[Closed] Instantly-regrettable argument decision making

Lick the Bowl?

You filthy animal. Just flush it like everyone else.

My wife did the same with a pomegranate she was preparing during a phone row with someone. Neither of us could quite believe how spectacular the consequences of that were.... Like something out of CSI

I bought for Mrs North, our daughter and my MIL tickets for the Strictly Come Dancing live show.

My MIL has now come down with a heavy cold and announced she's not going.

Apparently my answer of "I don't particularly want to go as I'd planned to spend the whole day progressing the cabinet building work I want to do in the garage" was very much not the right answer.

In particular she was galled that I would just waste a ticket and not want to spend any time with my family.

Explaining that I had bought the tickets and would, in effect, [i]gladly pay not to go[/i] was an escalation close to the Cuban Missiles crisis.

(And she'll still complain the garage is unusable because there isn't any storage in there....)

Women are irrational, stop trying to figure out why.

When you get a quiet moment ask her what's with the icy witch behaviour. If no rational explanation is forthcoming tell her to stop being unreasonable and sort herself out.

No excuse for anyone acting like a dickhead and don't forget it. Shoe on the other foot you wouldn't expect her to put up with anything similar.

I kicked a kitchen cupboard door (already closed) full force in a moment of frustration following an argument. Needless to say that the door won and I was reminded of my stupidity and the preceding pointless arguement everytime I took a step for the next week!
Genuinely thought I might have broken a bone or something 😳

EDIT: Can't remeber what I supposedly did "wrong" but it was quickly solved with a bunch of flowers (unlike my foot). Sometimes (ie. always) it's easier just to suck it up and apologise where wives are concerned.

She's having an affair. Period.

(or both)

Shoe on the other foot you wouldn't expect her to put up with anything similar.

Moreover, shoe on the other foot and you bloody well wouldn't get away with it.

A while ago the mrs needed some clothes, in an (uncharacteristic) act of generosity I offered her a £50 gift voucher I'd won previously, for reason's I still can't fathom I ended up getting a bollicking for trying to give her 50 quid!!!

It's cos your not riding your bike enough

Also I got voluminous buckets of abuse last weekend when my new old car 'broke down' I was an effing idiot for buying privately, cheaply etc etc. So imagine my delight when after my car was fixed with a new fuel filter, bought and fitted for buttons, Grotbags' luxury egopanzerwagens brake caliper seized on, funking the caliper and disc. She can look forward to the dealership bill for that Sucker! Ha!

augustuswindsock - Member
A while ago the mrs needed some clothes, in an (uncharacteristic) act of generosity I offered her a £50 gift voucher I'd won previously, for reason's I still can't fathom I ended up getting a bollicking for trying to give her 50 quid!!!

because all vouchers, irrespective of who they are for, are for the Wife at the point they are given.. All you have done is with-hold that little right... der..

I had bought the tickets and would, in effect, gladly pay not to go was an escalation close to the Cuban Missiles crisis.

I would rather have a divorce than watch that on the tv never mind live.

Stevestunts , I've just spat tea all over my phone reading your post. I've done so much stupid shit like that over the years also .Usually followed up immediately by me thinking WTF did I do that for . Sorry nothing useful to add in the way of advice 😀

Well, she's home. I'm trying to blindside her by stealing her technique of noisily flouncing around the house and not speaking. Only one of us can do that, and I got there first. She won't have been expecting that. The student has become the master.

Probably worth bookmarking this thread, so you can refer back to it when I start a new one about marriage breakups in a few weeks time...

Best of luck OP!

Is there still time to nip out for a box of Milk Tray, a bunch of daffs a £3 bottle of warm prosecco and a Chippendales (no, not the silly glasses) outfit?

I'm sure that will work.

An affair...either she is having it and now can't stand you or she has found out you are and she hasn't got the proper explosive rage moment.

(sorry to sound severe but experience suggests this - hopefully it isn't)

Muddydwarf you got the trouble as she DID sleep with someone else thinking it was revenge for what you did...as you didn't, she was in the wrong...and you got it in the neck.

Me: "Of course I'm not going to buy ANOTHER bike!"

Her: ....

Maybe she's pregnant........

......with another man's baby.

noisily flouncing around the house and not speaking.

Creep up behind her and put your penis in her ear.

It won't make things better, but...

...

Well, just put your penis in her ear.

And shout wet willy as you do it.....

joebristol - Member
Maybe she's pregnant........

km79 - Member
......with another man's baby.

Again!! 😯

Just been shouted at for not buying daffodils. Now regretting no asking why she didn't marry a ****ing psychic bastard florist.

Pub? (I'll be coming in to town to buy daffodils anyway)

@ the OP. Like many blokes I remember feeling that it was particularly important for me to really emphasise my point in an argument by shouting and then by slamming the door very hard. In retrospect it's easy to think that some of that emphasis may have been lost by accidentally leaving my foot in the way... Not a pain I want to feel again.

Just been shouted at for not buying daffodils.

She sounds like a narcissust.

😀

Any news from the op? Did you get it sorted?

Or are you out finishing your new patio?

I'm trying to blindside her by stealing her technique of noisily flouncing around the house and not speaking. Only one of us can do that, and I got there first

This made me chuckle 😆 So if she starts doing it too, is it OK to stop mid-flounce and explain that only one person can do it at a time before resuming?

 I genuinely haven't done anything wrong, as far as I can tell.

There will always be something 😉

No matter how small or insignificant that thing is it will always be there to be used as an excuse for them to behave like a complete **** 😆

At risk of trying to get beyond the stock 1970s

Eeeh women, eh?

responses 😀

Contempt is completely destructive to a relationship.

It is reasonable for people to expect to be treated with respect by their partners. We do not have to put up with The Silent Treatment for hours/days/weeks. It's borderline abusive.

If there's a problem, she should tell you what it is in a civilised manner, and you should respond in a civilised manner.

Once you've got to the stage of chucking stuff around in front of the kids, it's probably time for a deep breath and a chat 😉

I can't believe you wasted good porridge, no wonder she was annoyed 👿

This weekend I learned the appropriate response to [i]'I just want you to see my point of view'[/i] is not [i]'I can't see your point of view because you are wrong' [/i] 😳 😆

I genuinely haven't done anything wrong, as far as I can tell.

That's were you are going wrong. A good husband would know; and maybe even care.

Immediately apologise and ask what you can do to make it better. She might give you some clues to help you not do it again.

I can't see your point of view because you are wrong

My version was "I could agree with you, but then we'd both be wrong".

I am still paying for this 20 years later.

Now I'm in trouble for s****ing at this loudly enough to wake MrsZ.

Have the words "fine" and "do what you like" entered discussions yet?

I see your 'do what you like' and raise you a 'do what you like - you will anyway'

whatever

bigyinn - Member

Have the words "fine" entered discussions yet?

Usually said as "FFFffIne"

In such a way that its anything but "fine"

Hilarious...

It reminds me of politicians bullcrap bingo

'do what you like - you will anyway'

one of the staples

"If you have to ask" is usually another one on the bingo card.

I once got into a huge argument after doing something spectacularly selfish. Then she looked at me and said " you don't even know what you've done wrong, do you"?

That was a get out of jail free card of note. 🙂

I am so glad to find that I am not alone in being a massive dickhead as a husband.

Idiocy loves company! 😉

Whoargh all the little smiley faces have gone massive !!
Anyways my little tactic during the not speaking phase is to drink beer and eat crap
She hates that