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..it's been 18 months so why does it still kick me in the guts when i unexpectedly come face to face with her?


 
Posted : 08/06/2010 7:22 pm
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You should probably get a new freezer!


 
Posted : 08/06/2010 7:25 pm
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Zulu, i laughed! 🙂


 
Posted : 08/06/2010 7:26 pm
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You should have been driving the car at the time...


 
Posted : 08/06/2010 7:26 pm
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Zulu, i laughed too! 😀


 
Posted : 08/06/2010 7:27 pm
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no good with out pics of the ex


 
Posted : 08/06/2010 7:39 pm
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why does it still kick me in the guts

er... because you actually RAN into her and she kicked you in the guts? No?

About a year ago I saw my ex of 8 years previously twice in two months near where I live. That was a bit weird. And last night I saw another ex from 3 years ago. We weren't even serious, and she was mental, but it still freaked me out a bit. My solution is to pretend they're not there as I walk past 🙂


 
Posted : 08/06/2010 7:45 pm
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Made me giggle too Zulu! 🙂

We spent 8.5yrs living together so i guess it was effectively a marriage. I didn't speak, just looked away. She looked scared TBH.
Still hurts tho.


 
Posted : 08/06/2010 7:58 pm
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18 months-2 years is the average time to "get over" a long-term relationship so don't be too hard on yourself


 
Posted : 08/06/2010 8:08 pm
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I've seen my long term ex a few times since I got married.
Each time I was on my bike and he was driving his XK 8 Jag or his big jeep 4x4. Pretending to not see him at traffic lights was great fun, even when he was sitting opposite hand on horn and trying to get my attention.

It just verified that age old saying 'man with small P*n*s needs big (engine) car'.

Oooh - I hope hubby doesn't read this.

Maybe you'll never see her again md.


 
Posted : 08/06/2010 9:54 pm
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She looked scared TBH.

Its the same with my ex girlfriends when I see them.

Usually its when they realise the restraining order was just a piece of paper.


 
Posted : 08/06/2010 10:00 pm
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Usually its when they realise the restraining order was just a piece of paper.

LOL.

I have way too many exs for this to be a problem.


 
Posted : 08/06/2010 10:04 pm
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all my ex's are so far in the past I doubt they'd recognise me any more 🙂


 
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Usually its when they realise the restraining order was just a piece of paper.

Indeed. Gaffer tape works better than paper.


 
Posted : 08/06/2010 10:09 pm
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I have way too many exs for this to be a problem.

You make it sound like an achievement?


 
Posted : 08/06/2010 10:12 pm
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PMSL !


 
Posted : 08/06/2010 10:28 pm
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It just verified that age old saying 'man with small P*n*s needs big (engine) car'.

So, from a girl's ppoint of view, is this [i]really[/i] true?


 
Posted : 08/06/2010 10:31 pm
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- because you're human!


 
Posted : 08/06/2010 10:39 pm
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It just verified that age old saying 'man with small P*n*s needs big (engine) car'.

So, from a girl's ppoint of view, is this really true?

Someone is feeling very insecure right now 😉


 
Posted : 08/06/2010 10:41 pm
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No restraining order against me!

I did tell her last yr that i never wanted to see her face, hear her voice or hear her name mentioned ever again. I said things that in retrospect - whilst true - were probably not good for me to let out. That's why she was looking scared, although apprehensive is probably closer to the mark.

Grrrrr.


 
Posted : 08/06/2010 10:41 pm
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..never mind 18 months, how about 18 years..

My first true love, we were both 19. Yeah, call it 'lust' 'puppy love' but it was so intense. We were both so into each other. All over after one silly falling out.

Didn't end badly but she went off to Uni, I moved to London, we never lost touch so much as I guess thought it would never be the same, just moved on. I often wondered what happened to her, heard snippets, but at same time it was a kind of unspoken question that never got raised with mutual friends

18 years later I walked into a doctors surgery in another totally unrelated city and there she was.

Her smile, that sparkle, just the same. One of those rare occasions when I was pleased the doctor was running late. We chatted, laughed. She was happy, married, two boys. I was happy, married, two girls, almost the same ages. She was just as I remembered her, all the good times came flooding back.

The tannoy called my name. There was an uneasy silence. "Really good to see you" she said. "You too". We both knew exchanging numbers was not a good idea. One last smile and she was gone.

That was 7 years ago. I occasionally wondered when the next time might be.


 
Posted : 08/06/2010 11:47 pm
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If you parted on the bad terms that's easy but try parting in good terms that's hard.

😐


 
Posted : 09/06/2010 1:07 am
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@ DD in my experiance always true, men with big cars are always trying to make up for something lacking


 
Posted : 09/06/2010 11:07 am
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I drive a Clio


 
Posted : 09/06/2010 11:16 am
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I don't have a car.


 
Posted : 09/06/2010 11:17 am
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Touché


 
Posted : 09/06/2010 11:25 am
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Hmm.. that's something you carry around with you that your long term partner/wife/family never get to really know about.. previous girlfrields.. like some kind of locked safe in your brain that only you have the key to.

But yes.. took me what, 3-4-5 years to get over that first big relationship...


 
Posted : 09/06/2010 11:31 am
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[i]We spent 8.5yrs living together so i guess it was effectively a marriage. I didn't speak, just looked away. She looked scared TBH.[/i]

just how scary can a muddy dwarf be?


 
Posted : 09/06/2010 11:35 am
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This scary
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Posted : 09/06/2010 11:52 am
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My ex-wife drove me to drink and I didn't even have the decency to thank her. (originally W C Fields)


 
Posted : 09/06/2010 2:04 pm
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think yourself lucky, some of us still have to see our ex's on an almost daily basis for years after splitting! 😕


 
Posted : 09/06/2010 2:13 pm
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I will have one of my exes as a supervisor on my placement next year. That should be fun working with her for a month.


 
Posted : 09/06/2010 2:15 pm
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"That was 7 years ago. I occasionally wondered when the next time might be."

It never dies.


 
Posted : 09/06/2010 3:11 pm
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I've noticed that all the boys with the ' big wheeled toys' haven't shouted up.


 
Posted : 09/06/2010 3:45 pm
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Opportunity for gratuitous Spaced quote:

I still see all my ex's. Well, not so much see as... watch


 
Posted : 09/06/2010 4:53 pm
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Zulu - excellent.

Muddy - Don't worry chap my ex still can't speak to me without getting angry and it was her who totally screwed the whole thing up. So don't take it too personally, I think there is always one in a broken relationship that holds resentment and I found it tends to be the other person – funny that.


 
Posted : 09/06/2010 5:29 pm
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No problems with mine - we are perfectly civil to each other. I can hold my head high and look him in the eye, trouble is he tends to look me up and down. 😉

Life's too short to fall out with people.


 
Posted : 09/06/2010 5:44 pm
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I saw an ex of mine a while ago in the local B&Q, we're talking 14 years since we broke up and she gave me a look like it all happened earlier that day - ****in weirdo!!


 
Posted : 09/06/2010 5:50 pm
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Unfortunately for me, i'm the one with the festering resentment... 👿


 
Posted : 09/06/2010 5:55 pm
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muddy - you have to move on from feeling that way. It doesn't help with the healing process.


 
Posted : 09/06/2010 6:02 pm
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Help me out with the freezer gag.


 
Posted : 09/06/2010 6:47 pm
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I finished it with all my ex's (not an achievement by no-stretch) and I still miss my last ex so very badly when I hear Everything About the girl "Miss you".

She might have finished you for other hidden reasons other than what you think. I finished mine as I was at the wrong stage in life and I could see I was crazily in love and it scared me rigid.

Oh well.


 
Posted : 09/06/2010 6:51 pm
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it may be the horrible smell as she is hanging up in the loft which kicks you in the guts?


 
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Ah


 
Posted : 09/06/2010 7:05 pm
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Hora - no, i reckon i know pretty exactly why we split up.
Thing is, i let her do it to me twice! She left & i managed to talk her into giving it another go only for her to do EXACTLY the same thing EXACTLY a yr later. She is a coward at relationship stuff & both times managed to engineer a situation where we were with friends & in public.
The last time she did it whilst out for a meal with friends! 👿


 
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