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i have not read thr entire 18 pages, but as much as i could "handle" my thoughts and deepest sympathies go to all of you. look after each other!
Lewis,
I rode at Hit the North yesterday, quite a few people saw my balloons and gave me a nod or made a comment, George was in a lot of peoples minds yesterday.
As you can see I let my balloons go right at the start of the race, as a keen mtb'er I thought you'd like it as something slightly different to some of the other (wonderful) pictures already posted.
Thanks to Andy (Harry the Spider) for allowing me to stand on the start line with them at the begining of the race.
Still thinking of you guys, hang in there...
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I'll email the photos to you when I get a chance.
Sorry not been about lately been so busy. and to be honest just sat feeling sorry for myself.
But today i got up went for a walk and feel much better.
Got to brave the next step Work tomorrow!!
Thank you to all for the pic's i have received loads via email so thank you so much for taking the time to do that for us.
i shall wait a little longer (as not everyone was able to let balloons off this week) but end of next week i shall be ordering the photos to go in our box.
Thank you all so so so much. Your amazing
Good luck tomorrow. I'm sure the folk around you at work will be as much of a support to you as folk here have been. Theres another side to people at times like these and I'm sure they'll step up.
Good luck in work tomorrow.
Not sure if they will let you break yourself in gently to the routine.
We went into town today & managed to get a helium balloon, although they wouldn't fill the 'George' balloon with helium as it wasn't 'supplied by them'.
We figured the helium balloon would have enough oomph though to get them both aloft...
We drove over to Ferry Meadows in Peterborough, found a quiet spot & let them go....
At first, they weren't gaining much height and we were worried they would get caught in the trees, but all of a sudden they really took off & shot up. We watched them until they were out of sight....it was quite busy there, so hopefully others noticed them.
OH doing release duties...
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Almost out of sight...
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Bruders - I'll mail them over now (once I look back for your mail address.
Good luck at work tomorrow...!
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Thought of you today Lewis; how was first day back?
I hope you coped at work as best as you could. I am sure that all the messages and pictures have helped you in this utterly terrible time. I have to say through tears after reading what some of you have done for the memory of George has given me hope for mankind.
I hated it.
It was that awkwardness when you bump into people and they dont know what to say and just carry on.
but i was working with a guy and all he did all day was ask how i was every 5 mins.. his a really nice guy but yesterday i just wanted to explode..
But i had more yet bad news yesterday and your never believe out luck.
I was told than my gran had a brain tumor and prob wont last the week.
the family kept it from us for a long as poss not to get us all upset again...
What the hell i have i done i have some real bad Karma at the moment
It must be very hard at the moment. You're coping very well though, given the situation. Keep talking to people, and don't be afraid to vent, wail and cry. It's all very natural.
I'm on half term this week, and just down the road. Do you fancy a coffee? We can talk about everything and nothing if you like; hell, we can just watch the world go by if it suits. Just let me know.
I've only read your first post, and can only repeat what so many others have already said. Your son may have left you, but he will never be forgotten, and his taking this early in his life has touched many of us who don't even know you or your family.
Both my little ones were very premature, and we spent 3 months in hospital wondering if that day will be the last, to loose one after tucking them into bed would be even harder to comprehend.
As a reader, it's touching to see the amount of support from STW members from around the country.
I'm so sorry to hear about your Gran! I wish there was something we could do to ease things for you & your family!
I took a little trip out to Sherwood Forest tonight with the balloons I was sent. I left just after sunset. I released the balloons from the edge of the forest, so they didn't get caught in the trees.
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Bruders, I have not been on line all week and just logged on, only opened one thread, this one.
Feel so desparately sorry for you and your family. God bless your son and your gran.
Stay strong mate if you can, your family need you.
As you can see you have support from friends and strangers (like me) alike, this is what makes the biking community a true community.
My thoughts are with you all and I hope you can find peace soon.
Miles
Wow Bruders that's terrible; more bad news. 🙁
I can't really say anything that's not cliche, but a lot of us feel your pain. Hang in there; it will get better!
Dear bruders,
I've not long been on this forum but I read your thread and felt I needed to post to you.
I was very sorry to read about your loss.
Nothing right now will make you feel much better, but feeling less alone might bring a small degree of comfort.
It might often seem as if all around you are getting through life ok, but it is not so, there are countless others who aren't.
In 2008, our lovely 25 year old son and great club rider, was taken from us by a van driver, on a beautiful summers evening, while he was faultlessly riding his beloved Cannondale.
It was over in a second, with no time to say goodbye….
It's left his dad mum and sister, with our lives changed forever, from the trauma of that night, to the thoughts of the years taken from him, to just plain missing him every single day.
But with time, we are, at last, slowly picking up our lives again, and although the pain will never leave, and the dark days still visit, we are learning to live a little now, whilst at the same time carrying him always close in our hearts.
There is never anything worse than losing a child, but there are endless examples of those who do live on from the trauma of such events. It's often said, the hole that's left in your heart will always be there but you can learn to build around it. I’m finding that maybe there is some truth in that.
Hope this helps.
Best wishes, Dave.
Thanks for that Dave,
I'm not to sure what to say?
See it strange because in a way its worse for you as you had 25years to know your son you had good memory with him
But im just feel numb i must admit i have been extremely snappy at work (nearly ended with me throwing my weight around) not good..
I kind of had things sorted and life was looking up for a change and now i dont really care
cant sleep to good,snappy got a constant headache and well im spending more money on bikes bits (just to do something) work is pants as a postie all i do is walk about thinking what if i did this or maybe did that. maybe i should have slept in bed instead of on the sofa.
the list is endless.
sorry for your loss dave
Bruders - it's natural what you're feeling and going through, but you have to try not to let it eat you up. Nothing that you did or didn't do made this terrible thing happen. It happened.
Don't bottle it up - maybe time to see someone who can help you with these thoughts. I heard an interview on the radio last week with the father of James Bulger who has for the last 20 years beaten himself up over what else he 'should' have done and it's ruined his life. As terrible as it is right now, you, your wife and children have lives in front of you to be lived to the full.
i have hated/loved this thread, hated it because of what started it, cant imagine what your going through, but on the other hand have loved the response it has restored my faith in humanity. been tempted to post on this thread several times but nothing ever seems to come out right, best wishes to you and all your family
bruders
Talk to Bullheart , have a manhug . He is one of the best people in the world.
Parents should never have to bury their children , its just not right.
Be there for your wife . Talk . I mean really talk, about how you feel .
stick some random rubbish on here . it will help .
rob
well the random rubbish is.
I just over this rubbish time ordered a new frame. i was thinking of doing a build to keep my mind off the rubbish times (or thats what i tell myself just self indulging on bike purchasing)
So on the 25th march my Regin x frame gets delivered
building my wheels up from hubs,spoke,rims etc hopefully this week (just waiting on the hope hubs)
Got my Shimano Zee crankset etc
just need to get the little bits now (I hope)
dropper seat post
brakes
seat
chain
stem
handle bars and grips etc
pedals
pretty much ready to rock and roll
Just need to find the perfect place to go for a ride (may time)
bruders as Bullheart / singletrackmind said 'Talk to Bullheart' go get a coffee and a bit of cake x
Sending big hugs and thinking of you x
Wow i met Bullheart tonight what a top guy, had a good chat and when he left i actually felt good about something (something i did not think i was going to feel again).
Its amazing what a faulty bike and a cuppa can do
So glad to hear that Bruders 😀
This all makes me cry and smile at the same time so much good will and kindness between virtual strangers who just happen to share a hobby, so much hope for us all.
This all makes me cry and smile at the same time so much good will and kindness between virtual strangers who just happen to share a hobby, so much hope for us all.
+1
Oh, and Bruders - you will start feeling good about things again. It will take time, but it will happen.
After having a chat with Bullheart i have decided im going to attempt some of these races, they sound pretty interesting and gives me something to look forward to
😀
Bruders - Its good to read an upbeat post from you! 😀 I hope it continues!
That's good to hear Lewis ^^
No doubt there'll be a few off here at most events you are likely to attend should you need someone to abuse or even a bit of encouragement/moral support.
Maybe, if you fancy it, we could sort out a group ride somewhere down your way - perhaps Bedgebury. - later in the year as I for one would like to meet you.
Well Nobby after i have finished getting the last little bits for the reign (just seat,seat post, handle bars) i'm going to start saving for a van of some kind so me and my friend can come all over to ride with you all. it may take some time but after the support from you all i feel i need to meet you as well.
you have all helped me so much (with out people like you) i honestly think i would be sat in a chair stinking feeling sorry for my self in stead im back at work kids are back into a routine,
we still miss George very very much and its nice to hear Alfie and Mae talk about him. i heard Mae (when she thought we was not listening ) singing to her self saying that she missed George and loved him very much and where ever he is he will have lots of Sweets.
this made me smile (something also i did not think i would be able to do)
i heard Mae (when she thought we was not listening ) singing to her self saying that she missed George and loved him very much and where ever he is he will have lots of Sweets.
I don't think I'll ever read anything as nice as that again.
So glad to see you're still posting Lewis (and I'm up for a trip down south if a ride is arranged as Nobby's suggestion!).
^^^This is good to hear.
It sounds like you and your family are doing a fantastic job at getting through this... there will be bad days, but it sounds like you will be able to work through them.
Keep it up, you family should be very proud.
Good to hear how you are getting on, Bruders...
Fair play. You really are an inspiration!
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i heard Mae (when she thought we was not listening ) singing to her self saying that she missed George and loved him very much and where ever he is he will have lots of Sweets.
Bearnecessities +1
From the mouths of babes.......
It's so good to hear how well you guys are dealing with this. I know that whenever i've got trouble from now there will always be part of me that will take inspiration from you. I know it might not appropriate yet however it would be great for everyone to meet up and have a group ride!
i heard Mae (when she thought we was not listening ) singing to her self saying that she missed George and loved him very much and where ever he is he will have lots of Sweets.
That is priceless!
Good to see a little bit of distraction helping you. We are still waiting to release the balloons and will send the pictures when done.
I deliberated whether to post this, but with permission of moderators & company involved, I thought it would be quite fitting to add the best wishes from the actual people that were the first stage in making the balloon release possible...
Hi Richard,Thank you so much for sending this over. We can now see what you meant when you mentioned you were sending them out to different locations. What a lovely Idea, thank you for sharing that with us.
Extending warm wishes and regards from all here,
Susan
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Please reply to info@balloonprinting.co.ukOn 27 February 2013 10:27, <richardmcoulter@hotmail.com> wrote:
Richard Coulter
Hi, I had an order off you a few weeks ago for 200 printed balloons. It was for quite an emotional reason and I think the lady that took the initial call was a bit upset. I also think that eveyone involved in the process was fantastic. I thought I'd share with you the reason for the order, and thank you for all your efforts.
http://singletrackworld.com/forum/topic/lost-my-son-today/page/17
Richard
That's good to see..
Well today been bad one min I kind of feel good then earlier I saw some pics and it just reminded me what has actually happened it's just not bloody fair.
Stupid life what's the point nice things never happen to me (except you lot) I just end up with the bad.. And why is it only the @#&* heads that get everything and live a wonderful life..
I try and help everyone I abide by the law and yet I get shat on
I know it sounds a bit trite, but don't forget to count your blessings too, bruders, you still have children and a wife to love, who I'm sure love you too.
Edit: And don't forget you're allowed to have "down" days, you can't always be strong.
Be brave Lewis. Don't concentrate on what others get in life; focus on the wonderful family you have, and how the thought of them running around, face painted and offering to help fix a bike on a Sunday night, made me chuckle as I drove home.
These are very precious things. Think of them and they will help you through.
Hi Lewis
My life is nowhere comparable, but today me and Mrs Bearnecessities seem to be parting company, she is moving out temporarily, but I know what that means.
Anyhow, my point is that it doesn't matter whether you are good, or bad. Stuff happens that is beyond what is imaginable to people (and I'm not even that nice!)
You are beyond definitions of what is 'nice' Lewis, you do not even need to compare yourself to anyone, it brings sadness to my eyes thinking about what you have been through, and no matter what has happened between me and Mrs BN, we both love you for how you have dealt with this including the rest of STW no doubt.
I am in tears now actually, if Mrs BN was beside me she would be also.
So, it is not that "nice things never happen to me" . You have a fraction of what I wanted for me and Mrs BN, we have no children between us despite our wishes, but you have been beset by a sad crisis and you have shown exemplary behavior, and have shown so many people the way to deal with difficulty, no matter how severe.
You are a better man than many, but you are not a victim, and thanks to you, neither are your family.
As many have said, you will have bad days, and good days. We are all here for you still no matter what.
Love still & thank you to you and George, for improving so many lives.
Richard x