Not zorbing! Mate did a summer at an activity centre for kids and spent most of his time hosing the sick out of it!!
TSY, I keep telling you to be careful with this dating game, after the cat lover fiasco, I met a lovely lass from Scotland and all was going great until we got back to hers and I urinated on her, apparently that wasn't what she had in mind when she asked for a wee (insert anglo saxon word that rhymes with duck). 😳
be careful mate Women just aren't wired correctly.
emsz - which Summer Activity centre was it?? I used to do that (many) years ago!!!
Rachel
Have we mentioned back doors yet? Sorry, I've been a bit busy.
No, CFH, we haven't. So it's good that you were able to make it!
Rachel, it was Osmington Bay
Yeti , Chris my house mate wants to know which date sites you use to get 2 girls going at the same time! Perv
Two ain't even telling half the story... 😉
If you help him write his profile, I'm sure he'll be fine on any of them.
Absolutely, positively, DO NOT do zorbing. Can confirm its definitely vomit inducing. The 2 trains idea is brilliant though! ice skating?
All this "active" dating must be costing a fortune...
Hey newgal... how's your quest for love going?
Bored of it. Sticking to riding... 😕 my bike doesnt judge me on helmet hair, or slight competitiveness!
🙁 Fancy going for a bike [s]race[/s] ride? 😆
Sure - we could arrange it so that your entire harem could go together! 😛
Serious note though...is it the done thing to be dating more than one person at once?! I just dunno...
I think it's okay if it's from dating sites?
Normal life it'd be wrong, but this is the internet...
Maybe. I've tried it once or twice and just end up getting slightly confused over which conversations I've already had and with whom!
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newgal - I've been going for the groundhog day approach! Figure that by mixing it up with some fresh ideas I might be able to place conversations a bit more easily.
Tazzy - you got their number?
Multiple dating thing is pretty normal right at the start - when I was last in the 'scene' had up to 3 first dates a week then a couple of 2nd dates in the same week till it thinned out to the 3rd date by which time things were firming up (pun intended).
mutton monger. 😉
(More 18th Century terminology).
😆 C_G - I must say you look very good for your age!
Thanks footflaps, I was starting to feel a bit guilty on my way to work this morning... but you can't decide these things after just a couple of hours. Plus if you put all your eggs in one basket, the chicken might not even hatch.
I was discussing dating, with a friend last night, as I may have to [i]consider[/i] trying all that nonsense again, some time soon.
I can't help but feel slightly depressed though when I read that people multiple date.
I couldn't be doing with all that, and wouldn't be impressed with a woman who was seeing more than one bloke during a [i]process of elimination[/i].
Is this what the dating game is in the age of the internets dating sites, 2011 ?.
I don't think I could do it - either actually doing multiple dates myself or being happy that someone I was seeing was whittling down their options...
And anyway, isn't the fun of dating having a head full of nonsense about your new date? How can you do that with multiple people?
Not that I'm an expert, of course, still trying to pluck up the courage to get back into it after all the change of last year...
Rachel
What do you mean by a head full of nonsense?
Having to remember loads of things helps to bring a little clarity to my otherwise nonsensical mind. 😆
As in constantly thinking about this new person, where you want to go next, when you'll next see them - that type of thing.
If you're reducing it down to simply boob size, hair colour etc, it all seems bit pointless. Surely you are excited by who you meet? If not, don't meet them.
Rachel
TSY, Whatever works for you. If you need to keep on your toes while trying to find someone, then thats your call and if eveyrone is happy with it, then thats fine.
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But I am going to have to do something this year, and as I don't really meet many women in a normal working day, I was considering the web dating thing.
What would happen if you saw Mondays date when you were out on Thursday with date number 2 ?.
Anyway, I'm not critisizing others, this thread has just been a bit of a heads-up for me.
Luminous - went through that whole worry... don't **** on your own back door and all that... so pick girls that are on different points of the compass. Go to them.
Thing is, internet dating is putting yourself in the shop window, or on the showroom forecourt, if you like. Women make enquiries and some want to go for a test drive. They might not ultimately make a purchase. Do you tell other prospective customers they can't have a go because someone else is mulling over the car, or do you let someone else take it out for a spin?
At the same time you're also browsing the shops yourself... it quickly gets complicated.
My concern is that I'm starting to enjoy the early part of dating a little too much, and I'm becoming increasingly fussy... 'Stupid reasons you've split up with someone' has got bored Friday afternoon thread written all over it.
TSY.
I see your point.
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Cheers
Cool. I guess the thing to add is that you have to gauge how serious the other person is... if they're clearly thinking long term and you're not... find the stupid reason to end it. 😀
Another question...when is an appropriate time to find out if the other person is multiple dating? Are we talking after 3,6 dates, or what?
For me... if you're moving into the 4th date and still logging on, messaging, seeing others you're being naughty.
There was an article somehwere written by a psychologist about how long it takes to gauge whether there is relationship potential... 3 dates was there answer.
Date 1 is looking for inital spark / chemistry / axe murdering potential. By date 3 politcal views etc should be covered. If it goes to date 4 (IMO) you're kind of in a relationship.
Serious? well, I'm on date number 4 tomorrow...we've done politics and even religion.
The site I'm on shows when someone you've messaged last logged on though which could be a bit distressing if its still happening after tomorrow, right? 😕
Have you... 😉 ya know? That can add a different angle.
If you're concerned, bothered... have it out with them... ask them?
TBH I think you can tell unless you / they are a player! 8)
TSY...I'm a "lady"!!
Just want to know if they're worth bothering with before I might find out I'm wasting my time, is all...
Surely, not my field of expertise, if one is multiple dating then you should go an the same date with all datees, to gather intel in the same circumstances and have some comparable data.
Wear the same clothes, collect at the same time, buy the same drinks, make the same moves, otherwise it's just not a valid comparison.
(I don't mean all at the same time, although that would obviously be much more efficient)
*checks diary* Only on 2nd date with tomorrows *closes diary*
Things is everyone's different, and from chatting with a lot of women now, it seems I'm different to many other internet daters.
But, if you've been on a few dates with someone, there's suggestions about things becoming more serious and there still logging on all the time... have it out with them! Ask them WTF?!
"If she can't swim, water related activities are a no no."
My wife can swim and says water related activities are a no no
FunkyDunc - that's Golden.
Think I need to grow me some nuts and get brave... 😯
newgal - if he is suggesting things get more serious / committed and is still logging on... definitely have it out with him.
If it's you suggesting it.. still have it out with him. You don't need someone who's playing games... plenty more fish and all that! 😆
Hmmm ... doesn't instinct tell you after the first date whether they are worth persuing?
Serious question btw.
C_G - IMO it tells you the opposite, if they're definitely not worth persuing!
+1 for TSY. I'm able to tell if I definitely DON'T want to see someone again, but there are some good actors out there who can tell you lots of what you want to hear initially...
Well, all I can say is thank goodness I don't do that stuff any more. I hated it!
That's because you never went on a date with me......
TSY - lol 😀
Trust me, when you're my age and ride bikes, most blokes just think you're downright weird. 🙄
(I don't mean all at the same time, although that would obviously be much more efficient)
And if things go particularly well...... 😉