Cancer is a bitch. I am so sorry to hear what must be devestating news for you. My family has been and is still going through the mill with cancer at present (just lost an uncle and both my mother in law and auntie have it). I'm trying to do my bit by raising money for cancer research uk (doing the NC500 next month). All I can say is stay strong and don't give in to it, make memories with your daughter for as long as you can and maybe do something you've always wanted to do? I wish you the best of luck with the battle that lies ahead. Trevor.
My brother in law is just getting over chemotherapy and is awaiting radiotherapy for a tumor on his lung which was diagnosed while he was on holiday in the canaries. Initially he was terrified, tumor was size of a grapefruit. He's now been given the all clear. As someone has previously suggested make use of Macmillan they are fantastic. I'll pray for your recovery and your family.
Nothing I can say but healing vibes pal.
Have occasionally thought how would I react with similar news, you never know. If it helps keep posting on here, even if you to get words out, good advice up there on making notes, my memory is woolly at best of times!
Good luck
C
I too wish you courage, strength, with a good dose of peace and laughter.
I would also recommend that you go through the practical motions while trying not to think of them as harbingers of doom or as being morbid. Now really is the time to get things out of the way, so they don't hang over you, and are simply dealt with, ticked boxes. That's things like writing your wills, organising files with pensions, life insurance, power of attorney etc. It's not pleasant, but when it's done, it's there if things turn bad, and it's still there when things don't.
Don't forget the laughter. I really meant it about that.
Time to get some socks...
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Don't think anything other than it's perfectly ok to wonder how anyone deals with sh1t like this. I understand the appropriate reaction is 'f*ck cancer'. I wish you and everyone close to you all the strength and luck you will need. My experience is that more people have survived it and some very much against the odds. So you'll be one of them. Keep us updated as inspirational blogs are great for you and others to look back on!
All the very best fella and wishing you the strength required to face and fight this.
Look up David Andrew Smith athlete, you may find some solace and inspiration
Can't add much more than to wish you the best of luck and send healing thoughts from Spain - stay strong!
So much already said. Two things however definitely come to mind: -
1). All strength to you and yours
2). **** CANCER.
Brutal mate. Don't give up. Stay as healthy as possible - it will help with and therapy you get.
Enjoy time with your family. Make sure you see Oc health or whatever at work and get things sorted re Treatment.
My experience is that anyone clinical is absolutely amazing. Unfortunately the underfunding in the NHS means the admin support isn't there. Confirm when results, appointments will be, then follow up that with a phone call. They forgot to book me an appointment to tell me i had cancer, and they forgot to tell me it hadn't spread!
**** cancer.
Every so often somebody kindly posts some personel stuff on here that makes us all sit back and think of that person, today youre that person till you make a full recovery, we all sincerely hope you do wel in your treatment and prognosis next week, and do please keep posting updates on here, it helps you and it helps others, going through a similar thing.
Best wishes for the future and a big man hug from me.
Take any help that you can get including any medication or therapy to make life as good as it can be
keep talking to us and real people
Do it in your own way. Some people want to fight every day some people want to go for quality of life. You choose you own path
Make notes before you see the doctors. Make notes when your with the doctor
All the best. Really shocked by how fat life can go from good to bad. I hope you get some swings to good
Sending you slat hoofing vibes.
Good luck.
You've got loads to live for, so keep living. I know people who've come through the fight with cancer, keep fighting.
Fight the f*cker!
Get a 2nd opinion, find out your options, fight the f*cker.
Did you get put in touch with someone from McMillan ? From experience they are fantastic for practical and emotional support for all sorts of things.
If talking to the family/sharing your thoughts and fears is hard then come on here and distract us all from talking about artisan coffee beans. There is a wealth of experience and caring on this place - make use of it.
Good luck to you and your family.
just to add don't forget to look after your family, they will take it as hard, or harder, but in different ways.
I didn't appreciate this as early as i should have.
Look after yourself as well.
Thoughts are with you.
Don't want to be you
Every minute of every day to be the best dad and best partner. What will be is gonna be.
What you get to do is use the time now regardless
Good luck and **** cancer
James
All the best mate
Just adding my best wishes for you too.
I know loads of people who beat cancer, you can too.
Beat it then buy them socks.
Thats shit 🙁 best wishes and hope you kick its arse.
Gutted, stay positive , it can be beaten. fingers crossed!!
Jesus that's a tough post! Best of luck and fingers crossed that you can get some treatment other than palliative.
I take it that you are waiting for the pathology/genetics test results. Fingers crossed that it's something that you can get treatment for.
Also get a second opinion from a specialist cancer hospital if you can.
Chin up fella been through a similar experience with a young daughter and its so hard with children around, in the 4 weeks up to my Op they seemed to be the longest ever, I made the most of the time with my daughter and even managed to get married 8O. I kept positive and was very proactive in sorting stuff if things were to go the wrong way talk/drink and ride if possible it helped me. #cancersucks
All the best fella
Rich
Brave to share, stay strong. Nice to see the stw community come together when members face challenges.
There are times in life when you appear to have woken up in someone else's life. Nothing that is happening to you is familiar and none of it makes any sense. Remember that posting on here will help, but you'll not just be helping yourself you'll also be helping all of us as well. Helping us to appreciate all that we have in life and all that we hold dear. Don't ever for one minute think that you should not burden others with your problems, you'll do more for others than you'll ever realise. If just one person reads your posts and then spends just a few more minutes with their children or just tells someone they love them then you'll have made the world a better place.
It is scary and I can;t do anything other than wish you good luck.
Sometimes, saying things out loud is the hardest part. I haven;t been in your shoes but have certainly found a forum full of people I (mostly) don't know personally can be extremely cathartic. Make use of every avenue of support you have and that includes the lovely STW'ers.
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This! There are times you need to be supportive but equally times when you need to depend on others. Be a burden and take advantage of those who are rallying around you and want you to lean on them.
Very sorry to hear your news, get yourself plenty of hugs through such a difficult time
KBO
That news sucks. Sorry to hear it. That you say
means you've got some living to get done. What are your plans? What other options has your oncologist spoken with you about?the chemotherapy route would be palliative
Keep strong, good Luck and best wishes to you and your family.
Best of everything to you...infinitive amounts of karma for you and your family.
x
I'm sorry to hear the shit news! To echo what many others have already said, always stay positive and keep up the fight.
My mum was given months to less than a year with primaries in the bladder, secondaries in the lungs, diagnosed in Dec 2013. Despite the bleak prognosis, we've seen 3 Christmas's since then and scans to date are all stable.
So **** cancer and give it the old two fingers. Best of luck mate!
avdave2 - Member
There are times in life when you appear to have woken up in someone else's life. Nothing that is happening to you is familiar and none of it makes any sense. Remember that posting on here will help, but you'll not just be helping yourself you'll also be helping all of us as well. Helping us to appreciate all that we have in life and all that we hold dear. Don't ever for one minute think that you should not burden others with your problems, you'll do more for others than you'll ever realise. If just one person reads your posts and then spends just a few more minutes with their children or just tells someone they love them then you'll have made the world a better place.
So well said and oh so true.
avdave2 - Member
There are times in life when you appear to have woken up in someone else's life. Nothing that is happening to you is familiar and none of it makes any sense. Remember that posting on here will help, but you'll not just be helping yourself you'll also be helping all of us as well. Helping us to appreciate all that we have in life and all that we hold dear. Don't ever for one minute think that you should not burden others with your problems, you'll do more for others than you'll ever realise. If just one person reads your posts and then spends just a few more minutes with their children or just tells someone they love them then you'll have made the world a better place.
I can safely say this is one of the best posts I have ever read - on STW or elsewhere.
Thanks for all the responses folks. Had a pretty normal day today out and about which was a much needed distraction. Just back in base now for a couple of hours before the Welsh contingency arrives which I think will be tough. Mrs K, I and my sister are a few days into this whereas the rest of my family will be getting the full news first hand from me.
They really are a great bunch so I know it will be fine but just emotional.
After tonight I need to get ready for the biopsy tomorrow morning then take things from there. One thing I have been discussing with Mrs K and my sister is we are fortunate enough to be flexible on possibly where I get treatment so are thinking of maybe a specialist cancer hospital like Christie in Manchester. I'm originally from North Wales so somewhere like that could be an option for either treatment or a second opinion. I also have full bupa cover which may help to fund so more radical new drugs if required, not sure but an option. As yet I don't know how/if you can get referred to a specialist hospital any advice on that would be appreciated.
My work will be supportive and they have an extremely generous provision whether it be death in service or early retirement due to ill health which is a big relief for me and in turn our future.
That's it for now, time to prepare for the clampits to arrive later then take it from there. Cheers all.
All the very very best.
No words, best wishes and I really hope you get a glimmer of light in there soon.
I have nothing insightful or new to add to what's been said on this thread already, but you keep fighting and everyone else will keep supporting you.
If ever you feel you need to talk, complain or even cry, we'll all listen, give you manhugs and cry along with you.
All the best of wishes.
I am in spain so not sure if applicable in uk, but my friend in a similar position had a vague social connection with a consultant specialising in that field in a university hospital in a near major city. I say vague it was a friend of a friend.
Anyway, she went with her biopsy and blood test results and got seen just by turning up on a quiet day. The new consultant immediately took the case on and tweaked a few of the treatments. The chemo side effects have subsided and she is a lot happier under the new chap, albeit being further away.
Moral of the story is use every contact you have and look up the performance of each hospital.
So sorry to hear of your diagnosis, and wishing you every success for a swift and full recovery.
That's tough news and brave to share. My thoughts are with you for today and the road ahead. **** Cancer
