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often think about life after marriage
Me too mate, me too. But then I wake up and the snore monster is still there
My missus snores like a drunk, asthmatic gorilla. Needless to say we sleep in separate rooms. No issue as it turns out we’re not the only ones in this parish.
#1. King size duvet even on a double
#2. Preffer a king size bed if there is room
#3. Ear plugs for me so sometimes as I am a light sleeper.
#4. Make sure you're tired when you go to bed. Physically and mentally
When she’s away I sleep on my side of the bed with my bit of the quilt. I wonder what a psychologist would make of that.
When my wife is away, I sleep on HER side of the bed.
Sharing a bed
Nope, just can’t do it for various reasons which has proven extremely difficult when it comes to living with partners I’ve had over the years, primarily because I spent 4 months in a pneumatic/inflatable hospital bed that shifted positions every 30mins when I shattered my spine in numerous places back in 91 and ever since then I cannot sleep if there’s someone lying beside me, now I have secondary progressive ms to deal with so sleep is something I grab when I can whether that be in my seat or 30 min stints lying in bed before cramps and muscle tone wake me up. Think the last time I attempted to sleep alongside someone was back in 2007 with last gf and I flipped out due to 3 nights without sleep and called a day on that relationship.
I envy those that can sleep anywhere, at any time, in any circumstances…………..you bastards!
Our relationship is great except for being punched, rolled onto, covers stolen or being pushed off the bed during her sleep.
If you are being punched and pushed out of the bed...you snore.
Oh I do snore, but she never hears it because from the second her head hits the pillow, until after the third alarm has gone off, she’s asleep.
Shes just spent a silly amount on a new mattress, so next weekend things might have improved.
Regardless of the size of bed, i get naff all duvet and have to sleep on the edge.
A few years ago we went to separate duvets, far better.
Although it wouldn’t stop the fisting.
Also a spare room sleeper. Start off together, but I'm a light sleeper and the slightest snore or weird noise will wake me up for an hour or so. I've learnt it's pointless trying to get back to sleep, so head for the spare room or head downstairs to make a drink.
Although it wouldn’t stop the fisting
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Although it wouldn’t stop the fisting.
Yep better not google that one 🙂
but I’m a light sleeper and the slightest snore or weird noise will wake me up for an hour or so.
I tend to listen to an audible book when that happens, seems to get me back off to sleep.
Very common here in Sweden to have a king size bed with two single duvets.
Although it wouldn’t stop the fisting.
Well, I think I might find it difficult to sleep through that too...
I tend to listen to an audible book when that happens, seems to get me back off to sleep.
I have a recording of Binners explaining just how much he hates Jezzer.
Much the same effect......🙂
binners
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As to snoring, earplugs innit?
I laugh in the face of your earplugs. My snoring can cause structural damage to buildings
Nonsense.
We've cleared campsites before now.
A nice new pair of those silicone jobbies mentioned above and it's Goodnight Vienna.
Mind you, the first six months after giving up weed was hell........not a wink my dear.
I cannot sleep if there’s someone lying beside me, now I have secondary progressive ms to deal with so sleep is something I grab when I can whether that be in my seat or 30 min stints lying in bed before cramps and muscle tone wake me up
That's amazing I didn't know this happened during ms. Thanks for sharing. Sounds very tough.
Very common here in Sweden to have a king size bed with two single duvets.
That is just really sensible, in Scotland it's common to have 8 duvets and 6 coats on then have a fight over who gets the cat just for the small warmth it provides as it suffocates trying to stay warm, people round here think house insulation is a conspiracy theory.
I dont think there's anything wrong with this, at the end of the day sleep and therefore happy/decent sleep is really important. It can put you in a bad mood for the rest of the day and cause a fair bit of anger towards the other person for no real fault of theirs. We have a king size bed but OH was advised when he injured himself years back to use a memory foam bed so we sleep on his bed as its the bigger of the two. We then have my normal ikea mattress double bed in the spare room. I'm a front sleeper and his bed actually causes me pain and I wake up in the middle of the night in agony. I'm also a very light sleeper and he's a back sleeper so he snores and wakes me up. My illness means sleep is massively important as fatigue and exhaustion happens daily so I've started just moving in to the other room in the middle of the night when I get woken. I love it!!! My bed is far more comfortable with a nice plump duvet and properly nice pillows.
Just sleep in separate beds/rooms, you'll end up getting more kip, which will probably lead to more 70s sitcoms style rumpy-pumpy anyway.
Another sleep divorce here.
I'm an early to bed, deep sleep within seconds, snorer (allegedly), early riser.
Mrs B is a late to bed, frequent night time trips to the bathroom, sniffer, nose blower, late riser.
Moving into separate bedrooms a couple years back was a brilliant move for our domestic harmony!
Sleep divorce here too (although never knew there was term for it). We both just sleep better but I do miss waking up and having a bit of contact in the mornings. Too easy to rush out of bed, go let the dogs out, sort child, attend to mountain of chores and before you know it you've not touched each other for a fortnight 😉
Well **** me, thankfully it’s 5:23 so an acceptable time to get out of this hell hole of a bed and potter around (without waking the dog, or her son who’s bedroom is downstairs).
£1000 she spent on this mattress, it’s shit, sharing a bed is shit, no sleep is shit!
I’ve been awake since about 1am and I have an 8 year olds birthday party to endure today. This is not going to go well is it?
I guess moving in anytime soon is also off the cards as we would need a 5 bed house to still allow visitors over, we’re never going to be able to afford that.
My house currently doesn’t have a roof on it but I’m sleeping there regardless tonight.
which will probably lead to more 70s sitcoms style rumpy-pumpy anyway.
Humble brag, we’re at it like rabbits, that part of our relationship is very healthy 😉