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Roses lime juice and soda tonight, sober night number 3.Still eating crap though.
I wouldn't worry too much about the latter. We all handle change in our own way, and IME you're doing just great if you make inroads in cutting down on the booze followed by improving your everyday diet over the coming weeks. We're not all designed to hit everything at the same time - some of us create change (even permanent change) over time.
Keep at it fella.
Roses lime juice and soda tonight, sober night number 3
GREAT news... Keep it like that!
Still eating crap though.
One step at a time mate... Nobody's gonna give you grief for that yet! You've got to focus on priorities, which it seems you're doing, your diet will get better as you become a bit more balanced I'm sure.
As for your wife, again I shall remind you, actions speak louder than words. Work on staying sober first, but if you do still want her back, you've got a few years of lack of romance to make up for!
I've kept away from this thread thus far as I've nothing constructive to add. Just wanted to say, I'm sorry for what's happened, sounds really crappy. Chin up, dude.
Me too and me neither but just want to echo Cougar's sentiments. Hope this works out ok for you. Sounds a bit of a shitstorm of a few days but things will get better eventually.
Rubbish, it's a tough road but it seems you are trying really hard. Keep up the good work - some days will be easier than others, but I am sure you will get there in the end. Don't worry about the crap food yet - one battle at a time and you seem to be fighting the good fight against the booze.
Take care dude,
J
Cougar and DD +1. All I would add is that it's well worth necking a vit-C pill with iron once a day to keep yourself in reasonable shape. The iron stops the vitamin from passing straight through you... Best of British.
Damn, lots of work stress and angst this morning as a direct result of some piss poor planning on Friday thanks to the bombshell that was dropped on me, I really all pent up with frustration, all of a sudden I feel there are loads of unanswered questions I want to shout at my wife, this is probably not a good state of mind as I will se her on work related issues today.
Oh and just so you all know, she is reading the thread.
[b]Oh and just so you all know, she is reading the thread...[/b]
Hmmm...thats probably not a good thing, although she at least knows that your intentions are good. I'd suggest dropping the thread now though...you've only got to write something like 'I want to shout at my wife'and she'll have it in writing for posterity.
Oh, you already did! 🙁
Nah she knows I'm not happy this morning, I'm trying to calm down by the time I see her, but there are a couple of questions that need to be answered, people are getting involved in this that really shouldn't and I don't understand why.
But that really isn't the root of my angst, I need to calm down.
Nothing wrong in wanting to 'shout at my wife'. It isn't exactly something that could be held against him and understandable in the circumstances.
Oh and just so you all know, she is reading the thread.
I was going to ask that last night because if she knows you're a STWer then you'd have to be pretty damn shrewd to cover what's going on in a post like this. That is, if you want to cover anything more than your username of course. Maybe you'll feel it's partially a weight off your shoulders now that she can see what you're airing/venting ...?
This is not going to end well...
Did you tell her about the thread or did she find it?
Does MrsRubbish have a login? This could turn into mumsnet.
Should you be airing your dirty washing in public so to speak, bizarre especially if your wife is reading this.
Yep she's reading it, so is her boyfriend, I played the long game and caught her.
She is cheating on me, using my problem as an excuse to get out and I have the proof.
Mods please feel free to lock this now.
sorry to here this man, keep your chin up, it will get better
I've been following this since the beginning as I am not far off a similar scenario. Nothing to add that hasn't already been said. All the best.
Oh and bigrich 🙄 nice one, well done.
Also been following this since the start. Really sorry to hear this development. Make sure you get out for that ride fella.
indeed. It's one of the best break-up albums ever written.
At least you know now and can move on.
But seriously make sure you have a legally binding contract regarding your access arrangements. A mate of mine has been screwed over recently as his ex has just announced she is taking their son 200 miles south. No matter what she says its just not going to be the same for him.
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Yep she's reading it, so is her boyfriend, I played the long game and caught her.She is cheating on me, using my problem as an excuse to get out and I have the proof.
What a bitch, not bad enough that she is cheating, but also want's you to take all the guilt for it as well. Chin up fella, at least it can only get better from here on in.
Best of luck to you.
Sui - 1, Doesn't help. 2, Whilst we would all dearly love to cast aspersions on all kinds of people, the issue is between the OP and his Mrs. SHE is the married one, not her boyfriend (well, he might be but you get the idea).
Its a familiar tale, I'm afraid. As I suggested earlier, its usually something like that that creates the split.
Years down the line from a similar situation, its difficult to blame one person or another.....its usually the result of deep rooted unhappiness in a relationship, rather than the actual affair thats the issue.
All you can do now is remain in control of your emotions and ensure you get access to your Child. Anger and frustration is obviously boiling up in you, but you'll be playing into her hands if you allow it to come out.
Rubbish, sorry to hear the latest developments. I've been lurking since the start and kept thinking that something wasn't ringing true. Hold your temper and do everything in writing from now on.
ABORT ABORT ABORT
This is too personal on a public forum and really wont end well.
Thread should be closed before any lasting damage is done.
Seems a shame as a lot of good advice being given but you need to be careful.
Why in the name of Christ himself did you show her this thread?! 😯
Very sad thread--- but if its any consolation thousand of others have been through it, you have chosen to use this forum to do it publicly, good intentions i'm sure , but for your own sanity take some time out----your daughter will be feeling very confused-- you must be there for her, she is the constant in your life-- oh and don't mistake causes and symptoms as some seem to be urging--- good luck fella