Oh for ****s sake Alan I'm in bits about this. You have been the most solid person anyone could have been, given what you have been through.
I'm not afraid to say tears are rolling down my face trying to type this.
You are and will forever remain one of the best people on the planet.
Hell you took time out from your own personal torment to give me support.
I'm not going to be much use to you but please please please don't ever forget you are the best dad in the world.
I really wish I had something practical to say to you Gnusmas, unfortunately all i can say is I really, really feel for you. You're clearly a very decent guy and an outstanding father, i just hope things pan out well. I, and lots of others on here, are thinking of you and rooting for you, good luck mate!
Al- I'll post the flower seeds ASAP tomorrow. Sunflowers and pumpkins I think you said the kids wanted?
Good to hear he's back home relatively safely.
Don't ever forget that pretty much any of us would be willing to be on the other end of the phone for you if needed. Even if it's just so you can vent, yell or just hear a fresh voice. All you have to do is ask.
Not much of an update, but an update.
Alex seems to be doing OK at the moment. The stomach cramps have finally stopped and at the moment showing no other signs of any side effects which is good. He did say to the person who dropped him off that he will probably do it again, which is a worry but trying my best to make sure it isn't possible. Hoping he was just venting.
He's had a phone appointment with camhs last Monday and an emergency appointment with the psychiatric doctor at the hospital on Wednesday, another phone appointment again on Monday. He seems to be trying harder with the other 3 too and interacting with them more.
I've also had phone contact with various people about him so will see where that goes. I've also had a phone call from social services. They had an anonymous call from someone saying they were worried about us all. I asked them what did they know about our situation so I could quickly fill them in with what's happened, their answer surprised me. They told me things that I have only shared here. I'm not annoyed, but whoever it was, thankyou. You've got further in one phone call than I have in a year! They are putting calls out this week and hope to have a plan of action for the week after. I'm a bit sceptical of it all as I've been let down so many times this past year but I'm trying to keep an open mind. Hopefully things will start happening and in a positive way.
Good luck gnusmas
Indeed, best wishes to you all, and take every bit of help you can get.
there are some pretty awesome people kicking about on ShonkyTonkWorld.
you stick at it gnusma, I hope you gat all the support you need.
So pleased to hear things seem to be a bit better, baby steps and all that though.
Just keep talking to him bit not forcing the issue and trying to do things as a group. I know that's difficult at the moment. I've only got 2 kids but they moan like bloody crazy whenever we suggest going for a walk or something at the moment. The boy will go out for a bike ride but my daughter is a stubborn so and so, and even though she actually like riding her bike still bloody moans about it all the time....
Any way, sounds like you're doing the right things.
Not been on here much over the last few years but I still lurk and wanted to add my support - mental health can be a minefield to understand and heartbreaking to witness but so glad that things are moving in the right direction for you all (love the beautiful family pic on the thank you thread). I appreciate that you have been in contact with various folks and are probably swamped with information right now but if you or your son are in need of any further help or info, the folks at MIND are wonderful and if you’re not up to speaking on the phone, they have online help (it sometimes takes a while but they will answer). You've been through tough times for sure - please take care and stay strong - it will get better.