Also we've provisionally booked something 🙂
Not very far in the future, a couple of nights somewhere, just the two of us. It's somewhere that does big weddings but have said they've done a few for just the couple and can be witnesses and arrange everything. It sounds ideal, just getting details.
We gave the family two weeks' notice of our wedding.
In Kefalonia. They were invited.
So we did it 😁 Let a few close family and friends know that we were planning something but didn’t tell them when or where. Monday we headed to Portavadie, hired a cottage for 2 nights and got married by a standing stone. Just us, registrar and 2 staff who agreed to be witnesses. Perfect 🙂
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too many people at my wedding, happily i got divorced on my own
There was us two, my best mate and his girlfriend at ours in a local registry office. After the service we rang our respective parents then told our mates when we went out that night. My mam was a bit teary but that was all. My wifes parents ran away to do it days after the mil had her 21st in 1955 so they couldn't complain.
We really didn't want a fuss or to invite relatives we had nothing in common with.
Grand day out really.
In 1989 I was working in Nassau the future Mrstaxi was out there with me, just before we came home we thought ####it lets get married. My employer did wedding packages and arranged it all for free. Just a couple of friends, it was perfect. I don't look anything like this now but mrstaxi does. At least to me anyway 😍😍
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thegeneralist
Gotta say this does sound pretty selfish.
It isn't. Other people wanting you to have a big do is selfish of them. IMO.
Marriage is a very personal thing and to be taken seriously.
The only opinion that matters are those of the 2 participants.
Well i’m Quiet enjoying reading all the different ways everyone has got married. I have only recently proposed to the better half in Finale Ligure. Either of us are bothered by a big wedding but the fun and games is she has a very large family (parents have over 15 brothers and sisters - Irish). So the idea of eloping is sounding like a good idea lol
Yep we went to Corrie fee and got we'd there, only the second wedding to be done there. Two pals and the dog. Then reception in the climbers bar of the glen clova hotel.
Only person that got upset was the mil and I really don't care so win all round.
Not interested in spectators at all so may be planning states next year. Just us.
Most people I know seem to have weird regrets about the actual event. And most of the weddings I've attended are nauseating.
MTB+WED+MOAB+VEGAS
When I was 21 (!) I went to Panama to work and met my future wife. After one year we went to the equivalent of the registry office in Panama and got married... I didn't tell anybody back home for weeks.
Luckily 15 years, 3 kids and 4 countries later, seems to be going well!
Congratulations Phil556 !!
And yes Epicyclo - other people's expectations are the selfish part, if you wanna leg it to Gretna then that's your right to choose.
We were going to as we both hate being centre of attention and the massive waste of money that weddings are, but family on both sides expressed their disappointment. We still went to Gretna Green to keep the price reasonable as part of a package deal and had a nice time in the end, but still kinda wished we went up by ourselves for the weekend instead. The packaged photographer was absolute shite though, we do regret not hiring a proper one.
I’m hoping my daughter decides on this approach.
Me too, after seeing her reaction driving past a rather gorgeous marquee on the banks of the Wharfe at Bolton Abbey the other day... 🙂
Always worrying when venues don't put any pricing information on their website.
edhornby
And yes Epicyclo – other people’s expectations are the selfish part, if you wanna leg it to Gretna then that’s your right to choose.
I must admit I'm not a fan of big weddings or rituals.
As far as I'm concerned it's simply about making a promise to someone and putting it on record to protect their and subsequent children's rights.
Having a big to do about it isn't going to make that promise any better, you either really mean a promise, or you don't. If it's the latter, don't make the promise.
Registry office job for us, told folk & family after. Seems to have worked out pretty well and that was a long time ago.
Just as a counterpoint, we had a typical church wedding in her lovely local chapel (for the building, neither of us are religious) with around 100 guests. Fabulous day and wouldn't hesitate to do it again! We already were on our second house between us, and we paid for most of it (her father insisted on paying for the reception, mainly out of relief for finally getting round to it after 13 years together!)