[Closed] Rant: Lack of sleep (babies)

Mrblobby get out now, both of you even if you think 'nah can't be assed'. Get drunk (you), go to dinner at mates, riding weekend etc as you've no idea how it'll affect you guys when the baby comes.

Nah, just makes it even worse when it happens. Better to start selling off all your bikes and start winding down your life in readiness. And repeat after me, DONT go near the business end.

Business end? A friend of mine, a very straightlaced teacher was on the maternity ward recovering when she heard the chavs in the next bed 'at it'. This is at Wythenshawe hospital Manchester....

Sleep deprivation, unless you have triplets with out of sync feeds or kids with sleeping disorders then you haven't even started yet!

After 3 years of my wife's MS causing an insane bladder I would love to have more than 2 hours sleep at a time. She's up 8+ times a night and needs help each time and then it takes 15 minutes plus. I sometimes find myself asleep at my desk!! ZZZZzzz

Hunger is almost always the problem in our house, FWIW.

This is at Wythenshawe hospital Manchester....

I am Jacks complete lack of suprise.

I do some work in Wythenshawe Hospital and my sister works at Lloyds HQ nearby and, apologies if any of the Wythie crew are reading, it is like Shamless x infinity

There is absolutely zero point in both of you being woken up all night every night - you need to look after yourself a bit and get some nights of reasonable sleep.

Wear earplugs, the foam sort that you squish & insert into your ear, and sleep in a different room either some nights, or for part of the night?

If that doesn't work, can you find a friend locally who will let you have the odd night in their spare room so you can catch up on sleep a bit? If your partner doesn't want to be left alone, can you find a friend/grandparent to stay over occasionally and help?

Jambo, hoping all works out well.

Things are starting to look up. The boys a fighter...

get out now ... riding

My wife came off her bike at Dalby while 12 weeks pregnant with elder son.

And at Les Gets while 10 weeks pregnant with our younger one. That was the point where I realised I really really wanted a second child. Les Gets medical centre were excellent by the way and both mother and child were fine with just a bit of rest.

Have you checked how bulky his pillow is?

I just wondered if your problems were down to too steep a head-angle?

😀

FFS. How do seasoned-dads cope?

The same way as you are.

Which reminds me - daughter (now eight) woke up at 2 a.m. on Monday and threw up all over her bedroom floor, which is oiled wood (nice high splatter factor) and strewn with her belongings. She then stepped in the vomit before coming downstairs to our room to wake me up.

It doesn't end.

I too would recommend sleep training. We didn't begin at day one, but rather somewhere around two months in (still no help to the OP). I see we've already had the first ridiculous 'Gina Ford is evil' comment and expect a torrent of them to follow, but her routine has worked fantastically for us and for all of our friends who have used it.

another one for MTFU and drink more coffee

ave you checked how bulky his pillow is?

I just wondered if your problems were down to too steep a head-angle?

Sorted that, he's got anglepillowset 😉

5 yr old wants to swap beds at 2am ish most nights. 20 month old wakes up at 4.30-5am most days (when not waking up a few times a night).
You just get used to being knackered all the time.
Puke all over the living room floor this morning for added fun too 🙂

Could be worse, bloke at works 7 year old pisses the bed every night 😥

s sex with someone that you really care about better then someone you've just met? Not just for the physical part obviously, but the emotional as well

hora, hate to sound harsh(or do i) you just need to mtfu. my lad is 13months and also dislikes sleep, he goes to bed around 8pm and he usually wakes twice before he gets up properly at about 6. we find it difficult but surely you are used to it by now? also me and mrs smith take it in turns to see to him. also getting out and riding tends to wake me up and makes me feel better!

things for us got better when junior moved to his own room. He would still wake up during the night, but we felt that this was just attention seeking i.e. his agenda was to get cuddled all night long and nobody got any sleep. So one night we decided not to lift him when he cried: He screamed for about 3/4 of an hour but since then he's been a great sleeper,needs to be woken in the morning infact. We've consequently got Mediterranian in our habbits..late tea,late bedtimes and late getting up (I really, really feel for folk who get woken at 5.30 by wakey kids,but if the little uns are going to bed at 6.30 then they are going to wake up early!)

Chickenman - not necessarily true - ours wake at 6.30 if they go to bed at 6.30. They wake up at 6.30 if they go to bed at 10...

Have to say I do love it when Nature intrudes into the carefully structured lives of urban/city/developed world folks....

It's a baby, they don't sleep like you do, suck it up parent types...

Morning all, welcome to daddies club. Anyone else up at 3 am this morning!? 😀

Yep 🙁

I'm working does that count? My 15month old son sleeps from 7pm to 7am.

So did mine a few months ago! Make the most of it while you can.

Morning all. Younger one has been up since 0520. C'est la vie.

The MTFU sentiment is probably not as helpful as we might think. Sure, for MOST parents losing sleep is all part and parcel of bringing a normal healthy child into the world, but parents need to do what they think is right, not what a bunch of strangers say on a forum. If - as a parent - you think it is normal that your child is waking every hour, then MTFU and move on, but don't forget there could be some underlying cause for it that needs addressing. I speak from experience.

Ironically since first posting on this topic I have had TWO undisturbed sleeps in a row. That hasn't happened since...well probably since before kids to be honest 🙂