[Closed] online dating experiences

I went on Match and had a couple of strange dates, and a really nice girl who I saw for a few months. I eventually started chatting to someone who seemed perfect, and we were due to finally meet up after a lot of chatting, but the night before we met up, I hooked up with my missus at our xmas party. After having worked with her for 5 years and always admired her from afar! Had to call off the meet up with the other girl, but I'd recommend it for anyone. As others have said, there are some genuine people on there and its easy to spot the butters before you arrange a meet up 🙂

[i]you'll message a load of women that won't reply too, but don't get disheartened as the next one might be a keeper.

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That reminds me of when I first signed up. It went nuts, trying to keep up with the messages. I had to close the laptop and leave it a few days before logging in again. Its quitened down a bit now.

Mrs PJM1974 and I met through b3ta...we both knew what we were getting before we actually met in person.

She's quite lovely. Five years and counting...

Depends what you're after. Rule of thumb (I think) is that the more the site costs, the more serious the clientele. Free ones have more people after casual relationships, more expensive ones are populated with those after something a little more long-term.

A friend-of-a-friend uses POF and has 10 women on the go at any one time. And that's fine for him (and them) and everyone's happy.

I dabbled with Matchaffinity and Zoosk. Both require quite a lot of effort to sign-up with. And as the name suggests, Matchaffinity does more to 'match' its clients. Zoosk doesn't do that and you search through filters. And be warned there are a lot of desperate/odd people out there.

Met a really nice divorcee on Matchaffinty (fit, pretty, no kids, intelligent, funny) and all went well for a couple of months until I discovered how damaged she was. Single, fit, [s]sane[/s]. Turns out she'd never got over her ex-husband/love rat and was incredibly flighty.

Had more luck with Zoosk. On paper, this girl sounded ideal. Absolutley perfect. However when we met there was nothing there. Went back for a second date to be absolutely sure and sure enough... there was nothing there. Baffling. Another girl (who I'll be honest wasn't even in my 'maybe' pile) contacted me. She was too short, lived too far away and had too many kids in tow. Anyway we met up and clicked instantly. Been together 4 months now and can safely say I've never been happier.

PS @ Cynic-Al:

The long distance thing killed it after a year or so but I wouldn't have met her without online dating.

Onzadog - Member
Used to use love at Lycos and I'm now married to her. She posts on here and she's not bad on a bike.

Put so romantically 🙄 😆

But yes, ours is another online dating experience that turned out pretty well. 4 year anniversary next month (although I don't think he'll ever really forgive me for combining our nuptials in Whistler with snowboarding rather than combining it with a summer wedding and mountain biking!)

I get fed up with women who do not seem to have read my profile or selectively ignore certain parts of the criteria I've listed. The age group I'm looking at, being the most often criteria to be ignored.

If you're looking for complete eccentrics then Guardian Soulmates seems to be the place.

You may even end up being written about on the internet:

[url= http://www.heraldscotland.com/online-dating-blog ]Herald Scotland Online dating blog[/url]

Just going back to the point about women's ages - if I hadn't, errrm, "altered" my age I would not have met my beloved, as he was looking for someone younger than my "real" age. I did confess on our first meeting though!

Sorry, been out on my bike (shock horror) so catching up a bit with this thread, and well, i don't want to sound prudish or anything, but i think we should leave Hora's Beautiful Member out of this discussion, afterall there are ladies present.......... 😉

i think we should leave Hora's Beautiful Member out

I think Hora should get it leached first. 😆

[i]I think he should put it away. [/i]

He'd have to stop looking at it to do that...
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[i]I think Hora should get it leached first[/i]
Thats not a leach.....
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Beautiful member? I only said once casually that a lady once said [i]it was the best looking schlong she'd seen[/i]. When pressed(!) (fishing for a compliment) she replied that she'd seen a few- alot were overkinked/thin/small/plain ugly. To me, they all look the same - UGLY 😆

Jesus this strikes me as self-advertising and equally wrong in equal measure.

A girl I once worked with told me hers had been described as 'pouty'. I replied 'like it was kissable'? Que uncomfortable silence 😆 8)

"pressing it's half the problem"

She was too short, lived too far away and had too many kids in tow. Anyway we met up and clicked instantly. Been together 4 months now and can safely say I've never been happier.

I only said once casually that a lady once said it was the best looking schlong she'd seen.

If you're looking for complete eccentrics then Guardian Soulmates seems to be the place.

Has it got its own website yet Hora?

A Facebook page, at least?

Hora's_horror_schlong_shoker.com?!

I used OKcupid.com, and as a result I'm now married to my beautiful wife. Worked ok for the two of us, but we met some rather odd people before meeting each other.

matttromans
Hora's_horror_schlong_shoker.com?!

Or for even worse:

Hora's_horror_schlong_choker.com?

Just what would it say about oneself if one were to "like" that on BookFace??? 😉

Have you ever seen an ugly lady garden? I haven't, they all seem to be lookers 8)

(Please don't ban me!!)

Or indeed if you 'shared' it...

Thanks all. I should say I've online dated with some success quite a few times. My conundrum just now is while it would be nice to meet a lovely woman and do something serious, I'd also quite like some "fun", but I don't want t be perceived as a sleaze.

Houns - Member
Just email me notax, miss the whole signing up step out completely

Oih! This is my thread! Anyway you are have an unfair advantage of being a dating Maestro (a bit like someone at a trail centre on the best ever trial-centre bike)

Thurman Merman - Member
PS @ Cynic-Al:

Uh? I didn't post that.

EDIT - I remember someone posting up here about being an escort. Tell us your stories.

typical throw away comment

No...more a philosophical observation on how people met via internet dating generally reflect those to be met in wider society. Your interpretation an interesting lesson in perspective though.

And....

Which are far, far outnumbered by the reverse on here

Quite! 🙂

Philosophy on STW? wow, i'm impressed. Generally the only philosophy we get on here is the "i'm right, you're wrong" type (which i am btw)..............

A girl I once worked with told me hers had been described as 'pouty'

She had a schlong ? 😯

You have a pouty-schlong?

Or the philosophy of

pouty-schlong

Anna I like your thinking.

If you guys are worried about what the Mull of Kintyre looks like, I would avoid googling "map of Tasmania"

[i]No...more a philosophical observation on how people met via internet dating generally reflect those to be met in wider society. Your interpretation an interesting lesson in perspective though.[/i]

Whoa there missy 🙂 You posted a remark I interpreted in a certain way. I thought you were generalising that, all men [i]really[/i] want is the physical. You explained that wasn't what you meant and I put my hands up for possibly getting it wrong.
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[i]Or the philosophy of

pouty-schlong[/i]

Wasn't he that 12 century, Chinese philosopher who once said:
"[i]Pouty Schlong must never wear Thong[/i]" ?

I used Guardian Soulmates and OkCupid over the summer. The former was brilliant for meeting smart interesting women, all of whom had brilliant careers and a lot to talk about. The latter was a lot more chaotic but also lead to more random sexual encounters.

I tried Guardian soulmates for a while. The first girl I dated said that she lived in Guildford, but actually lived in Farnborough. After that fizzled out I started dating somebody else from 'Guildord', who actually lived in Haselmere! What was so special about Guildford that people pretended to live there?? 😕

I then started seeing a tall strikingly attractive blonde, but after a few dates, there was a niggling feeling in the back of my mind that something wasn't quite as it seemed, turns out she'd had gender re-assignement surgery - yes, she used to be a bloke. Now I'm quite open minded, but I just couldn't get my head round it all and called things off. 😮

Moving over to Match.com peoples profiles were no more truthful, and there's certainly nowt as queer as folk. I met a delightful young lady who liked nothing more than defacating in her own back garden, she'd have a crap under the bushes then carry it back indoors on a little trowel to flush down the toilet. She found it very liberating, I fould it a little disturbing! 🙄

Have fun out there 🙂

I met a delightful young lady who liked nothing more than defacating in her own back garden, she'd have a crap under the bushes then carry it back indoors on a little trowel to flush down the toilet. She found it very liberating, I fould it a little disturbing!

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There are some very strange people around...

[i]yes, she used to be a bloke[/i]
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[i]There are some very strange people around... [/i]

Yeah, we all know that she should have used an old newspaper to bring her turd back to the house. Some people eh ?.
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Well exactly, trowels are SO last year....

[i]Well exactly, trowels are SO last year.... [/i]
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Spot on, after all who wants to clean the trowel afterwards !.
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I found out by accident that there is, apparently, among some members of the fairer sex, a three date rule...
IME the ladies on MySingleFriend seemed more keen on this than the ladies of Guardian Soulmates
It doesn't seem to be a hallmark of quality or sanity however

The three date rule because that wont make them look like a slag?

WEIRD.

The three date what?! What rule? What am I missing?

Well I went on my third date with a girl the other night and didn't get any 'fun'

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The three date what?! What rule? What am I missing?

Possibly a lot, possibly nothing! That's the problem. It seems to be one of those unwritten rules that some ladies believe but others are unaware of. And you don't know whether the lady you're dating is a believer or not.
It's a minefield!
I got told in no uncertain terms by one lady that I must be gay if I didn't want 'fun' by the end of the third date. In fact, the issue was that she appeared to be funding the black economy of Columbia all on her very own 😯
She worked for the FSA too... so the reason the economy's in a pickle is the regulators were in the toilets supporting the South American criminal economy instead of keeping an eye on our own!

I can only dream of getting as far as a third date. I tried Guardian and Match and all of the girls I met were nice, but seemed to think after the first date that I was not for them. I have a niggling feeling that I might actually be dull 🙂

you don't think it's the fact you're GINGER !!!

I love gingers. For me its either Asian or ginger in girls.