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What’s you plan for binners?
Amazon have run out.
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Seems I've bought them all.
I think there is a problem across all media at the moment, there seams to be very little high quality uplifting entertainment, everything seams to have lost it's happiness and hope, everything has to be serious and gritty. This place is just a reflection of wider trends.
everything seams to have lost it’s happiness and hope, everything has to be serious and gritty
Well I tell ya that chase scene for Boba Fett wasnt serious and gritty, rather seriously shitty.
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Full MemberI now have a collection of voodoo dolls. I’m just waiting for some hair samples.
What’s you plan for binners?
Can you inflict a shart by the application of voodoo ?
Just asking for a friend 🙂
It’s because PerchyPanther isn’t here anymore
That’s a symptom, not a cause.
Also...
Can you inflict a shart by the application of voodoo ?
Poodoo?
Voopoo, surely?
Thinking about it there is a rugby forum I used to use a fair bit which has become unusable with the trolls taking over so maybe its a more general thing? That forum suffered from weak modding tho with the trolls getting away with it which of course then leads to less posters posting. I think the traffic is dow 80% on there now
Maybe we need tougher modding for a bit?
Or a twelve step progamme for the stroppy twerps like me?
"I'm TJ and I am an arguaholic"
@TJAgain - I think being a bit of a grump is a sign of being unhappy with something about yourself. Most people's grumpy or aggressive responses to things can be explained by ego at some level. You were pretty rude to me on one of those threads but I can forgive you that and offer a hug if you need one?
One thing I realised recently that 80% of the time the personality I project on the forum is more of a dick than it should be, simply because I am at work.
When I cycle I don't surf the Internet. When I'm climbing or skiing I don't surf the Internet. The only time I do is when I'm too tired to do anything useful, like now, or at work like tomorrow morning.
Which portrays the unhappy dickish side.
Not so Jude but i am not wanting to derail this.
I will also say thats a pretty rude presumption. You do not know me and I do not remember interacting with you much on here. Its the sort of statement that gets folks backs up
I think being a bit of a grump is a sign of being unhappy with something about yourself.
I'm not sure about that. Everyone is grumpy at times aren't they? Unless they are some kind of Peter Perfect. Certainly everyone I know of around my age is. I'm pretty happy in my skin and have lots of things to be grateful about and am mostly cheerful, but at 57 I don't have the patience I once did for some of life's irritations. This may manifest itself in the occasional grump. I do try to ration myself though.
There are some subjects I just avoid.
Unfortunately it seems now that nearly every subject ends up being politicised.
The only subjects I can think of that are fairly safe are plumbing {plumbing issues always end badly} and bacon {It's great!}!
Not so Jude but i am not wanting to derail this.
TJ you said my argument was 'pure pish'; I can handle that personally but it's hardly the voice of someone willing to debate with either an open mind or good manners.
BTW for the record I have always preferred Shimano to both SRAM and Campy and do not see the point in worrying about how large wheels on MTBs are, though having been a dyed in the wool 26 incher since, ooh about 1990, I did rather have to swallow my pride the first time I rode a 29er on my local trails and literally set PBs on every strava segment 😆
But you're right I don't know you. What does 'TJagain' signify then? Jude the Obscure is one of my favourite books and seemed like a fun pseudonym for an internet forum (where these days you have to be so careful not to tread the wrong line of received wisdom lest you get hounded!)
A Binners voodoo doll? Just stick pins into a steak bake :0D
JUde You have a pm.
.the "not so" was in reference to you suggesting i was unhappy in myself not in response to you stating i was rude - thats the limitations of text based discussions.
Brexit/COVID/fracturing of society by social media bubbles has left everyone burnt out and grumpy to some degree IMO.
I think this is very much it the wider-wold is pretty rubbish right now. I don't post as much as I used to I find posts get picked apart and you have to be super carful how you word stuff im likely guilty of it myself too. Best thing I ever did was remove auto sign in. Now if I don't care enough to sign in and comment clearly I really don't care that much.
I use my own name for a reason, well two actually. I couldn't be bothered coming up with a username and I think twice about posting because I use my own name.
And I reckon the only people left with a sense of humour after the last two years must be the Government.
Confession mode. I’m BBS and I’m a dick.
I’m not a dick on purpose, it’s just some things don’t translate into a forum very well. I cut my teeth on a forum for a small rock band where thread derailment and taking the piss was necessity and activity encouraged. There weren’t any mods, it was a small forum and most posters knew each other.
I spend a lot of time not replying to threads, more often than not the threads move so quickly that my point would be lost or there has been a reply by someone far more knowledgeable than me.
I’ve also noticed that certain threads end up the the same few posters arguing over semantics, and any other discussion or viewpoint killed to death for being “wrong”.
Also I don’t always see nuances in others posts, being on the spectrum. I’m also as thick as mince. Well, I’m bright enough to know I’m not as bright as others.
Oh, @TJAgain. Zammit is far quicker than VDM. 😉
tj it is great that you are planning to be nicer as you were pretty rude and patronising towards me a few weeks ago which meant that I have barely posted since.
Cricky cletus - I don't even remember that one at all. Apologies
Covid thread? I lost my rag with folk on there. I know two folk I lost my rag with on there one of whom I managed a civil discussion with afterwards but I don't remember losing my rag at you at all. Apologies again. I really loathe being seen as a bully 🙁
Part of why I started this is I was genuinely angry on the covid threads but also aware I over reacted in how I posted.
Edit - if you want to PM me with the details it might be useful for me to have a look at it seeing as I have no memory of it
TJ you said my argument was ‘pure pish’
That is harsh. "Utter rubbish" was how he described my argument a day or two ago. I obviously got away with it lightly.
Still don't take it personally..... it's his way of saying that he strongly disagrees with you.
See, I think it helps when you’ve actually met someone & had a natter. I met TJ a few years ago & my impression was changed. Not that my initial impression was a negative one, just different.
It can work the other way though.
Esch you're a sensitive bunch 🙂
I stopped posting on here a while back after an accusation was directed at me which I felt was unjustified and deeply offensive. It’s just the internet and all that and yes I should have a thicker skin, but it genuinely left me reeling in a ‘how could anyone actually think that about me’ kind of way.
Full disclosure TJ, this was you as well. It was months ago and I don't want to resurrect it but it did stick with me. To be fair you did apologise at the time but perhaps be aware that some of the things you say do stick with the recipients and colour their judgement of who you are*, even if you can offer a quick apology and personally forget and move on.
Fair play for starting the thread though and showing the self awareness to recognise that it is an issue.
*perhaps unfairly based on some of your more positive and helpful posts I have subsequently read.
Oh ffs
I don't know what to say now. I hate upsetting folk. It really upsets me.
Jude. You have a pm.
I hope you started it "Hey"
Will everyone please stop getting upset!
Hey no worries, I've seen you post enough other stuff that paints you as a decent human to recognise that the interaction in question doesn't define you. The internet is rubbish for communicating. The same discussions that lead to handbags on here would be totally different face to face, where you can see a real person, not just a usermame, and have differing viewpoints but still respect and be civil to each other. We are all guilty of not doing that on t'interweb.
You shoot from the hip TJ. You are driven by strong emotional urges so consequenctly you don't give much thought to what you are actually saying.
Personally I welcome that as it invariably means that you haven't fully fact checked whatever point you are trying to make, which obviously makes it easier to counter.
I don't fully understand why some people seem so sensitive to your opinions of them though.
Still, not all people are the same and it's important to remember that imo. Some of the stuff I say to binners, for example, I wouldn't dream of saying to other punters. Binners doesn't strike me as a sensitive sort or someone who gives a toss about what I think.
Binners doesn’t strike me as a sensitive sort
The guy plants spring bulbs.
Please tell me that he has an allotment and makes jam
Hmmmm - this did not go as I thought. 🙂
Time to get the sackcloth and ashes out I guess
I shall sit in a corner with my gruel mumbling to myself
BTW - and for clarity - I am not devastated by this but clearly some issues I need to ponder. Ernie might have hit it on the head with "Still, not all people are the same and it’s important to remember that imo" I tend not to register names very much so do not always realise if its someone I have jousted with before or not and thus act as if they understand i am a stroppy git
You can always direct it at me, I can handle the heat. Some people engage themselves in argument but can't handle when it's directed back at them.
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Please tell me that he has an allotment and makes jam
He lives in East lancs. There is literally no other food for miles around. Apart from Greggs.
Ernie might have hit it on the head with “Still, not all people are the same and it’s important to remember that imo”
TJ, Remember when Ernie was slagging me off for some comments I made about Corbyn, on FB? 😂😂😂
don't remember that one but then I am not facebook friends with ernie
No one is, I'm not on Facebook. Never have been.
This place used to be grumpy & argumentative a few years ago. I can remember many pile-ons.
However I watched a very old episode of Hairy Bikers* this week and it was glowing with innocent multi-cultural friendliness. It really hammered home the feeling that the country is in a worse state now than 10 years ago.
*My kids really like them!
You seem like an all round really nice bloke TJ. You, and 2 others are the reason that I haven't posted on the rugby threads for the past two or three seasons though. No biggie, I also don't post on any of the Brexit/politics/obvious arguathon threads either and still enjoy the forum as a whole. It still seems like just as rich a source of knowledge and wisdom as ever before. I think that the post Covid world means society as a whole is just a bit more stressed out currently....there does seem to be a fairly negative vibe overall on here at the minute.
ctk … worth watching their most recent series … every episode left me feeling more positive
I hope you started it “Hey”
I won't disclose the dialogue but I will say that my intuition (which about people is usually right) tells me that TJ and I are peas in a bloody pod 😆. It's hard to be genuinely upset by anyone you recognise as 'you' on the other side of keyboard and screen.
Sorry Jude - 100% wrong on that.
I'm not reading the whole thread but I'd like to point something out @tjagain in the hope it might help a bit because you're really not actually an arsehole. And this doesn't only apply to you either.
When you disagree with someone on here, you use the most extreme language possible. If someone dares raise one small point in opposition you attempt to absolutely flatten them immediately. You say stuff like:
'100% absolutely dead wrong!'
'That just goes to show you have no clue whatsoever'
'You simply have no understanding'
'You're really a tory/car hater/Unionist/etc'
This is incredibly inflammatory and often downright hurtful. So that's why you are always in so many bitter rows. I don't think you mean to do it, but online, without the usual cues such as body language, tone of voice, or facial expression everyone interprets things the worst way. I've been talking online for nearly 30 years and people have always taken the worst interpretation online - and I've come to the conclusion it's a natural part of humanity.
So your language needs to be extra careful and extra inclusive, and you really need to work on putting the friendliness into the text. I try hard at this, I will delete sentences and rearrange several times whilst writing a post, I've done it on this one.
You might not think it's necessary, because you know the manner in which your posts are intended - but we don't.
Even this:
'Sorry Jude – 100% wrong on that.'
Is much more aggressive than saying something like:
'I'm not sure I agree there' or
'I honestly don't think that's the case'