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Will be writing things down for sure ready for the counselling. @iancity1 good point too, if its not working with the first counsellor I'll be prepared to try someone else.
You are right avdave2 I've seen friends and family come through rough situations and that is what I would always tell them. Just much harder to see while caught in the middle looking outwards.
Just much harder to see while caught in the middle looking outwards.
More than hard, impossible. And there is nothing wrong with it being that way, you're human and it's just the way it is. Be as understanding of yourself as you've been of your friends, know that they feel for you in the way you felt for them and remember a bunch of random people on the internet you've never met are all thinking of you too.
Honestly im blown away and moved by the support. When everyone is dealing with stress and uncertainty in their own lives too.
Impossible for now true. I think when the relationship first ended I was almost in denial, its only the last few weeks that size and implications everything have hit me.
Everything that was constant or a source of stability has gone, or at least changed.
So yesterday afternoon I found out its going to be a couple of weeks max left, so me and my sister are going to see him today for probably the last time as he mentally checked out a long time ago
I've been up since 3am going through old photos to take as he'll probably be lucid so will give us something to talk about and hopefuly bring better memories
Very sorry to hear this. I can only hope you are able to connect and share some good memories today.
As others have said to me do keep talking, the forum has exceeded my expectations there are some good folks on here.
Just to say I hope all who are struggling got through today ok.
I have a friend living and locked down with me who's struggling right now so I see it everyday. It happened to him before and I tried to do what I could, then it was my turn and he did what he could and now he's been lucky enough to go through it all again so it's my turn to do what I can.
To all who are going through it there are people who will and want to stand by you and to everyone who's well look out for those you can help, you may well need them one day.
Nice words avdave2. If theres one thing I'll take from this time its to never forget the people who are helping my through then make sure I repay them in anyway possible when the time comes.
Mixed few days for me. Yesterday maybe the worst of all - had no sleep at all and completely broke down with the pain of missing my family, home, everything. Very dark day.
Felt a bit stronger today, spoke to my daughter on the phone and started to plan to see her in the week. Still incredibly hard but its something to work towards. Longer bike ride helped too, mind racing but a few moments of remembering I can enjoy turning pedals and tyres on tarmac.
A daft little mantra I've been repeating... You are still in there. Under all the pain, stress and doubt. Still there.
Thinking of you NJ, good to hear you spoke with your daughter, however painful it may be that you are not seeing her, as the old saying goes, its good to talk.
Hang in there...
Hi, just a little update and maybe some advise.
Still feeling all over the place as to be expected, very low mood at times and all the same thoughts about my family and situation. Had one councilling appointment over the phone, not sure what to think yet - so far maybe felt a bit generic? conversation didn't go beyond what I've discussed with friends/family/here but its early days so I'll give it a few more sessions.
On the other side I've been on a couple of longer bike rides this week that I'm starting to enjoy again. All being well I should also be seeing my daughter for a day later this week. Also on the positive side i'm hopefully going to be starting some part time bike spannering in a workshop. My usual work is still months off but will be good to have a focus.
I've just started on the anti-depressants (sertraline) but I'm unsure whether to continue. The reason I'm questioning it is I've already noticed some side affects - mainly even worse sleep, feeling sick and a bit out of it. Really don't want to mess up the chance of work by feeling too unwell or not being 'with it' enough to concentrate. I'll call the gp tomorrow and see what they say. Those who have taken these kind of meds how did you cope with the first few weeks? did you manage to get on and work as usual?
Hope everyone else whose been up against it is hanging in there, thanks again for the support.
Thanks for keeping us up to date, good to see you have something to keep you occupied for some of the time.
After my wife died people thought I was a bit strange being back at work after 2 weeks, but I found it helped a lot to stop my feelings and thoughts overwhelm me.
On that note I have been called in so its off to work I go.
But its better than sitting at home and drinking.
Keep taking things slowly and try and smile if you can 🙂
Sounds like you are feeling more positive, that's a good thing.
just remember you can always post or vent on here, no one is judging.
keep on riding
On the antidepressants it's worth giving them a bit of time and if what you are takings isn't working then there may be another that does. My friend who's here with me is on his third prescription at the moment and that seems to be starting to work. Getting the right drug or drugs at the right dose can be a long process. The second ones he was on only saw him emerge from his room after midday and it would be 3 in the afternoon before he did anything at all. He's now getting up by 8 and gets out walking every day You're doing stuff and making plans which is really good
Cheers all. Another rough night turning things over in my head and little sleep. Really missing family life (and tbh my now ex).
There are some positives down the line though. Will be great if this
work comes off just being occupied will really help.
Bike business is apparently booming, I used to work in a shop so could be good timing getting back into it.
I'd only taken a couple of tablets so doc says it's OK to leave them for now if I'm insure. In reality it was too soon to experience any side affects so it was either in my head or just being under the weather.
I'm going to get through this week and if the underlying low feeling and anxiety are just the same I'll start again and commit to the full course.
Avdave as you say gp said there are other options for meds but need a good few weeks see how I react.
You are doing all the right things.
Riding the bike, getting out in fresh air and hopefully some countryside, making plans and most of all will be seeing your daughter.
One step at a time.