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OK. Lets get one thing clear, this is not about me 😯
My wife's younger sister is one of life's great mystery's; she's in her early thirties, pretty, outgoing, popular and fun, but single and has been for a while? She lives with a friend so she's not exactly lonely (no smart remarks please) and while I appreciate that some people are quite happy [single] and don't need to jump from one date to another, one must assume she's thinking about this in her quiet 'alone' time.
Outwardly she gives little away to suggest she's concerned but I simply cannot believe she would prefer to be single and my wife agrees. She's a wonderful family girl and will nest very well one thinks 😉
So, given todays busy lifestyle, where does one hunt for suitable men? Dating sites maybe the solution and I would recommend STW chaps of course, but given our overriding passion for metal and rubber.... enough said! However if you're single, successful, in your 30's and live in the Surrey / Hampshire area you might be just the lad!
Otherwise where do guys hangout? The way I see it you have to cast the net wide...So this is my attempt to find her perfect fella. Call it a New Year good will thingy...
Sounds like my Sister in Law but it's her choice so I let her get on with it.
look at Spice (*activities club, average age maybe a bit older though)
Picture?
Certificates stating clear bill of mental health?
I really don't see why you're so convinced she can't be happy single 😕
Some of us don't feel "incomplete" just because we're not living in someone else's pockets...
How many caring, intelligent and thoughtful men does it take to change a lightbulb?
Both of them 😀
When she's bothered she'll sort it out, sometimes being single is a choice, maybe she's having fun......
Yeti, on an open forum, not a chance.
However if you're single, successful, in your 30's and live in the Surrey / Hampshire area you might be just the lad!
You sir are both ageist and locationist... 👿
Yeti, on an open forum, not a chance.
E-mail in profile.
Quiteask1974 - Member
I appreciate that some people are quite happy [single] and don't need to jump from one date to another,
Why?one must assume she's thinking about this in her quiet 'alone' time.
Hey Zulu I'm not stating she's unhappy, far from it, but I do know she wants to settle down and time's a ticking... Don't want this thread to get off track, I'm just tapping the STW masses for opinions on how one finds a perfect partner in this day and age.
Don simon, anyone one keen enough would see that as a challenge! that's why i said 'might'...
she's in her early thirties, pretty, outgoing, popular and fun, but single
If she is anything like some of my wife's single friends, the above quote could also mean "High Maintenance". That would scare many men off.
They can also come across as desparate (for love, marriage and children) and give out those signals. The men run from these signals as well.
Why?
Because I would be. It's an opinion and I could be wrong. Lets face it if you're looking to marry and have kids, in your 30's and single it's a fair bet you 'sometimes' think about your status... but as I said, I could be wrong.
If anyone knows how and where to find a man, can you let me know too please?
(maybe I should put an email in my profile?)
If she is anything like some of my wife's single friends, the above quote could also mean "High Maintenance". That would scare many men off.They can also come across as desparate (for love, marriage and children) and give out those signals. The men run from these signals as well.
Absolutely. But this is the thing. IMO she is none of the above. Probably a bit picky about who she dates but that's fair.
Do you come with any land or prospects Lady Gresley?
a bit picky
😆 heard that one before...
in that case, if she does want to settle down, I wonder if her 'eligibility criteria' are somewhat unrealistic?
Don't want to cast aspersions in any way, but I've met an, ahem, significant number of laydies, who when you ask them what they're looking for in a man, reel off a list of essential 'must have' characteristics that your average member of a european royal family would find it hard to fulfil 😉
I'm just tapping the STW masses for opinions on how one finds a perfect partner in this day and age.
Well you have to go back 26 years, but I got smashed and met my now wife in the pub.. can't she do that
I'm single, [s]successful[/s], 30s and Surrey-Hampshire border. However, she sounds far too nice for me.
I'd question your assumption that being single means being anxious about it. She may be perfectly happy. Or just very, very picky.
ASK1974 You could be setting yourself up for one hell of a family bust up if she ever sees this thread! Just about all the 30 somehthing single women I know would kill me if I ever did this to one of them. I admire your selfless courage!
Do you come with any land or prospects Lady Gresley?
Errrm...no... 😳
Not everyones the same and people can and are happy on their own. Some single girls I know are so scared of having a baby they won't be with anyone because of pressure from a partner. Some have family pressures that won't allow them to have a partner too so maybe there are things in her life that she's not telling you but your minds working overtime thinking your doing the right thing for her. I'd just leave her to find her own happiness and her own choices.
Come on chaps don't question my assumptions and view point on this. I love my sister in-law and would like to see her hitched to a great guy, I'm pretty bloody sure she does as well. And it's not just me, my wife and I speak on this occasionally.
The question is in the title.
ASK1974 You could be setting yourself up for one hell of a family bust up if she ever sees this thread! Just about all the 30 somehthing single women I know would kill me if I ever did this to one of them. I admire your selfless courage!
Why? It's not as if I'm advertising her for sale (am I? 😳 ) I'm asking a constructive question and if anyone has a great idea I'll let the info slip through via my wife. Of course if a nice looking STW chap just happens to step forward then I'll think about my next step.
I'll say it again, get her down the pub, or don't people do that anymore?
I would have thought the best thing is to let her sort it out herself. If you think that a random biker would suit her invite her to a group ride.
Why do you actually feel that she should be in a relationship?
You've asked the question and I think the answer is that the choice is hers. End.
why do certain couples feel it is their responsibility to sort out other people's lives? there is a fine line between being a friend and being a patronising busy-body.
be careful OP
Why not ask her if she's happy single?
What she needs to do is have a holiday house swap with a rich movie exec from LA. She can then befriend an elderly gent who happens to be a rather famous early screen writer and learn about the 'cute meet'... the point at which love interests meet in a movie.
Say she's in a department store looking for some PJ's but only wants the top. At the exact same time a guy is there also looking for some PJ's but only wants the bottoms... that's the 'cute meet'.
She'll then randomly meet a friend of the house swapper and have her own 'cute meet'... yadda yadda they'll live hapily ever after.
Of course if a nice looking STW chap just happens to step forward then I'll think about my next step.
I get it. You are looking for a new riding buddy 😉
put her on ebay
CaptJon - Member
why do certain couples feel it is their responsibility to sort out other people's lives? there is a fine line between being a friend and being a patronising busy-body.
be careful OP
Meant to text you, sorted you a blind date.
you need to ask her... do you even know what she is doing to not be single or that she cares as much as you?
Single . - Tick
Successful.- Tick
Hampshire .- Tick
Unfortunatly I am 42 , so thats me out , oh well was hoping 2012 is going to get better than 2011 ended ( See who is staying in on NYE thread ) but they have just found a body on the beach in front of my flat and all the Police are here . happy new year.
Does she ride mtbs?
There are many group rides where women are in the minority. The chaps I ride with are funny, friendly and a decent bunch, there's always at least one single among them.
Or, does she ski? I met hubby on a skiing holiday, funnily we weren't looking for anyone at the time, so there was no pressure.
Does she climb? There are some great climbing clubs around, plenty of nice chaps seem to climb, infact outdoor types are always fun to be around.
singletrackmind - 42 isn't old.
So this is my attempt to find her perfect fella.
have you asked her if she wants you to do this?
However if you're single, successful, in your 30's and live in the Surrey / Hampshire area you might be just the lad!
, marital statusist and sexist too 😐You sir are both ageist and locationist...
why do certain couples feel it is their responsibility to sort out other people's lives? there is a fine line between being a friend and being a patronising busy-body.be careful OP
Blimey guys how many times do I have to say it. All I'm asking is a fair question. How exactly is asking about dating in the modern age patronising? No wonder life is so bloody complicated these days, you can't ask a simple question without everyone analysing your motives.
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Does she ride mtbs?
There are many group rides where women are in the minority.
The problem with that is a lot of blokes don't want to spend time waiting for a lady who is somewhat slower than them 😳
The problem with that is a lot of blokes don't want to spend time waiting for a lady who is somewhat slower than them
Not sure that's true, I'm more than happy to let the lady lead. 8)
...a lot of blokes don't want to spend time waiting for a lady who is somewhat slower than them...
this is much less of a problem than you think.
group rides are slow because of all the faffing, punctures, photo's, chatting, etc. and that's also why they're fun.
they're not slow because one (or more) of the group takes 15seconds longer to get to the top/bottom of the hill.
your sister in law doesn't need to take up mountain biking, but (ime) the world of outdoor sports/hobbies does seem to have a bottomless supply of good (and single) men...
I don't think there's anything wrong with setting up an individual. At the end of the day it will be up to that individual as to whether or not she persues the relationship. My sister is trying to set my other sister up at the moment as she has a history of chosing losers although she has 2 kids and got caught out with someone she got engaged to so she's now very cautious [I say, i hope]. Thing is she may be happy now but she could be happier with mr right.
This topic however needs a photo... 🙄
have you asked her if she wants you to do this?
No. But if I turned round and introduced a friend of mine I know she'd react positively. She had a recent blind date with a friend-of-a-friend through my wife so it's clear she's interested in finding a partner. She trusts me and right now all I'm doing is asking for advise from you lot, if someone was seriously interested then I'd do my research and asses next action.
Otherwise it's all just forum chat eh!
ASK1974 - what I meant was, that you have aired something you believe is a problem of hers on a public forum, the rest is immaterial.
My ten penneth - leave her alone to get on with it, if she's as nice as you say and gets out and about it will happen in its own time.
and right now all I'm doing is asking for advise from you lot,
And the advise (sic) would appear to be that you butt out of her life and let her get on with it herself. 🙄