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[Closed] Moral Dilema - what would you do?

Farmer_John · 2009-05-30T10:23:10Z

OK, so in time honoured style a "friend of a friend" (no really - it's genuinely true), has done something they shouldn't have done and after discussion with my partner we're not sure what the right thing to do is - which is where you come in (hopefully). So, to the story... Said friend of friend - let's call her "Katie", is going out with a really nice bloke - the sort you can have a pint with and quickly appreciate he's a shy but sincere trusting sort. We'll call this nice bloke "Peter". Katie has just returned from a far flung holiday somewhere where there are very high rates of STI's and HIV. Katie met one of the locals and they soon got down to business - several times. We don't know whether protection was used but the suite of tools and techniques were applied. My view is that given where Katie went, Peter needs to be told asap so he can be tested given the possibility of contracting a serious long term condition such as herpes or HIV. I believe that if Katie won't tell Peter, someone else should so that he at least ensure protection is used with Katie until she's been tested and given the all clear - there's a chance they may have already had a bunk up since she returned. My partner believes we should encourage the other people on the trip to coerce Katie into telling Peter and then both going for tests. This is not likely to happen though as the other friends on the trip don't see the need to confront Katie over her behaviour. Neither myself or my partner know Peter well having only met him once. My partner has known Katie for over a year as part of an friendship group. Although we could let Peter know anonymously, it would impact on the other people on the holiday and the relationships between them - it's probably also worth mentioning that Katie and Peter have invited us over for dinner. Having put myself in Peter's shoes I really think he should be told if Katie won't tell him herself. Myself and my partner are "not supposed to know" as what went on the holiday wasn't supposed to be shared. I'd hate him to be put at risk of contracting something serious given this could be prevented. So what should you do? Should Peter be told, and if so, by whom? And should someone else tell him if Katie won't?

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timwillows

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Post it on a bike forum and get Peter into biking

Posted : 31/05/2009 7:34 pm

Spongebob

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Katie sounds like she's really thick - unprotected sex with any stranger, let along in a high risk tourist destination.

Peter needs to be spared from people like her, regardless of upsetting the feelings of anyone else (including her).

He needs a nice girl!

Posted : 31/05/2009 9:15 pm

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