[Closed] Inlaws: is it too early?

Mine arrive in 2 days. I've been annoyed for weeks!

Why did you invite them?, i see this every year and it baffles me, if you don't like these people why invite them?. Will be me, her indoors and the kids with various visits during the period, Skype my mother and jobs a good un!.

Mine arrived last Christmas and stayed for a week.
So this year we're leaving the country first thing on Boxing day and only coming back after new year 🙂

Just my mum and dad coming over, who are fine, and we get on with.

Only downside is my mum can't stand a bit of silence and has to fill every moment with inane chatter about relatives I last saw 40 odd years ago. We just drink and glaze over by about 4pm!

Why did you invite them?, i see this every year and it baffles me, if you don't like these people why invite them?.

Depends on your relationship with your other half. Sometimes it can be better to lose a battle to win a war.

I was expecting an inlaw thread but where is the "Can any recommend any good divorce lawyers thread?" Or is it too early?

Mine arrive tomorrow, luckily they stay in their camper van on the driveway so could be a lot worse. She does irritate the hell out of me though, but I have made a conscious decision this year to rise above it!

Badnewz - kind of, but I'm not trying to win a war - it's more about give and take. Quite happy to end up with a draw!

We had them over a month before festivities. Works much better.

the-muffin-man: I feel your pain. My mother is the same. I've taken to walking out of the room. She just keeps yammering on without me.

We are going to ours on Friday after telling them we aren't cooking for the 3rd year running and they are. They've been instructed to have the fridge full of beer & mince pies at the ready, I full intended to turn up in my shorts with expanding waist, and a Hawian shirt and [s]take the piss [/s]make myself comfortable with a beer & wine glass for 6/7hrs before I'm driven home.

Reverse that with Mrs K for Boxing Day when I'll drive.

I've never understood this animosity towards in-laws. Perhaps I've been lucky and although the future Mrs. Pinksters parents are no longer with us we always got on, as she does with my Dad.

Some of these stories do make me laugh though, so please carry on 😀

To be fair my in-laws have been very good to me also, but there are [s]stereotypes [/s]rules to adhere to about these things.

Meeting my dad and step mum at a restaurant for Christmas lunch with my sister and her family.
Having the in-laws round on Boxing Day for lunch. Dad in law is great. Mum in law is ignorable, and I can manage that no problem.

In laws came up last week for four days. We are going to them on Boxing Day for three days. I adopt the glaze over approach. Apparently I can't take a bike.

Xmas Day at my parents. MrsMC and my Mum annoy the hell out of each other. Will be great.....

I'm spending a few days with the out-laws from the 25th, they're both great and I hope to be taking him to Llandegla on the 27th.

Having ours round for a meal and the afternoon on Boxing day. My fil insists on wearing too much aftershave and I really can't stand strong smells, really puts me off. Why wear a gallon of aftershave when you're just going round to your daughter and sil's house? Also he's a larger gentleman and when he flings himself down onto my sofa I cringe expecting to hear the springs pop. He also condones violence and happily tells stories about when he 'thumped' some guy years ago, which I could do without my 4yr daughter hearing. I've got some Leffe in for myself which should make the afternoon just about bearable, that and the fact I shall be hiding in the kitchen making lunch.
Merry Christmas!

edit: lol@

Apparently I can't take a bike.

Its never too early to put the foundations for a new patio down...

Either that, or Liver with fava beans and a nice Chianti....

My inlaws are super God botherers and Xmas is always very conservative when they are about. Have a can of lager and you are an alcoholic.

They've done loads for us and are very supportive and very kind. Much more than my parents. Can't really grumble.

My in-laws are fine especially now they've retired we have a good laugh

Mrs.rocket is tactful and diplomatic but doesn't take crap from anyone so my side are less pretentious than usual which is good

Not long now eh 🙂

Bring on the inlaw stories I say.

Why did you invite them?

I didnt.

Visting the in-laws after chirstmas for a couple of days (christmas with my parents). It will be the same as last year, and I mean exactly the same, with the same stories/conversations with the MIL. FIL is sound, crack out the whiskey when MIL goes to bed early 🙂

She just keeps yammering on without me

not just mine then!

My MIL arrived two months ago and is enjoying life as self-appointed "invalid" in the house while receiving chemo. She's quite capable of looking after herself because Mrs Gti has caught her making herself tea and raiding the fridge when she thought she was out. The physios have given up trying to get her active. We have banned her from the lounge and kitchen because she stinks of urine and everything she sits on has to be washed.

So Christmas looks like being a ball.

Constant yammering and talking must be some sort of medical condition. I've known men and women who have it, except in this case, the suffering is not experienced directly by the patient, but those people around him or her.

It is only when we have relatives over (an in particular the inlaws) that we realise we are actually quite quiet people. MIL really struggles with not talking, it is necessary to always talk, even when watching her soaps which seem to be on 24hrs per day. This includes a constant commentary on the weather which will include constant gross exaggeration such as it is perishing, blowing a gale, bitterly cold, etc etc. She also has an absolute allergy to fresh air or any time of physical exertion..

my wifes family make the jeremy kyle show look like songs of praise. we wont be spending christmas with them.

FIL - sadly departed but was a great bloke

MIL - what can I say... everything Les Dawson said was true!

I knew someone who was tapping his MIL, let's sat it didn't end well and the ramifications are still ongoing some 30 years later.

I knew someone who was tapping his MIL, let's sat it didn't end well and the ramifications are still ongoing some 30 years later.

A MILILF?

Divorce on the way so no in-laws, plus I don't speak to my family. Actual bliss.

Girlfriend and I will spend xmas morning together then she's away to her family, and I have an afternoon of doing whatever I want along with some brilliant food, beer and wine.

Enjoy your misery chaps 😆

Inlaws are fantastic, we go to her parents house every year without fail and its a much welcome break! Its my own mother who is the annoying one.

Probably have my mother in law and sister in law around tomorrow night, they'r caring, kind and funny people. We'll see them on Xmas day too and boxing day for dinner. Should be good not often I get to spend so much time with them, never spent enough time with the father in law as he died before he retired and did long hours too.

Enjoy your misery chaps

Couldn't think of anything more miserable than not talking to my family.

Outlaws arrive on Boxing Day and return home a week later. Looking forward to it as they're plenty of fun and get properly stuck in. They're also great at looking after monkey jnr (to a degree) so the missus and I can at least have some time to ourselves for a change.

My inlaws are great. Really great.

I just think, what would Tom Wrigglesworth do? The antics of the old folks then just becomes comedy gold ... keep drinking and giggling!

just think, what would Tom Wrigglesworth do? The antics of the old folks then just becomes comedy gold ... keep drinking and giggling!

My parents arrived last night and will be around until Boxing Day evening but they are staying with my mil.
It's the first Xmas with us since we had kids so they aren't interested in anything but grandkids which is fine.

Need to balance the wife's ocd tidiness and my mums urge to constantly bring tat over for the kids. 8 people here on Xmas day and then the wife's side come over on the 27th. I "might" need to go into work on the morning of the 27th for a couple of hours so that's a nice chance to get away if it's all too much by then.

Should be painless compared to some others but my wife's not too keen on my brother so on Xmas day there is always some potential for a blow up between them!

I agree, drinking through it helps, it's the only answer to the boredom of having to watch the misery of Eastenders on xmas day with equally miserable people.

Couldn't think of anything more miserable than not talking to my family.

You've not met mine. My mother is evil personified

Mine live in China, because they are Chinese, and don't come over here. They also speak no English; this relationship works rather well.

Hmm, never imagined an in-laws thread on STW but oh well, here we go!

No parents-in-law this year. Have been estranged from them for over two years. FiL I got on well with, retd high-ranking air force officer, but now very aged and not much with it. MiL... never met anyone like her, total effing psychopath who abuses and humiliates everyone in her family. We're not in the UK and here there are laws regarding grandparents accessing grandchildren, i.e. they have an automatic right unless there are extenuating circumstances. Well, there are. Really can't face recounting everything but at one point I had to visit the police station to make a report (not a 'complaint' but more of an official note) against her for harassment, trespass and psychological violence. She got a lawyer so we had to get one too and, to cut a very very long story short, as MiL had put all her rants and threats in writing our lawyer (working pro bono as we aren't well off) put an almighty shot across her bows and we've had something near peace since we moved away in mid 2014. Oh, and MiL doesn't know where we live or else she'd make hell for us here too.

Incidentally, it was after this move, out of the city, that I got back into mountain biking so I suppose there is even some relevance to STW! Just my mum and her husband for Christmas, so no great party, and I'm sure a little tiring for my wife, but for pissed up board games we'll be fine.

p.s. I'm sure there'll be some naysayers but really, I've just never had to deal with anyone so cruel and manipulative before. MiL was out to destroy our marriage and remove me as our childrens' father (denouncing me at the school for malnutrition, violence and sexually inappropriate behaviour, needless to say the school did not act even though I told them to take whatever measures they needed to for them to be confident in me). MiL does stuff like this to all three of her daughters and their partners, so not like we're paranoid.

I agree, drinking through it helps, it's the only answer to the boredom of having to watch the misery of Eastenders on xmas day with equally miserable people.

Christ! Never mind drinking through it. Eastenders would have me on the Class A's

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Mudshark - feel my pain.

I live in China.
My MIL has lived with us for 6 years.

FIL has been having the time of his life for the last 6 years, and reminds me of it, when I see him twice a year. Secretly, whilst we have a beer or two together.

Christmas is no change. Just slightly more alcohol fuelled.

My in-laws are great. Treated me more like a son than my parents ever did.
Took the MIL Xmas shopping yesterday for all the xmas food, she will cook on Xmas day for all of us. Really looking forward to it.
The FIL is a good old boy who has great stories. He is a retired headmaster who did his national service with Naval Intel as he could speak fluent russian (Cold War era). A real gentleman. 😀