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I read somewhere that the average 30-40 year old man in 2017 has seen more vaginas than ALL his ancestors combined. That's a lot of vagina. 😯
More or less impossible to control so I always took the view that they're going to see regardless of anything you might do so, better to talk about it and make it clear that what they are seeing has little or nothing to do with real sex and relationships.
I explained it as Porn is to Sex as WWF is to fighting.
I read somewhere that the average 30-40 year old man in 2017 has seen more vaginas than ALL his ancestors combined. That's a lot of vagina.
They don't look as scary as they sound anymore either. In the 80s, a vagina at least looked as if it might bite you or something. All the shaving and bleaching means they don't look half as threatening. 🙂
entirely depends on the child. With my own son (when he was about 14 ) We had a discussion about respect for women, trust, sexuality and curiosity. While I didn't overtly monitor his activity on line (he had a laptop in his room) we had one simple rule.
At any point either me or his mother could walk in and ask for laptop to be handed over for inspection of cache, browsing history etc (lack of either of these two things was instant rescinding of privileges) no if, but, or hang on a minute...
I know there are loop holes in that, he knew the loop holes as well, but it was mostly about trust .
I read somewhere that the average 30-40 year old man in 2017 has seen more vaginas than ALL his ancestors combined. That's a lot of vagina.
I can't really answer in an objective way. My mate found a bin bag full of Swedish Erotica in the lane beside our houses when I was eleven. It was up there with pornhub. pretty explicit. Agricultural even.
Did this discovery colour my formative relationships? Don't know - my partners were often equally enlightened because they were equally exposed to this stuff and wanted to try stuff out.
I wouldn't want my son (now four) to discover all this stuff until the time is right but the new hedge-porn is the interwebs and it is what is is.
Nothing much has changed between 1985 and now, other than instant gratification.
That's a lot of vagina.
Many thought the film-style "money shot" was a perfectly acceptable part of [b]procreation[/b]
They were [i]really[/i] not paying attention in Biology classes!
Teenage pregnancy rates have reduced significantly in the last 10 years. I think internet porn has helped as teenagers now think the norm is either a**l or money shots :).
Depends if the OP has any thoughts on the likely exploitation of some of those who will be appearing on his lad's laptop. If that's not an issue for him, then I don't see how he'd limit consumption these days anyway.
Teenage pregnancy rates have reduced significantly in the last 10 years.
Or, perhaps that's complete crap. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Teenage_pregnancy_in_the_United_Kingdom
Perhaps they've all visited Mumsnet and are doing it up thr bottom (as advised by certain members of stw).
Empower girls to say what they want and what they don't want to do. If the boy can't handle that then tell him to grow up.
Tell boys that double anal penetration is not normal and girls might not love it.
All the shaving and bleaching
Is just wrong. What is wrong with body parts as nature intended?
Is just wrong. What is wrong with body parts as nature intended?
Do you shave your face and cut your hair?
What's the difference?
Do you shave your face and cut your hair?What's the difference?
Pubic hair stops growing obviously.
I prefer not getting a sore tongue or picking hairs out of my mouth
The reduction in body hair is probably porn's greatest gift to us. I had an ex that sported something akin to Davy Crockett's hat after an altercation with an axe-wielding maniac - she thought it was bordering on paedophilic to prefer waxed or shaven but was more than happy to shave her legs and armpits... 🙄
There's a huge pressure on girls to conform to what boys expect of them or what their peers consider is normal. This has always been the case but ineternet porn has added a whole new layer to this. And forget anal, bondage or threesomes, even the posters on STW expect a certain type of "normal".
The comments above on shaving and bleaching are great examples. Yeah, lets put up with a shaving rash or the pain of waxing just because the pre-pubescent look is now considered normal.
Some of you lot sound like you're part of the problem.
And what do you mean you don't like oral sex? All girls love the smell of unwashed cock and the taste of Jism - its all over the internet, you must be weird if you don't give head.
wow - jism isn't on the swear filter!
wow - jism isn't on the swear filter!
Yeah, that surprised me as well. And "unwashed cock"
Sandwiches any one?
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mattyfez is a bad man.
I nearly choked on my cuppa.
How are you going to monitor it?
One handed, obviously.
Mattyfez, I'm on a conference call, had to hit mute after seeing your 'rolls'
I explained it as Porn is to Sex as WWF is to fighting.
Sorry, what's this got to do with Pandas?
Sorry, what's this got to do with Pandas?
Depends on what websites you're browsing
Really tricky one - 13 year old son and 10 year old daughter.
My parents took it on trust with me. They knew I had mags, but it was on trust, and relationships were different to pron.
Taking the same approach with my lad. Seems to be working so far. We'll find out in the next few years. The cup of tea consent video and the Channel 4 Sex Ed documentary were compulsory viewing at home. The latter should be compulsory viewing in schools as well, deals with pron brilliantly
Subscribe them to the school of life channel. Youtube. You may be pleasantly surprised.
This reminds me of when I used to fly radio controlled aircraft.
The weather forecast for one particular weekend was awful, high winds and rain all weekend, so instead of turning up with all the normal models we decided we'd set up a computer with a simulator in the cabin cook a curry and just generally have a bit laugh.
The computer was supplied by the secretary's 14 year old son.
I totally agree with what somewhatslightlydazed said on the previous page.
And by the way, those of you who are scared of a bit of hair:
1. Women who shave or wax it all off are more likely to have sexually transmitted infections.
2. The fashion for shaving and waxing everything off is gradually falling out of favour, so I've heard.
Thanks Mattyfez - just choked on my post dinner cuppa.
This reminds me of when I used to fly radio controlled aircraft.
The weather forecast for one particular weekend was awful, high winds and rain all weekend, so instead of turning up with all the normal models we decided we'd set up a computer with a simulator in the cabin, cook a curry and just generally have a bit laugh.
The computer was supplied by the secretary's 14 year old son. Anyhow after a couple of hours we'd got bored of the simulator so decided to check his internet history, to be fair he'd hidden it quite well, but after a bit of searching there it was, every porn site he'd ever visited!
Cue 10 blokes crying with laughter while poor Stuart stood there, going a deep shade of scarlet, his head in hands, absolutely mortified while we discussed the finer points of his search criteria.
We even managed to catch a photo of the moment for prosperity, it's a shame I don't have access to it now.
I had to reassure him it perfectly normal, and his dad would be fine after he came up to me a little while later asking me what would his dad think. 😆
About the porn thing... meh, it's an age old phenomenon.
I like the wrestling/fighting analogy for explaining the difference between porn and sex to confused teens though! 🙂
As for people concerned with fashions in sexual practices - Dont be so reactionary..
Sexual revolutions are also an age old thing.. It really shouldn't matter what's in fashion if the people involved are consenting, respectful and hopefully maybe even having sex as part of a loving relationship..
Experimentation and developing personal preferences are part of growing up..
We're still at the total ban stage at home, he's only 11 so we're more concerned about accidental access to grot at this stage - he's got a mobile but the 4G access is restricted (account in my name so he can't access it) and he can't access it via the wifi at home. We share a PC and a laptop but he had his own restricted logins.
Can't last forever though, Microsoft and Apple both consider 14 to be 'of age' and they hand over total control to him on his 14th Birthday, he'll be gagging for a bit of grot by then Id guess.
Cos they don't exist. It's either ban it all (your isp can help) or non of it and as you can't ban him (24hrs a day), that kinda leaves one option.How are you going to monitor it?
Good luck with banning it at home! You are aware of the existence of smartphones?
So, what recommendations does the lad have?
To what extent would you monitor or restrict your teenage child's access to pornography.
I can guarantee that if you're worried about it, next time you catch him watching some, look enthusiastic and say "is this the one where they errr... you know...?" Then ask if he doesn't mind if you watch too...
Your teenage son's pornography consumption, or lack thereof, will be a problem no longer!
😆
While I didn't overtly monitor his activity on line (he had a laptop in his room) we had one simple rule.At any point either me or his mother could walk in and ask for laptop to be handed over for inspection of cache, browsing history etc (lack of either of these two things was instant rescinding of privileges) no if, but, or hang on a minute...
Well I suppose that at least teaches him the basic of using Incognito Mode and/or installing a second browser purely for grot. 😆
About the porn thing... meh, it's an age old phenomenon.
Yeah but it's a bit different from the days of a crumpled Razzle and the lingerie pages from the Littlewoods catalogue.
Today's kids grow up with instant access to an endless stream of images and video, much of which is incredibly graphic and depicts violent, abusive or illegal acts.
I was put off porn for life as a 15 year old when one of my mates put on one of his dad's videos and then proceeded to crack one out right in front of me whilst encouraging me to do the same. Perhaps a similar approach with your son might have the same effect?
Film you and his Mum at it....... Restrict access to porn sites and leave your home vid saved on his laptop
And back to the topiary..... You know, someone could de-fur themselves because they actually like it and prefer the increased sensation, not because porn films say they must *Roll eyes smiley.
Try it, you may like it
by the way, those of you who are scared of a bit of hair:
1. Women who shave or wax it all off are more likely to have sexually transmitted infections.
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Is this an *Actual fact, or an STW Fact..
Seems like complete bulkshit to me.. 🙄
Is this an *Actual fact, or an STW Fact..
Seems like complete bulkshit to me..
It's based on a study reported recently and can be found on the NHS website and was on the BBC website. I don't know how to post links but it's easily found if you want to look. It may be related to micro abrasions in the skin caused by hair removal being more likely to harbour infections.
Female pro cyclists are also saying no to shaving as it increases damage from the saddle.
Whatever, there was a load of nonsense a while back about it being more hygienic to shave. That is bullshit.
I was put off porn for life as a 15 year old when one of my mates put on one of his dad's videos and then proceeded to crack one out right in front of me whilst encouraging me to do the same. Perhaps a similar approach with your son might have the same effect?
I guy I used to work for went into his bedroom to be confronted by his old man cranking away at his old chap while looking at his rhythm pamphlet collection. 😯
I don't have an answer but I do have a point . I represent a 15 year old boy who has been detected accessing a shed load of unpleasant porn and allegedly sharing with mates online.
The police are seriously trying to destroy his life in ways that will never be undone.
My son is too young to yet worry me but I will be doing my utmost to educate him and restrictively protect him as he grows.
So as Hill Street Blues says be careful out there.