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Very sorry to hear that....how old is he? I lost my Dad a year ago, but as he had dementia, it was almost a blessing. At least you have some time left with him, which I suppose is better than him keeling over unexpectedly.


 
Posted : 10/09/2014 2:43 pm
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Very sorry to hear that. Courage mon brave.


 
Posted : 10/09/2014 3:03 pm
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AA - sorry to hear of this sad news.
i cant say anything new to you as its already been said by others and i agree with whats been said...all enjoy what time you have left with him and be there for him and your mum and be strong for each other...
my dad died 1 week after my 27th birthday and my mum died 1 week before my 30th...not a day goes by where i dont miss them...
prayers and thoughts are with you


 
Posted : 10/09/2014 3:34 pm
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One other thing, which can be difficult.

Accept that you may not be the person that either of your parents wants to talk to. When my mother died, my father was quite happy to discuss the practical things with us - all the funeral details etc - but didn't want to talk about the emotional side. I think he talked about it with his friends and his brother, but he didn't want us to know how he felt, because we are his children and therefore he shouldn't show emotion in front of us.

My mother didn't say much either, except to say that she hoped he'd find someone else quickly, and we should be glad if he did...


 
Posted : 10/09/2014 4:53 pm
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AA, stay strong mate. If you want a spin out to clear your head and talk, if your on your bike again, just shout.

Thanks. I am back riding but having my acl done on monday. Not great timing but at least I'll be off work for a few weeks.

Thanks for the thoughts everyone. I lost my brother two years ago very suddenly in an accident. My mum has lost 1 husband and one son and is now set to lose another husband..life sucks sometime. Must make sure I out live her! Ironically my brothers last words to me were "go steady on that motorbike".


 
Posted : 10/09/2014 5:35 pm
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My greatest sympathies AA spoil him while you can give him good times.

Not sure if others have mentioned buy ask about MacMillan nurses they are very good and provide support for all the family too.


 
Posted : 10/09/2014 5:37 pm
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Thanks. My mum was a MacMillan nurse for 20+ years..shes all over that!!


 
Posted : 10/09/2014 6:43 pm
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AA, you have my email address. Just say when. Good luck Monday.


 
Posted : 10/09/2014 9:14 pm
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