My fly-by assessment of the situation is that you seem to be 'seething' as you say and having a gun like 'i am taking your child away' would do that. However, without wanting to sound all daytime TV, resentment and seething isn't going to help you and her or your kids. What do you have to lose for talking to her open and honestly about your resentment, how YOU feel and what you want to happen. Worst case - you split - which to me is what you seem to think you want. The grass is always greener and more often than not the 'problem' is closer to home than you may wish to admit i.e. you need to be happy in yourself before you can be happy with someone else. Talk to her, see what happens. Good luck.
Thanks to everyone. It's been a long night of the soul!
Driving to work I realised we need an honest chat about the way things are. I told my sister how I'm feeling and she offered to take the kids so the wife and I could get a night away somewhere to sit down and talk things through. I might do that.
The bottom line is we need to decide if we can work together or if we are just making each other miserable. At the minute we're pulling in opposite directions and I feel very let down by recent events.
The issue of where we live and why we live there is something I'm really struggling with. It's been bugging me for eight years and I don't know if I'm ever going to come to terms with it.
I know a few neighbours and friends from outside the area who have found the rural community impossible to break into and have ended up using their homes as bedrooms. Perhaps I will look at working away during the week and coming home at weekends.
