some of the non climbers attended.
That's the thing ojom. I made mine deliberately cheap to include my mates (same ones in fact).
Mine was 2 days mtbing in Wales. Far more enjoyable than the actual marriage 8)
Like so many other things it's become expensive and commercialised. The industry (like the whole wedding industry) plays on our feelings that we should mark these life events with extravagant gestures and we justify them by saying its a special occasion or a one off.
I am with you Pook.
Curry and a few beers would suit me, may be a mtb ride during the day for those who wanted to give it a go.
I like to be able to get up the morning after a night out, not worrying if my head is going to fall off and explode.
Totally ridiculous. You are not wrong Pook.
Didn't go wild on mine but was still going to come in about £100 each so I paid for everyone. I didn't see why anyone should be too out of pocket for my wedding - being a guest is expensive enough.
Pook..we must be getting old and grumpy!!
I'll happily drop £300+ on something MYSELF, that I feel I wouldn't do after marriage (boy, was she worth it... the hospital weren't happy though.. 😉 ) but I wouldn't expect friends, wealthy or poor, to do the same...
DrP
Mine was curry, beers, nasty lap dancing bar.
Kept it traditional.
It's a stag do, not a quiet night down the local.
The thing is for the groom to look back at it fondly many years from now when he remembers how much his friends liked him, and proved it by dressing him as a woman, cable tying him to a lamp post and leaving his old chap exposed.
i'm having my stag in Norway it's 12 quid a pint whose round is it?
Isn't going climbing or riding a mountain bike just as selfish and still excluding some mates that don't/can't do that?
Op is not wrong.
Mine was a few pints in a pub.
he remembers how much his friends liked him
Like is measured in the amount of £ spent then?
The idea is that you do something which you won't really have the opportunity to do once you are married.
I would be reconsidering my impending marriage if I was going to be restricted like that - or reconsidering my attitude to life if it was me squeezing in one last naughty moment...
My purpose of my stag do was to spend time with some close pals and thank the, for thier friendship.
Don't get the 'get drunk, go to a strip club' thing at all, the mates make it not the venue!
All of my mates are now married so have been on a few stag do's (and one or two hen do's too 8) ) and they've ranged from a cheap night down the pub to expensive weekends away. One groom didn't want anything so the weekend before the wedding we took him down his local and just had a night in there, a cheap pub meal and a drink or two over two hours. As he and I are teetotal the drinking never got out of hand, still didn't stop the friends ripping him apart for the duration with stories 😀
The best one, by popular consensus though was where we all just went and stayed in a youth hostel in the Beacons for a weekend and went for a walk to some amazing waterfalls then a meal in a local pub. So relaxed it just flew by.
£100 on food and drink for a weekend. Are you staying in on the Saturday?
Like is measured in the amount of £ spent then?
Nope, and I didn't suggest that. Covering someone in swarfega and bird seed can be done for a surprisingly small sum of money.
Joking aside, the point here is that an effort is made to make it memorable, and that will most likely incur a cost. I agree that a weekend in Ibiza is costly, over the top and lazy thinking, but something more creative and personal may be a bit costly too. It's about balance
mine was just a few pints with old mates in our home town
Although I did have to travel back to the UK to do this and my home town is Bolton - so not exactly exotic in any sense
Mine was, like others a quiet affair. I never even had a formal best man such is the retarded nature of my friends circle/males in my family. So it was about as pared back as it could be. Still had a brilliant time. The best stag i went on was a bit pricier but involved a 'Wilderness Skills weekend' in the Cairngorms. It was excellent fun and a real laugh. Ex military guy teaching a group of 'lads' how to best use their wood, at night, in a forest. As it happens I'm sadly not mates with the groom any more, but his effort was perfect and I think it was only about £150 a head.
I have to say, I don't get the issue with £300 for a stag unless it's someone you don't like. The fact that it includes "including paintball, karting and zorb footy hotels + club entry spread over a full weekend" and so you're only paying for beer makes it a bargain in my eyes.
Yes, he could have just gone to the local but where's the fun in that? He can do that every weekend.
Plus, if you don't like it, don't go. Easy.
Really? Do some men expect to give up things like trips with male friends when they get married?
There is a trope
[quote=awful jokes thread]Why cant Stevie Wonder see his friends?
Because he got married.
And it dates to a recognition that when a fella get married, his life changes as he needs to take on more responsibility and grow up a hit and so he is less able to take part in 'irresponsible' activities like getting drunk or visiting strip clubs, hence this kind of activity is seen as one last night of freedom.
I have to say, I don't get the issue with £300 for a stag unless it's someone you don't like. The fact that it includes "including paintball, karting and zorb footy hotels + club entry spread over a full weekend" and so you're only paying for beer makes it a bargain in my eyes.Yes, he could have just gone to the local but where's the fun in that? He can do that every weekend.
Plus, if you don't like it, don't go. Easy.
I think this nails it. Personally I'd have to really like someone to afford that, but then I am a ****. I have turned down Ski trips before (I've never skied for starters) for a good mate of mine though as that was north of £500. He ended up having two stags... ridiculous.
Joking aside, the point here is that an effort is made to make it memorable
Well lots of people above seem to remember their 'cheap' stag do, so I still don't get why you have to spend hundreds on it.
Im of the less is more ilk....I basically didn't want a stag do at all! I was forced into a day at XScape in Castleford, which in fairness I enjoyed as id never tried skiing before, a curry and a few beers. This was plenty enough for me. I had enough to fork out already for the wedding without some overblown silly stag trip away.
What is a zorb footy hotel?
I would be reconsidering my impending marriage if I was going to be restricted like that -
So you don't think your social activities will change much once you are married?
I would rather a ride and a few pints in the local.
I do not get the spend more and total P*ss up culture.
The idea is that you do something which you won't really have the opportunity to do once you are married.
These will all go once he is married.
Edit. a mate just got back from a Birthday party (!) to Amsterdam, it was £8 per pint... 🙁
So you don't think your social activities will change much once you are married?
Mine didn't.
We had a HAG do ,hen /stag and went out for a Chinese with friends and lots of cider .My social life and my hobbies involve my wife as we always walk and cycle together
So you don't think your social activities will change much once you are married?
[b]Mine didn't[/b]
That's a shame
So you don't think your social activities will change much once you are married?
Married, no, children maybe.
So you don't think your social activities will change much once you are married?
They didn't. Have most people not lived together for ages before marrying these days? If you expect a partner to radically change their activities or behaviour on marriage then you're probably setting yourself up for a fall.