[Closed] Online dating help...

[i]Do you get to rate your date afterwards?[/i]

Yes, although I'm not sure if anyone but the datee sees it.

There is a feedback facility on POF but it's really not used very much... If you think about it, why would it? If the date went well, you wouldn't want to big that girl up to other blokes, and it would be rather ungentlemanly to give an honest rating of a disastrous date!

And there was me thinking I'd taken my picture off because the number of messages was just silly - but I now realise its because im butt ugly 🙂

On the other hand I havent logged in for ages so am not really a serious pof user, and probably shouldnt comment 🙂

[i]I'd taken my picture off because the number of messages was just silly[/i]

How many a day? Just interested to know how many a butt ugly female would get 😉

adjustablewench - Member
And there was me thinking I'd taken my picture off because the number of messages was just silly - but I now realise its because I'm butt ugly

matter of opinion 😉

So you took your pic off just to reduce the amount of messages you get?? Yeah right. 🙄

Shibboleth. he know how to talk to ladeez 😆

Yup, even the ugly ones... 😉

* likes stroking, striking and streaking 😀

happy to be ugly to you Shib - unfortunately all you need on pof is a pulse an a pic to show you aren't actually a pig-in-a-wig and you really do get bombarded, but others have said the same too so you don't have to take my word for it 🙂

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the search is over!
My inbox:
[i]How are you?? My name is Anastasiya! i seek a gentleman. I enjoy walking, arting! Write me mail on nastya.anastasiya@poczta.onet.pl Bye bye, Anastasiya.[/i]
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Oh yesss!

(Shame her "F" key isn't working)

Sounds legit. Send her your bank details, skip the small talk.

adjustablewench - Member
all you need on pof is a pulse an a pic

You have a pulse? (runs off to see where the hell Oxspring is.......)

likes women with a pulse, sarcasm and google maps

google search on the image finds nothing... seems legit 😉

well she looks 'armless

is that lass trying to show us she shaves her pits?

(Shame her "F" key isn't working)

Good thread. Thoroughly approved.

Surprising who you end up chatting to 🙂

oh, Hello again Hammy 😉

Well I took a bit of advice from this thread. Spotted a rather nice blonde lady on a dating site and sent her a message. Turns out she is into mountain bikes although this wasn't mentioned on her profile. Then on the third message I asked her out for a drink as per Shib's advice. So far no response but it was later on last night. Fingers crossed.

Hey! I was after her! 😆

I asked her out for a drink as per Shib's advice

Then on the third message I asked her out for a drink as per Shib's advice. So far no response but it was later on last night. Fingers crossed.

Good luck Mister P! Fortune favours the brave... If she doesn't reply, you can always fall back on the "Sorry, was I rushing things? I just thought we had a lot in common so it would be good to meet, see if we click..." sort of thing.

I tended to include a bit of NLP when asking... On the second or so message (right after she's asked how you're finding the website - they always do) I'd throw in something like "Yeah, there seem to be lots of nice people... A lot of people just seem to be looking for pen pals and never actually go on dates!!"

That way, she'll be keen to prove to you that she's not one of those people that frustrate you so much... (for all the doubters, shoot me down, but 90% of the time, this works ALL of the time ;))

Then, when you come to ask, you say something like "so, are we going to meet for drink? Or are you one of those girls that just likes emailing..."

It's just sales... Attract, convert, close. Then seal the deal 😉

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of course you could play games and use his cunning Jedi mind tricks.
Then again you could just have the confidence to be yourself rather than project a façade to cover up your inadequacies and lack of confidence

Likes baiting,honesty and people comfortable enough to be themselves

people comfortable enough to be themselves

This [i]is[/i] me being myself... 😉

You might have the rest of your life to "be yourself", but you'll never know unless you win the dating game.

[i]Then again you could just have the confidence to be yourself rather than project a façade[/i]

Nah, tried that, doesn't work.. 🙁

(I know there was a thread about it, but what is the actual point of cuterunner's posts?)

[i](for all the doubters, shoot me down, but 90% of the time, this works ALL of the time ;))[/i]

I better dig out my Sex Panther aftershave.

What happens when you meet for the first time and tnink they are nice but I dont fancy them at all. Whats is Lurve meister Shibs advice for that?

[i]Whats is Lurve meister Shibs advice for that?[/i]

Er, tell them?

(sorry that's my advice!)

I just said, "I don't think we're destined for romance" something like that. They'll know anyway (or be broken hearted!)

I'm not sure the "be yourself" bit really applies when it comes to sending messages on dating sites.

Presumably you are on there hoping to get into a relationship. It's impossible to do that unless you meet first. Getting a date on a dating site can be surprisingly difficult. You need to be fairly assertive/ aggressive to make it happen

Once you are actually meeting a real life person face to face then you should definitely be yourself and not attempt creepy pick up artist techniques you read about in "the game"

What happens when you meet for the first time and tnink they are nice but I dont fancy them at all.

You have the best time you possibly can, and with a bit of luck, you might make a friend out of it. I have to say, the worst thing about the process is having to let people down, but as long as you're not unkind, it shouldn't be a problem.

There have only been a few dates where it's been so clear that we don't get on, and in those instances, it's come as no surprise to either of us that the other one didn't text back!

But if she's keen and you're not, you've just got to be decisive and fair. Obviously, once you've met, it's real life, so real life rules apply - be a gentleman and consider her feelings.

Generally, I would stress what a good time you had, what a lovely person she is (they usually are if you've got to the date stage) but that you're disappointed that there wasn't that spark... Maybe you're just a fussy bugger, etc, etc, etc. It gets harder after a few dates...

It's impossible to do that unless you meet first.

How is it impossible to be yourself unless you meet 😕
be yourself when you chat/e-mail text

Getting a date on a dating site can be surprisingly difficult. You need to be fairly assertive/ aggressive to make it happen

Junkyard, my advice to you would be to NEVER, under ANY circumstances, try to be yourself...

They'll just think you're an irritating, argumentative, obtuse prick and that they'd rather become a lonely old cat lady than date you.

Lolz at the irony as that is your true self right there and I doubt it appeals to many hence you NLP them with your patter

Its been a light hearted thread no need to do that and drag it into the personal

Oops, soz Junk, I forgot the winky smiley... 😉

Junkyard - lazarus
It's impossible to do that unless you meet first.
How is it impossible to be yourself unless you meet
be yourself when you chat/e-mail text

I said it's impossible to get into a relationship unless you meet. Not it's impossible to be yourself when messaging. I'm just offering advice, you seem to want to get into a pointless, pedantic argument for some reason.

Still time to edit Shibboleth...

I'm not sure the "be yourself" bit really applies when it comes to sending messages on dating sites.

Wow Shibb where did that little tantrum come from?

Ah the edit saves the day 😀

[i]Ah the edit saves the day[/i]

Unfortunately not. Mod intervention needed?

🙁