Radical idea, anyone know any women we could ask?
I discuss feminism and gender politics all the time with my wife. Most of what I say is informed by her viewpoint and also that of my mother. I wonder why you assume that none of us do this and our viewpoints are all from ignorance? 😉
The topic seems to have undergone a significant drift as to the subject at hand, which, IIRC, was a rather painful looking tear in a young lady’s earlobe.
My suggestion, following a conversation with someone who has experience in the subject, was to go to a clinic or even better a minor injuries unit at the local hospital and have someone deal with it.
Have any steps been taken to sort out the problem? This is not from the point of view of cosmetic appearance, rather about getting a painful looking injury dealt with in such a way that once healing has happened, she can get a new piercing done by an experienced professional.
Men and women are judged on looks but it maybe true that societies judgement is on differnet criteria.
I've just spent two days sitting in a room with cosmetics R&D teams, with ethnographers and anthropologists and behavioural psychologists. That group knows, based on multiple data sources, that women are significantly more judged, by society, on adherence to a "beauty ideal" than men. It's not even close.
But whether the OP's daughter's issue is good use of NHS resources , that is a different conversation
Asking advice from the specialist piercing studio sounds best option
Have any steps been taken to sort out the problem?
Thanks for asking.
NHS (both A&E and our Dr) have said they won't do anything for it. We have no local MIU, so that's not an option.
I've spoken to a local private place, which quoted around £800 to repair it (£155 just to look at it!).
From talking to her about it, she's def not keen on the suggestion of reopening it and sticking it together!
She says that it doesn't hurt at all, and as it's barely visible unless you're looking for it she's happy to leave it as it is.
The thing she's most bothered about is that it means her 2 remaining piercings are now spaced further apart than she'd prefer <insert eye-roll emoji>. I'm wondering about getting a clip-on ear-cuff for her, or something similar to fill the gap and hide the split (once-it's had chance to properly heal - obvs).
She likes the suggestion of asking the piercing place where she got the 3rd one done (they'd commented on the other being low, when the 3rd was done), but obviously that means a teenager making an effort, and going out of their way, so it may never happen...
She says that it doesn’t hurt at all, and as it’s barely visible unless you’re looking for it she’s happy to leave it as it is.
I was going to suggest getting another piercing slightly higher. A dangly earring would then mostly cover the cut if she's self-conscious about it.
It does rather sound like you're more concerned than she is, however. 😁
I was going to suggest getting another piercing slightly higher
She's already said she'd like to do that, I think once it's had chance to settle down that may happen.
It does rather sound like you’re more concerned than she is, however. 😁
Roles have significantly reversed there 😀 On Sat it was the end of the world for her, whereas I was "it's just a nick", now she couldn't care less, and I'm wanting to make sure she's happy longer-term with however it's left...
A couple of years back, thanks to a bottle, my ear was split (back of ear about 1cm cut all the way through). I had that stitched back (A&E wouldn't do it as didn't think they had the skill but got me a spot in a different hospital ENT department for a couple of hours later). They did a good job but it's certainly noticeable (the scar tissue bulges quite a bit), doesn't bother me but probably would if I was in my youth. So yeah if the appearance matters I wouldn't try and bodge it with re-cutting and gluing/stitching as IME the scar tissue will still be noticeable (although where my cut was it's going through the cartilage etc. so might have healed worse than it would on an ear lobe).
