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 DezB
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[i]it does seem the norm for people (of both sexes) just to stop sending emails without reason or warning. Just means they've found someone they prefer over you but haven't got the decency to tell you[/i]

I've only been on the site a few weeks, but I've done that! 😆 (Only because others did it to me)

[i]doity dating sites.[/i]

I must confess to browsing one of these. I (honestly) felt physically sick at the photos on there. The horror.


 
Posted : 16/10/2013 11:07 am
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Your wife must be delighted by your level of experience on internet dating sites especially the dirty ones - remind us again how long you have been together?

I would agree with Shib the festival pics are to make them look edgy just like the gym claim is to make them look [ often despite the pictures] fit and active


 
Posted : 16/10/2013 11:07 am
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[i]Your wife must be delighted by your level of experience on internet dating sites especially the dirty ones[/i]

Some are seeking group activities, I believe...


 
Posted : 16/10/2013 11:10 am
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😆

and 😳 at my ignorance and prudishness


 
Posted : 16/10/2013 11:12 am
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Your wife must be delighted by your level of experience on internet dating sites especially the dirty ones - remind us again how long you have been together?

I've nowt to hide/listen/read. However I know even some STW'ers have hidden hobbies etc. Do you think everyone on here is meat/two veg and happily-married with no cheating?

Oh junkyard.


 
Posted : 16/10/2013 11:14 am
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I got a message off a young lady who was hoping to find someone to join her and her husband for a [i]ménage a trois[/i]...

They were outside my 40 mile radius though.


 
Posted : 16/10/2013 11:15 am
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Do you think everyone on here is meat/two veg and happily-married with no cheating?

no i assume they are not but it was meant more in jest than to offend
Sorry.


 
Posted : 16/10/2013 11:19 am
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ménage a trois...

Is that somewhere to keep three horses...


 
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Posted : 16/10/2013 11:28 am
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likes: this, that, the other
dislikes: people who skirt around what they're actually meaning to say


 
Posted : 16/10/2013 11:32 am
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Quite new to all this. One thing I've noticed is the 'range' of photos in a profile. Can sometimes look like three different Women! Oh, and those that post a pic of her with a mate, so you don't know which one is 'her'. Could be fun in a 'Russian Roulette' stylee...


 
Posted : 16/10/2013 6:34 pm
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Surely the usual rule of thumb is that she will be the least attractive one in the photo and hoping you guess wrong.


 
Posted : 16/10/2013 6:43 pm
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🙂

Indeed. I'm such a noob. Hence just lurking at the moment.


 
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Leaving you free for the likes of me 😉


 
Posted : 16/10/2013 11:17 pm
 DezB
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Oi! No fishing on my thread!


 
Posted : 17/10/2013 9:31 am
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yes hammyUK, you are only allowed to fish for dezb no here . . . and there's a long queue apparently so you'll have to get to the back (of the queue that is 😉 )


 
Posted : 17/10/2013 10:23 am
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Has this gone off the boil then, or are you still texting the saucy Internet minx, Dez?


 
Posted : 17/10/2013 10:26 am
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No - I've not been available, so she'll have to wait 😉

(Just seen got another message last night from a lovely lady who is into decent music 😀 70 miles away though 🙁 )


 
Posted : 17/10/2013 10:32 am
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Why should 70 miles matter? My gf is 40 miles away - just made it easier to come up with the first excuse to stay over. 😉

edit - actually, she's not 70 miles away - she's in the kitchen making me a brew right now...

Rachel


 
Posted : 17/10/2013 10:40 am
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I can't drive 2 miles without losing my mind.
No woman is worth a 70 mile drive. Maybe I'll try the train if it goes anywhere!


 
Posted : 17/10/2013 10:42 am
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No woman is worth a 70 mile drive.

Well, when I met the lovely lady destined to become Mrs16 (the lucky devil 😉 ), she was living in Liverpool and I was in Leeds. That meant loads of long trips, on the National Express no less. Worth it, though.


 
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a lovely lady who is into decent music

So you are not looking for someone who shares your tastes then 😉


 
Posted : 17/10/2013 11:03 am
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Maybe I'll try the train if it goes anywhere!

You better hope it does...

I have no advice to offer. I like bikes, beers and my beard. Fortunately for me, so does my other half (7 years).


 
Posted : 17/10/2013 11:06 am
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You wouldn't see a perfect woman because she's 70miles away?!!

The woman I'm dating is 110 minute motorway drive away from me


 
Posted : 17/10/2013 11:12 am
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110 minutes? Blimey. No, I can't do driving. Not for anything. (Well, sometimes to see bands but they're important, like.)


 
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Posted : 17/10/2013 11:18 am
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I use a doughnut principal: no closer than 10 miles and no further than 50 miles.

This helps avoid becoming tunnel buddies with people I know, and keeps fuel expenditure to a minimum...

Likes fresh meat, the environment and late night booty calls.


 
Posted : 17/10/2013 11:35 am
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[i]tunnel buddies[/i]


I feel I've lived a sheltered life compared to some.


 
Posted : 17/10/2013 11:37 am
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I never met anyone to go on a second date with through POF but I had plenty of decent evenings with nice people, just none that really clicked for me. You've got to filter the nutter though!

I definitely put a few girls off with direct approach (3 messages rule - ask them out in 3rd message) as had too many experiences of endless texts which just faded out or when you did meet up there just wasn't any attraction there. I reckon it's about 50/50 for girls who thought similar and those who wanted to message for weeks first...

I think POF is definitely a numbers game whereas some of the other (pay) sites are a bit more tailored - I went on far fewer dates through fitness singles, but definitely higher chance of clicking with people from there.

And on the distance thing - current girl definitely feels like a keeper, met in the real world not through internet but she's 200+ miles away... The tricky bit is getting through the initial getting-to-know-each-other and figuring out if it's worth it - takes a bit more planning than popping down the pub for a pint - but once you know then you just work around the distance/travelling.


 
Posted : 17/10/2013 11:39 am
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Ok Guys, riddle me this.

Lovely girl messaged me a few days back, exchanged numbers, texts and a few phone calls.

All seemed to be going well, she said she'd phone Tuesday night and was good for that, she was really keen and got a bit 'heated' on the phone, she invited me round to hers on Wednesday, 5 mins later the phone cut out mid sentence while she was talking.

Tried to call her back and it was dead. Flat battery I assumed, went back to fixing my tyres.

Not heard anything since and she's subsequently deleted her profile.

I've sent her 2 texts since (one after the phone died, another the next day asking if she's alright)

I can't work it out, which trapdoor have I fallen down? Should I just chalk this up to mentalist behaviour and steer well clear?

I'm going out with my old mistress tonight, my trust Mega.


 
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Scaled, was it on POF or a pay site? If a profile vanishes off POF, it's been deliberately removed but her membership could have just expired on a pay site.

Sounds a bit odd, the "getting heated" bit is unusual unless you've specifically tried to get the conversation into that ballpark...

Sounds like a nutter, a scammer, or a married/attached woman that's been caught out!


 
Posted : 17/10/2013 11:48 am
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Not heard anything since and she's subsequently deleted her profile.

Married /in a relationship and got found out?

Who knows? If she wanted to contact you she would and she has not- you dont need to be an expert in human behaviour to read what that means even if we dont know why she did it.
Granted it is a bit odd/weird and would make me think as well.


 
Posted : 17/10/2013 11:51 am
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It was POF, I thought it would be a getting to know you chat as we've both got kids, took me by surprise!

The last one occurred to me, heart says throw one more phone call her way on the way to my night ride head says RUN FOR THE HILLS


 
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Another thing to be very mindful of, there are a lot of women that have a row with their boyfriend, set up a profile and will talk very openly/suggestively with the first bloke that pays them any attention, only to bottle it and make up with the ex a few days later.

Sounds like she could be one of those...


 
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RUN FOR THE HILLS

That just screams straight run for the hills.


 
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Why should 70 miles matter?

wish mine was 70 miles away, would have to ring before leaving to make sure I was really in


 
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I'd hoped this thread had moved on a bit. I've got a date on Saturday and I was hoping for some tips. We were going to cycle to a pub but the weather will probably rule that out. I thought maybe a cosy pub with a fire then to a screening of Brigadoon in an art gallery.


 
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