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Happily married for 5 years, been together for 7. I still think often about a girl from 13 years ago. No lingering feelings, more regret over how it all ended and i cant apologise.


 
Posted : 01/07/2013 9:33 pm
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if you have any sexy pictures makes yourself feel better by putting them up on[s] a pervy site, [/s] [b]here[/b] that'll do it.

FTFY

Oh, wait...

Fwiw, I had a couple of chances with a girl 6-7 years ago, but screwed them both up (hindsight is awesome). I'd marry her tomorrow, had she not married someone else in the meantime.


 
Posted : 01/07/2013 9:53 pm
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He is a name, not a login ID. He is a free man.

Be seeing you...

In death, a member of project mayhem has a name. His name is TandemJeremy. His name is TandemJeremy. His name is TandemJeremy.


 
Posted : 01/07/2013 10:32 pm
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I was still thinking about my love 12 months after we split. Then I decided to put her behind me, move on and find someone else.

I found someone, my old love then came back into my life (because she realised she might never have me again if I got serious with someone else). We got back together, got married and now have 2 kids.


 
Posted : 01/07/2013 10:38 pm
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paypal her £20 and get on with the rest of your life then.

Better: buy them, and 'pay' with PayPal gift. That'll learn her....


 
Posted : 02/07/2013 5:20 am
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That's really well said Jonah. Taking control of your thoughts can then help you handle your emotions.

Also:

- Fill your life with interesting things that keep your mind off of them. This is a perfect time to learn a new hobby - dedicate time to it, knowing a new hobby will make you feel better in the long run.
- Fill your life with interesting people, as above.

Don't go to them asking for anything, it's degrading for you and puts them in an uncomfortable position.

Instead, use your new found awesome hobby and confidence from having met new people to live your life better and I guarantee that you will either win them back, or meet someone who's better.
Also, in my experience, it takes an amount of time equal to half your relationship length to get over them. YMMV, except for the guarantee bit, that’s FACT.

This is what will happen over time anyway. It took me a long while and part of the reason it took so long was because I resistant by not being able to let go.

Ride away from it. Literally. Soon enough you'll find that you are riding towards things that you want, that you can attain without having to negotiate the past.


 
Posted : 02/07/2013 7:06 am
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I was in your position a little while ago, and I found the best thing to do was every time I missed my ex remembering all the good things, I would stop myself and start to think of all the crap things he did and all the reasons I left, it helped massively, but when a relationship ends you have to give yourself time to grieve simple as that.


 
Posted : 02/07/2013 9:26 am
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go and be in love with someone else. your probably just being lazy because you think the whole 'getting to know and falling in love' bit is going to be difficult and laborious so your reminiscing about someone who you have got past that with, (that was me anyway) but ill tell you a secret........
falling in love with someone new is one of the best bits

From my own recent experience, this is great advice.


 
Posted : 02/07/2013 9:32 am
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