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No one has suggested showing her this thread yet. Standards are slipping


 
Posted : 27/11/2012 10:08 am
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My god, why do so many of you assume she must think he is gay? An interesting but sad insight into the minds of men.


 
Posted : 27/11/2012 10:12 am
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binners - well I think the other fork in the road was a prolonged discussion about the promiscuity of any woman who has slept with more than one man and particularly this young lady. I think the STD discussion was positively civilised and reasonable by comparison ๐Ÿ™‚


 
Posted : 27/11/2012 10:14 am
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Can I just congratulate the STW Massive on evolving a post about someone telling someone they love how they truly feel, to her inevitably giving him Bad AIDS!. It took 4 pages, but we got there

I blame the nazis.


 
Posted : 27/11/2012 10:15 am
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Don't recall the OP asking for estimates of how many sexual partners some of you believe his friend has had. Probably doesn't matter to him anyway as he already seems relaxed about her relationships and the fact that shock horror she has had four long-term relationships that have and may have not included sex. Why do some of you think this is relevant or helpful?

OP only a couple of things matter in my mind. Explore the option with her - if you don't you will never know and always wonder. If she is a true friend either way this won't matter - you will either be in a relationship with your best friend or still friends. If she cannot maintain a friendship after you discuss this then you were not such good friends as you thought.

Best of luck and remember this is not the end if the world if it doesn't work out and a dream come true if it does!

J


 
Posted : 27/11/2012 10:16 am
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I blame the nazis.

Thatcher, surely? ๐Ÿ˜‰


 
Posted : 27/11/2012 10:19 am
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"Bad AIDS"? WTF? Is there such a thing as 'good' AIDS?


 
Posted : 27/11/2012 10:25 am
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jamj1974: Bad AIDS is a Chris Morris / Brass Eye reference


 
Posted : 27/11/2012 10:34 am
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I know... I was un-characteristically joking! Almost as good as 'cake' and "Shatner's Bassoon"!


 
Posted : 27/11/2012 10:41 am
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The Edinburgh Defence?


 
Posted : 27/11/2012 11:03 am
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No one has suggested showing her this thread yet. Standards are slipping

It's worse than that. I don't think anybody has asked for pictures.


 
Posted : 27/11/2012 11:05 am
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My god, why do so many of you assume she must think he is gay? An interesting but sad insight into the minds of men.

You're taking us too literally.

He's not gay and she [i]knows[/i] he's not gay.

But in her head she has him in the same pigeon hole as the gay guys, ie "men I can tell stuff to because there's never going to be any action there".

Anyway there are no certainties. OP, go prove us wrong. Me I'd just give her a snog and see what happens. You'll know soon enough if you're on.


 
Posted : 27/11/2012 11:14 am
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Any news?


 
Posted : 27/11/2012 3:58 pm
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Posted : 27/11/2012 4:36 pm
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Hora that's not very nice

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Posted : 27/11/2012 5:14 pm
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That hand..


 
Posted : 27/11/2012 5:18 pm
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Lols at Hora


 
Posted : 27/11/2012 5:22 pm
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I have a friend who fancied a chap. Somehow she thought he was gay so they just became friends.
A year or so later, he mentioned a girlfriend who had recently finished with him, so said the correct soothing words, while thinking wow! I'm going to make a play for him.

Luckily there was a good outcome and they are very. very happily married (or so she says) ๐Ÿ˜‰


 
Posted : 27/11/2012 5:58 pm
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[i]or so she says[/i]

๐Ÿ˜†


 
Posted : 27/11/2012 6:13 pm
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Come on OP,keep up,did she say yes?,and if so,what to?


 
Posted : 27/11/2012 6:49 pm
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Hora, that's inspired ๐Ÿ˜†


 
Posted : 27/11/2012 6:53 pm
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I have a friend who fancied a chap. Somehow she thought he was gay so they just became friends.

I thought this when i first met nbt as well ๐Ÿ˜‰


 
Posted : 27/11/2012 7:46 pm
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Aye mincing down those trails ๐Ÿ™‚


 
Posted : 27/11/2012 9:12 pm
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๐Ÿ™‚


 
Posted : 27/11/2012 9:16 pm
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c'mon, what's happened?


 
Posted : 27/11/2012 10:07 pm
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I thought nbt was gay too.


 
Posted : 28/11/2012 7:09 am
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'snot gay if you don't push back


 
Posted : 28/11/2012 11:07 am
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?????


 
Posted : 28/11/2012 1:12 pm
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nbt's not gay?


 
Posted : 28/11/2012 1:16 pm
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'snot gay if you don't push back

(C)[s]sir[/s] jimmy saville 1976


 
Posted : 28/11/2012 1:32 pm
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notoriously bi turnip


 
Posted : 28/11/2012 1:39 pm
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Not between those?


 
Posted : 28/11/2012 1:41 pm
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no bum todgering


 
Posted : 28/11/2012 1:43 pm
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oops tried posing a link for youtube but would not work. I'm not gay though!


 
Posted : 28/11/2012 2:19 pm
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OP has gone suspiciously quiet. So either him and his intended are rogering away trying to make up for all the wasted years, or he's thrown himself down a well. What is it?


 
Posted : 28/11/2012 2:38 pm
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(never before teatime)


 
Posted : 28/11/2012 2:40 pm
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Still here, just been busy at work. Tried calling her yesterday, though no answer. I should be seeing her this weekend!


 
Posted : 28/11/2012 7:12 pm
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I thought you were seeing her for dinner on Monday?


 
Posted : 28/11/2012 7:41 pm
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I should be seeing her this weekend!

Good luck!

Make sure you don't let condoms fall out of your wallet when you pay the bill.


 
Posted : 28/11/2012 7:52 pm
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OP hate to tell you this but she didn't answer the phone as she was busy being rogered by her new fella. She'll tell you all about it in great detail on the weekend. HTH ๐Ÿ˜‰


 
Posted : 28/11/2012 8:05 pm
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It could be you'll get a knock back the first time but she'll warm to the idea with some reflection

What you need to do is "plant the seed".

(Sorry).


 
Posted : 29/11/2012 8:49 am
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You tried calling her and there was no answer = she has read this thread, doomed laddy your doomed ๐Ÿ˜‰


 
Posted : 29/11/2012 9:01 am
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Sorry to go back a page, but: NBT's not gay?


 
Posted : 29/11/2012 2:02 pm
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Another vote here for 'just do it', from another person who has been married for 11 years and has 2 kids with my best friend (for 5 years, prior to getting together, after my divorce).

A friendship is a very good basis for a deeper relationship, knowing someone well before you start certainly helped us! Its a bit of a risky moment when you do take the plunge, but worth it.


 
Posted : 29/11/2012 2:30 pm
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Sorry to go back a page, but: NBT's not gay?
Phew that's a relief ๐Ÿ™‚

Also I like what bigdaddy has written above.


 
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