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My previous girlfriend but one had dark hair. After we split up, I went out with someone with ginger hair. Was I deceiving the first with my hidden desires for a bit of ginger?
Rachel
Yes, obviously! 😀
Come on Turnerguy. It's not that clear cut. Admit it.... When you see those artful black and white shots of Beckham in his boxers.....?
Ginger Rachel, for shame. 😀
It's the pale skin.... oops
Got to admit I have a weakness for red hair.
It's not that clear cut
It should be pretty clear cut if you feel enough commitment to get married, and have kids.
Fair point. Becks is already married
It should be pretty clear cut if you feel enough commitment to get married, and have kids.
The clear cut problem is that you are doing your absolute best to not understand - because you don't want to.
You must have had it when you go for a curry after the pub? You order rice with your chicken tikka masala, but by the time it arrives, and you've had your nice seekh kebab starter, you realise you should have gone half chips.....
It's like that
We've all been there.
The clear cut problem is that you are doing your absolute best to not understand - because you don't want to.
not really - if he is gay/was confused about his sexuality then how could he ever have had enough commitment/attraction to his wife to get married and lead her into feeling safe enough about the stability of their relationship that they should start a family.
Sounds like a feat of deceit and dishonesty to me.
The problem I have is that the only people I actually know who are divorced/seperated from their other halves. Did so for completely selfish reasons and they have royally dumped on all others involved.
Is there another option? I'm pretty sure nobody gets divorced for any altruistic reasons.
Am I the only one who finds it strange that someones sexuality is news?
This life partner stuff works for some and doesn't for others. We need to stop getting so hung up about it . And stop worrying about gay people having families.
My previous girlfriend but one had dark hair. After we split up, I went out with someone with ginger hair. Was I deceiving the first with my hidden desires for a bit of ginger?
You disgust me. How could you be so dishonest to her, why didn't you be open with her from the start and say you prefer Gingers? She could have died her hair.
Sorry my judgement is clouded but my obvious denial that sometimes relationships break down.
teadrinker - Member
Am I the only one who finds it strange that someones sexuality is news?
I don't find it strange, compare it to some of the crap the media puts out and it has a certain validity!
However, I don't care. Not in a negative way, but in no way shape or form does another humans sexual identity matter to me. But, I can see how it could empower those who have yet to step out and be themselves.
Sounds like a feat of deceit and dishonesty to me.
I give up. Literally, I give up.
Just perhaps at the time he met her he loved and fancied her, they formed a relationship, got on well, decided to get married and had 2 children , like a lot of people do, then for some reason his gayness started to trouble him to such an extent he decided to tell his wife and freinds , then decided to put his story to the media to help people in a similar situation get help or to realise theyre not flukes or weird, but to accept their sexual feelings for a fellow human.
Am I the only one who finds it strange that someones sexuality is news?
I think you could be.
However, I don't care. Not in a negative way, but in no way shape or form does another humans sexual identity matter to me.
My thoughts exactly moose.
And as for if he should have got married or not that's neither here nor there. Surely the only important thing now is that regardless of everything they both just love there children.
As a son all I'd want from my parents is for them to love me and be honest with me, together or not. As a parent all I want to do is love my children and be honest with them and so far that's been a pretty easy thing to do.
I've a confession to make. When I was younger, and less certain of myself and my sexuality, I experimented.....
With gingerness
There. i've said it.
Don't judge me!
A couple of people on this thread need to send their attitudes back to the last century where they belong.
Binners, I'm considering starting a support group. Talking and tea to sort it all out.
got on well
that's a good reason to get married, right there.
See l've always had a soft spot for gingers, but the wife is blonde.
Now if l was to go and run off with a red headed lovely, leaving my wife n kids ld be a massive git.... of that lm as clear as crystal
Relationships break down it's true and sad and sometimes there is nothing that can be done expect make good of a bad situation and both sides my know it.. 🙁
But then there are times one of the parties just thinks the grass is greener and it's that get my goat
Night night
I played in the same amateur team as Keegan for a couple of years. Although I don't profess to knowing him closely I can say for certain he didn't announce this with the intention of wanting to be plastered all over the national news. Knowing the area and environment he grew up in, I can see why he thought he had to 'have a girl friend and have kids' being gay was not something that would have been accepted very well at all.
I've spoken to with some of my mates who know him a lot better than me and to say they are all shocked is an understatement. But not one of them thinks any different of him. The amount of public support from his friends and team mates is testament to the kind of bloke he is.
And I'm damn sure he will continue to be the best dad he can.
the guys obviously a self serving publicity seeker.. been gay is normal.. so whys he telling everyone hes normal.. i dont go running to the papers to tll everyone i m normal why did he feel the need to?
Chicken Tikka Masala?
Do you have a nice half of shandy with that?
Ffs, get a grip man.
the guys obviously a self serving publicity seeker.. been gay is normal.. so whys he telling everyone hes normal.. i dont go running to the papers to tll everyone i m normal why did he feel the need to?
Just perhaps the media had got hold of the story s/h and he was just amnouncing himself the feeling he had before it was sensationalised by the media rags.
Now he can be a role model for other dads in similar situations, and younger lads who have the same feeling, as for being Normal, its only seen normal in some sections off society and in some families,lots of kids get made homeless every year due to neaderthal parents who throw them out onto the street or want allow the male partner into the house.